Intervention Info????

[kittie335]

Can anyone give me any info on how to go about an intervention. My brother is killing himself with this dam methadone and fentanyl. No one else in my family wants to help me they are all either fed up or in denial. Have been researching it a bit I know I need to have rehab info and everything ready for him if he agrees to it. Any help would be great im not going to watch him die.

[kittie335]

yes that is true we can't just stop my aunt as he does get them elsewhere when she runs out, I have seriously considered narcing her out but where would that get me ...the whole family would hate me then too. also my grandma is older and not so well either and for us to all confront her could end badly as well. I too had some serious addictions with cocaine valium oxy's and antidepressants and my aunt fed them to me like candy. She even came and waved a baggy in front of me after I quit. All she sees is the mighty dollar but I have 3 children and something to live for. I have been clean almost 2 years now he really has nothing in his life to want to change for. I agree about needing to step back that is what my dad has done he refuses to watch him die just  not sure I have it in me .

[whitie]

last summer one of my best friends needed a ride home from the bar and was staying at my house that night. I was maxed out, and turned into a major crank. my bro said, you need to back off on those pills I see you popping all the time,dude.......I went nuts.  He said he never seen me that bad ever!!

I never forgot that, even though I did nothing at that time about it, but I knew then ,deep down that I had lost control........

today he knows what I am going through, and made a comment the other day when I was working for over 10 hrs at my moms house........"he said, you would have never done that back then"

[122 Tactical Fighter Group]

You cant JUST stop the Aunt - - he will look for patches and pills elsewhere and he will find them.......................This truly needs everyone in the loop, as Kleen says......

[whitie]

I guess I am old fashioned and I know talk is cheap. but the last person I heard of chewing them damn things is dead. sounds to me like its time to confront gramma,the aunt and the uncle. yeah, he is going go nuts......he apparently has no clue how bad he is. you have no other options short of narcing them out and putting a REAL end once and for all.


sooner or later hes probably going to get busted or they are. they will find out where they came from if something happens to him, thats for sure. maybe that will wake them up !!!!!

so what does the aunt think? do they have any clue about what they have done?

[IBKleen]

They should be testing him at the clinic.

Harsh to say, but shame on your aunt. You will not get this intervention done properly without the help of EVERYONE in the family.

I am sorry hun but the point may come where you have to step back. As I said earlier, you can't help someone who won't help themselves. I know this must be killing you but you have to worry about yourself as well.

[kittie335]

the patches he buys from my aunt for gods sakes. her hubby is prescribed them for back problems and they always sell there pills for extra money, She is killing her own nephew!!!!! He is 32 years old and he is very far gone can't even speak properly he drools all over and passes out standing up. He smells horrible like he is rotting from the inside out. I have read all the info on the patches and the methadone he gets from the clinic. I don't know how they keep giving it to him when he is on other stuff aren't you supposed to be clean to get your methadone?

[whitie]

print out some info on the patches, wont be hard to find. start collect data. tell pops and his bro you have one simple mission to grandmas house we go !!!!!!


where is he getting his supply?
how old is he?

the problem is he far out, and gone right now.

tell us how he got these,please

[IBKleen]

My heart is breaking for you hun but you can't help someone who won't help themselves.

Even an intervention will only be a wake up call but unless everyone participates...friends and family...then there is no use.

He is going to need to hit HIS bottom in order to get help.

[kittie335]

yes i know it is a bad combination. He is chewing the patches constantly plus he has high blood pressure and is on meds for that. He is also eating up 6 and 7 wake ups at a time trying to keep himself awake. He is falling asleep at work drooling alot and is about to lose his job. I think the end is very near and I'm so scared for him. My other brother and my dad both said they are just done with it they work with him as well and can;t stand to talk to him and see what is happening. My dad said he smells like he is rotting. My grandma lives with him and she is the one we really need to cut him off but she believes all of his lies and won;t listen to us.

[IBKleen]

Hi,

An intervention should always be done with the help of a professional. In order words, the family should all be there but you need someone who can be objective and it is usually a psychologist/psychiatrist. If you contact a few rehabs in your area they may have someone on staff who actually does the procedure or they may be able to steer you in the right direction.

Interventions are difficult on the family as well as the person you are doing it on. Expect him to fight you every step of the way. But with a professional involved they can guide you and your family.

Best of luck and let us know how you make out.

[Allicat0117]

IT took our family 2 yrs to get my dad to agree to rehab. He has to want to get better, and even then he will still be pissed while he is on the way and the first couple of weeks he is there. Dont give up!

[betterdays01]

An intervention at this point without the help of your brothers loved ones would be hard.  The first you need is everyone to be on the same page as you.  Anybody who cared for your brother needs to be there to support.  Your brother will be one angry person when this all goes down.  I will never forget the intervention we did with my sister.  She called everyone of us every name possible, true hate that day.  You can hire a proffesional and I would suggest that first.  Your brother needs your help, so please follow through and get him the help he needs.  In the long run he will thank you for it.  Dont take anything he says personally.  Good luck!

[whitie]

you got a very serious problem going on. those patches by themselves have killed people. heck the other day I seen some law firm, trying to hunt down people that have died from fentanyl.  
  
a while back a young man O D'd from the same mix


I mixed methadone and norcos........ I know why hes doing it.


does got any close bros that care?

perhaps you can confront him and explain some realities for now?