Over the past year, I've noticed some weird behaviors with my sister. she is almost 30 years old, married and has three children. She has had a past involving drug usage and her husband has always had a problem. Needless to say, her husband is NOT a favorite of the family. Anyway, about a year ago, I noticed while having conversations with my sister, that she would just sort of "dissapear" while we were speaking ( this was on the phone). Then, when she was visiting, she would, in mid sentence, just sort of slowly stop talking... her eyes would close, her mouth would hang open, and she would just sort of freeze like that for a few seconds. I mentioned to our mother that I thought she was on something and when mentioned to my sister, she came up with this elaborate story about a brain tumor that makes her have these "ticks". Not very surprisingly, nothing else came of this "tumor".
She is ALWAYS sick. I can't remember when I've seen her in the past year that she doesn't have some sort of cold that she says is her allergies. My mother works at a doctors office, and my sister has been there and has been told that she has the flu etc... is that all it is, or is it really a side effect of some type of drug? Surely if she's using anything her immune system would not be quite up to par? I don't know much about drugs and their effects.. I haven't ever been around anyone using anything other than drinking or marijauna or pills ( my sister).
I've been reading about the signs, and some definetly describe her to a T, where others don't sound anything like her. She takes a lot of care about her appearance ( even if it doesn't always work as well as she thinks it does:) ), she doesn't steal, has no trouble holding her job, which she has had for a very long time, doesn't get moody or irritable ( but I'm not around her very often, either), makes future plans..... but on the other end, slurred speech, seeming to "fall asleep" during speaking, rambling on and talking excessively, moments of alternating ups and downs... one minute she'll be gabbing a hundrend miles a minute and power cleaning my house, then she'll be down and looking like she's only half awake. Borrowing money ( but has an excuse since her husband can't hold a job and they need help with bills). She seems to have no idea that she is doing any of these things, coming to birthday parties and family gatherings acting like she is compleatly normal, when it is VERY obvious that something is not right wiht her.
My husband owns his own buisness and one of his recent employees is a friend of my sisters husband. Apparently they were discussing this and the friend said that they were using herione and have been for a very long time. My husband said not to mention this to my mother because it would get back and they would know who said something... he doesn't want drama started with his employee. However, this is my sister! How can I sit and do nothing? I'm going to have to figure out a way to approach this, with either my sister or my mother... she has children that she puts in danger everytime she puts them in a vehicle, if she is really using... these are my nephews! What if something happens to her or worse, her children, because of this and I did nothing?
I don't want to do anything until I've had some opinions on wether or not anyone thinks this is heroine use.. I definetly don't want to get everyone stressed and worried if this isn't what's going on. I'm open to any opinions and/or suggestions on if this is heroine usage, and if so how to go about approaching the subject and to whom. My sister? My mother? I'm just so confused and sick to my stomach. I'm actually feeling nausous and teary eyed just thinking there is even a possibility. I just feel that if there is that there is nothing I can do.
Thank you for any opinions or suggestions,