Is there ANYTHING I can do?

[Newchallenges]

I just found out my stepson is shooting heroin. He is a very very young 17. My husband is an emotional cripple. He told me on Sunday that he was going to contact  son's probation officer who is involved because of alcohol possession last summer. He (husband) left one message for the po Monday and then took off to a friends for 24 hours. When he got home today, he said he was going to try  the po again but did not. My son leaves his needles and spoons just sitting in his room. He denies a problem but admits using. He is going to OD! He has a low IQ in the first place and doesn't pay attention to anything he is doing. He trusts everyone unless they contradict his best friend. I have been telling my husband that he needs to do something for years but he does nothing but go to court and get son out of everything. Every bedroom in the house has to be locked. I hate my spineless husband and my life! I can't do anything because I am not a legal guardian.

[Andie015]

I think you are making the right decision. This family screams dysfunction and your best bet is to cut ties. I don't mean to sound uncaring to the relationship you have with your husband but now is the time to focus on your happiness not problem after problem....

[Newchallenges]

Thank you for your feedback . The best friend is the one who introduced him to this or was there when he started. That kid is very scary. Son's mom is a paranoid schizophrenic alcoholic and is threatening to me. I don't think I can stay married but I need to line my financial ducks up.

[overopiates]

Andie is right.u need to figure out what u want to do.If ur unhappy n ur marriage get out.U need to tell ur husband his son needs long term rehab.his p.o. could help u find him a place if need be.calling to snitch on his son but not being a proactive parent is pointless his son is just gonna end up n jail that way.as for his best friend.if he is using that boy needs time away from him.if he isnt that is a great angle as u can talk2him cause ur step son listens to him.

[Andie015]

This is really tough and I feel for you. I guess first you have to decide in what direction you want to take your marriage.  If you really feel threatened by him or you are just miserable you have to decide what's best for you. That being said....if you want to help the only thing you can do is get through to his father...or his mother maybe?  The fact is you don't have any control of this child. What he needs is rehab and to be removed from all negative influences in his life..he is still young and NOT a lost cause...it's just up to his parents to deal with it...if they won't you have to do what is best for you and your sanity and safety.  Good luck...keep us posted.