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Going through tragedy

Hi everyone,
Thanks for all of your thoughts and prayers during the most difficult time of my life.  Landens funeral is tomorrow and I know it will be the hardest thing I will ever have to do in my life.  There is a stone in my chest where my heart used to be.  Just when I think I cant cry anymore something will be said or I think of what we would be doing now if he was still with us and I cry again.  I woke up crying this morning.  I have resisted the big tempatation of taking a pill because I know the pain will still be there when the pill is gone.  Too bad there isnt a  pill to bring him back to me.
Thanks again for all of your kindness I dont know what I would have done with out the support from everyone.  My husband is supportive but he keeps telling me I have 4 other grandkids but they are step grandkids, it is not the same.  I dont know if people understand that or not.
I have not used and I am fighting each and every moment not too.

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Keep on fighting. I lost my father on March 27. Now my sister is going into Thomas Jefferson Hospital Wednesday morning for brain surgery for and anueurism. And I reveived a call from my 18 year old daugter tonight who is 6 months pregnant that they think her baby has a club foot and will need a cast when she is born.........Sometimes I wonder if it could be layed on any thicker. Hang in there hon. Will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.  I have been thru so much this past month as well but you said it well , the pain will still be there when the pill is gone. So don't even think about that as an option to help you get thru this. Turn to family for help and support to get thru this. And stay on this forum to help you get thru this. You have so much support right here. We will be here for you whenever you need us. You have no support from the pills......
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502050 tn?1243602535
Keepin you and yours in prayer, May God bless and calm you.
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Again, I am so very sorry .There will be many tough days to come. Please stay strong and remember your daughter is going to need you more than ever. That pill will not change anything or even numb this pain. It will just cause more. You are in my prayers . I am very proud of you for resisting from turning to drugs. That is a great feat..especially in this horrible and sad time. Stay strong for your baby girl...The above mentioned book is a wonderful book. There is no rhyme nor reason to why these things happen to anybody and it hurtsl like h#ll. You will get through, I am glad your husband is support for you. Lean on all your friends and family. Often people do not know what to say, but want to be there as best they can to comfort you and your family..God Bless you and yours..Lisa
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We lost an infant after fighting for his life for several months......I can feel that pain in your post from yesterday and today - I do understand what you are going through and you have all of the sympathy and best thoughts that I can muster for you.....there is a great group called The Compassionate Friends (should be in phone book) that works with siblings that have lost a brother/sister - or entire families in that position. I would also recommend a book called "When Bad Things Happen To Good People" for any of the family to read.........and cry if you need to - nothing wrong with that - and huge congratulations for resisting the pill......thats only temporary at best - - - -you will be in thought and prayer
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My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Good for you for not using.
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You are totally in my prayers and thoughts. I wish you all the strength in the world for tomorrow! Take care.
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I know this grief is hard to bear...loss is so hurtful..especially a little one...taking a pill will not change your loss...and after the high is gone u will feel really bad about using and the grief will still be there,,,it will take time....it will feel better to you with time...hugs
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My heart breaks for you and your family, You will all be in my prayers..
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I am so proud of you for not using. I am so sorry for your loss and I understand what you mean about it not being the same. I am keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Again, I am so sorry for your loss.
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