How can you tell if someone is on drugs?

[kajunfriend]

If someone is on drugs what how can you tell?  What does dialted eyes mean? I think the drug being used is oxymoxin? Not sure if I am spelling correctly. Heard the name metioned, I think this might be the drug a friend is using.

[skipper]

Tl1000:
welcome to the forum. let me say first off, you have my pity. ev-
en though i have been and am now addicted to opiates, it is al- ways real sad to watch someone lose a loved one to "the sultry whisper of the heroin bird!" i've been there and done it.

so...what ya' gonna do? if it was me, first thing i'ld do would
be quit pissing in her UA sample cup. you will certainly find out, real quick if that is all your worth to her. think about it...doesn't she mean more to you, than a few drops of "clean ****" in some program's UA sample cup? don't you want to be more
than that to her? if you continue supplying her with the "clean ****" she needs to stay out of jail, or in some methadone pro- gram, or what ever...well your just a "a handy little CHUMP" for her. besides there is a detectable difference between male and female urine. she will eventually get caught anyway.

if it was me, one of us would be packing up and hitting the old
road. who ever you can get out first, her or you. from the sound
of your post, this ***** isn't worthy of your urine, let alone
any love you have left for her! do her a favor and get out of the
way of her using. if i thought there was anything worth saving in
your relationship, i would encourage you to seek help for both of
you. but since she is already well into playing the games of de-
ception,(talking code words with her using friends, for christ's
sake.) i'ld say it's time for a change and a big change at that.
show some respect for yourself, and give her the boot!
keep posting and keep an angel on your shoulder
kip

[TL1000]

Hi I don't do drugs but my Love one does I have been with her for about well on june 14 it will be 4 yrs I know she is doing herion because her friend just got of rehab from a $120.00 a habit she was in rehab for 28 days and got out she was clean for a week she stated calling at 6 am to get my girlfrined to take her uptown that is there code to go get high. Now I only see her on Tuesday the day before she has to goto her meetings so that I can **** for her.  what should I do?  i ask her is she is using herion she tells me know it my friend i take her to get i don't use it and if i did I could kick it at any time. a month ago she left for 4 days to go to her grandfathers so she kicked her habit it didn't last for long she sweats all night long she takes 2-3 baths a night sometimes claiming she is not feeling good now she sleeps down stairs on the coach claimming that i am acting stupid because she nods out and walks around like a zombia and that i will never understand her life because i have never been through what she has.  i am at my wits end i don't know what to do should i leave her?  her family doesn't really care i ask for help they say i am acting crazy.  then she will tell me that when she used to do herion she wouldn't drink at work.  Can someone please help me I do love her but i can not take this any more I tell her all the time let me try and help you but she will find a way to turn it around and i end up apoligizing.  I feel so helpless because I do Love her and I can see what it is doing to her she talks about her friend doing it to me like it is the worst drug ever but I know she is **** it.  Sorry about the long post but i have no one else i can talk to this about...

[angst]

i hope you realize you never need to explain.  things here have been more expensive for me.  my daughter, izzy, has had friends over for 3days, then i went to gulfport to pick up another friend who will have stayed 3or4 days before she goes home.
i've done what i usually do.  i spend money on their entertainment, special food, and rent movies and such.  i give her money to shop.
i have to quit this, or i am going to be out of unemployment with
nothing saved.  i've looked everywhere for a job. tomorrow, i start over again with the ship yard, then the mall.  lastly, i will go to Manpower.  you show up early 6 or 7, ready to work the day.  you get paid for the day's work that day.  i have even
applied at convience stores.  i feel strongly that something will come along if i keep plodding along.  i don't know what else
to do.  i'll pray about it.  the methadone does not really hinder
my ability to find a job.  my uncle might send me something, if I
go in front of the nursing board with my lawyer and my doctor.
as it goes, "Easy does it"  "keep it simple, stupid", if i can do that i just might make it without too much hassle.  you are the angel on my shoulder.    angst

[skipper]

ava:
one junky to another- thanx for being you  and being here. i can
not, nor will i try, (i don't need to do i?) to explain it!!

keep an angel on your shoulder
kip

[angst]

i was beginning to feel concern for you.  i thought you said you
would be back by the 1st of June.  Anyway, i am so glad you are
back.
before mother, daddy, and my grandparents died, we were very
disfunctional.  after daddy died, momma got sick.  i actually
brought her to my home.  i always had the  woman on a pedistel (sic).  it has taken years to feel as good as she was.  that had
a lot to do with od'ing the first and only time.  i still talk
about her like an angel.  she was very giving toward the end of her life.  it was nice to live on the gulf coast when others live in mid to north MS.  
not a lot of new things happening with me.  tomorrow is job hunting day.  i have been having kids with me from 4 to 5 days a week.  i've told their mothers that i'm on methadone.  i explain how i got to where i am, and the mothers accept me and continue sending their children to me.
i hope some distance between you all will bring some good will.  you can send some of your prose.
you have been greatly missed.  Good luck and Blessings,  Ava

PS  Tell IR hello for me.

[skipper]

hey everyone:
i've been back since sunday afternoon. i trust no one worried a-
bout my abcense. had a very unhappy visit to my parents. like so
many addicts, i come from a very disfunctional family. i do not
blame my addiction on my difunctional family. i just wanted to
make sure no one thought i did.

my father's mental and emotional health seems to be slipping away at ever faster rates! he is is in a nursing home where he
recieves no more care than the law demands...the rest of my fam-
ily (mother & 2 sisters)...well i just can't come up with any-
thing positive to say at this point. when my wife and i visit my
family, we've always gotten in and out real fast. my 2 older sis-
ters seem to "regress" to their childhood roles of fighting, fus-
sing, screaming and hollering. my mother has a whole library of
personal agendas, etc.

i used to check out the medicine cabnet, and then find a nice
safe, out of the way spot to watch everyone else carry on. i've
never been proud nor ashamed of my family...just amazed at what
a ******* trip they can be...

now that my drug use is somewhat more under control, i don't have
the option of being the silent and invisable entity i used to be.
so...getting in and getting out is the only plan that seems to
work at all.

well this last weekend it was just my wife, my mother, and me. my
mother was in unusually top, hateful form. and it was non-stop!
what can i say??? i just didn't have enough dope...the only
healthy thing i did was cut our visit short, and give everyone,
my wife, my mother and myself the sanity (and safety) that phys-
ical space affords.

i want so badly for things to be different...but i guess if this
is going to happen, it will happen on it's own time table, not
mine!!

as selfish as this sounds, i seem to get along best with my family when they are at least several hours away. at least i have
a fairly good relationship with my mother in law.

anyhow it's good to b e back home, back to work, and back to
walking the dog! sorry i took so long to post... i guess i had
a lot ofn wounds to lick

keep an angel on your shoulder
kip