Hubby on oxy

[KoalaMommy]

I posted here almost a year ago.  My husband was home detoxing from oxy and I thought it was going to be all over but he broke on day 7 and has been on them ever since.  He swears he has legitmate pain from a back injury 3 years ago.  I'm reaching the end of my rope.  It's a perfectly predictable cycle.  He gets a script filled, figures he has 8 "spares" because he can fill another 4 days early, takes those 8 within the first 4-5 days and is super nice and helpful.  Then the fighting begins because I hide his pills and dose them out, so he fights for more and verbally abuses me, whines, cries, etc.  Then he ends up running out early and goes through w/d's, almost quits his job, walks out early from his job, fails to go in, lays in a shivering heap on the floor, puking and pooping.  Then he just HAS to buy some on the street or he'll quit his job, etc... whatever will make me give in.  I've threatened that he's out if he buys more (he spent $1500 on them in the last 4 weeks) but he gets cruel and desperate and tells me he doesn't care, he'll see our daughter sometimes, and starts packing his bags - I cry and say go buy them.  I'm a Christian woman who doesn't believe in divorce and I love my husband but I'm slipping.  I can't do this rollercoaster anymore and I feel like I'm failing him because I give in when he gets hateful enough or uses the right threats.  Please, someone help me.  Someone tell me what I can do or what his options are to get off.  He's on a prescribed dose of 80mg/day but he often takes 120 or 160.  
Totally desperate,
KM

[scaredmommie]

you are deff in my prayers. you have to stop being so nice and stop listening to what he says, i was the same way toward my hubby i didnt mean any of what i said i was just doing whatever it took to get my pills, but with himit didnt work. i know you love him so much and dont wanna see him hurting, but what if he takes 1 to many. you have to get a little bit of metal in your heart when it comes to him and the pills, we all have said when we where using im in sooomuch pain i need them, or it hurts to bad i have to take and extra, and stuff along those lines, but in reality its the addiction talking, there really is no "real" pain, i bet he is doing great when he first takes it but we all know it takes a good 20 to 30 mins to start working, by my second day of not using i felt the real pain of my back injury and it was that bad at all, i mean dont get me wrong it hurt, but my brain made it 1000% worse so i could feed my brain the pills. do you get what im trying to tell you. but lpease dont think im trying to be mean but you need to stand up for yourself, you are just like me i bet very sweet and good hearted and dont like seeing him hurt so after a little begging you give in but please get some metal in your heart towards the pills cause what if he takes 1 to many. im heavaly praying for you.

luv
<3 chrissy

[KoalaMommy]

Thank you for your replies.   I don't know what I'm going to do.  Hubby swears that this month it'll be different.  (Heard that 40 times before.)  But he really swears to stick to the prescibed dose.  I'm going along again, feeling like I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop.  We're only 6 days into the new rx and today starts the big test for him.  There are no "spares" left and he HAS to stick to 2/day or run out early.  Keep us in your prayers, please?

[scaredmommie]

im sorry to hear of what your going through, do what my hubby did to me, if you have a video camera of video on you phone, when he is acting like a fool tape him, then on the days he is acting "nice" show him what he is doing to you when he takes to much and wont let you control them, to make sure he has enough so he aint hurting, thats what my hubby did to me 2 weeks ago he did it so he could control them for me, but guess what i hated what i saw (i acted the same way your hubby is acting) and i got clean, i didnt want to be like that towards someone i love, it was the pills evil ways that where making me do it, so the next day i got my info about sub and then the following started the sub now i have been 2 weeks clean and my relationship is getting better and better. i wish you all the luck and you are in my prayers.

<3 chrissy

[road2recovery]

I agree with joann...you have to think of you and your child right now...Because he is not..I am so sorry you have to go through this..Has he ever tried to get on the forum and read ...We are here to help you...I love my family, and if i had not decided to quit on my own, i know that if my hubby left me with my children, i would have stopped...Just maybe he needs that wake up call...sounds like you have tried everything already!!
God bless you and your family right now..
r2r

[joann1975]

Honey...I'm sorry to hear what you are going through. It sounds like he is going to have to want the help....and sadly nobody can force an addict to want it. ( i'm the addict in my marriage so i know) Have you considered al-anon? I know your not for divorce...however separation is different...and your daughter is going to think this is normal acceptable behavior. Our children learn by example (that's my opinion). Keep posting...we are here to support you.

Maybe you can get him to look at this forum and see that life is good clean...maybe that could give him some hope!

Please keep talking to us....we are here for you!

JoAnn