Hard times

[WODAgirl]

So, I found out last Wednesday that my oldest daughter was the victim of an Internet predator. It's probably the worst thing I've ever dealt with. Now that the adrenaline rush of getting stuff in action has worn off, and reality and depression are taking over, I'm finding it hard not to want to get numb. :(. Positive thoughts and or prayers or meditations or whatever your thing is....this family needs it, and it would be greatly appreciated.
J

[meegWpaw]

Wgirl just want you to know you have my care and support.  i will send you strength and forbearance--Meegan

[dominosarah]

I hope they find the person who is doing this and throw away the key.  As for you, you need to be there for your daughter both in mind and body.  There isnt a drug in the world that numbs you when something happens to your child,  Dont waste anymore time thinking about pills, you have more important things to worry about.

[Ballgame]

What do you mean Internet predator? Guess I'm lost. Hope she is ok. I have 2 young girls and this scares me

[clean_in_ks]

Glad to hear from you, WODAgirl..!!!  Glad you are still clean, too!

Each and every trial we go thru clean....is HARD....our brains do this "automatic return motion" to what we once used to do to cope.

It's uncomfortable, to put it mildly, but it is making you STRONGER...and you are building a foundation that will be your rock~

Prayers are yours.....don't use....even if your b*tt falls off.....okay?  lol

[VICourageous]

Oh, Girl this is just terrible. I could just feel how you all feeling right now. I know the feeling of wanting "Revenge". Just Keep your head straight and deal with the police. Running to ANY Substances well not make it better.. .You do need to be strong and clear headed for You and Your Family right now.
My Prayer go out to you All in such a awful time.
vickie

[WODAgirl]

I had an appointment for her to get counseling the next day. We are working with police. I'm just so confused.

[weaver71]

I can only imagine, my kids are my life. I don't know what I would do honestly. I would likely chant my detox mantra, 'There is no problem so big that drugs Can't make it worse. Sending your family thoughts and prayers.

[ariley13]

What an awful situation. I will keep you and your family in my prayers/meditations. Please  keep focusing on you and your recovery as well as your family during this stressful time. Also, reach out when you need to. You don't have to go through this alone.

[nursegirl6572]

Oh my, I'm so sorry!  Is our daughter okay?  Was she actually assaulted?  If so, what have the police said, was the person caught?

I can't even imagine the emotions you're dealing with, just remember that what you're feeling is a NORMAL reaction, normal emotions.  I think a lot of times, an addict will just assume that everything they feel is just a lack of coping, when in reality, anyone in their situation would feel the same way, and would also struggle to deal with it.  You had numbed yourself for so long that normal reactions and emotions are so much  more intense.

Lean on your friends and family for support, and seek the help of a professional for your daughter, and you if you need to.  I'm a strong believer of seeking out professional help.  It's amazing how much a therapist can help you work through emotions and give you tools to cope.  Going as a family is a great idea too, on top of individual counseling.  There's no easy way to get through something like this.  You're going to have to allow your emotions to run their course, and be strong and supportive of your daughter.  

And remember that using isn't the answer...it won't take away what happened, and it's actually very important that you allow yourself to feel those emotions, as uncomfy and awful as they may be.  This is a life event that will actually help teach you ways to cope that doesn't involve using.  Your daughter needs you, not a numb you.  I'm sure it's very very hard, but so far, you've done the right thing and reached out for help instead of reaching for something to numb you.  Good job!

I'm just so sorry you have to go through this.  You and your daughter are in my thoughts.