She wioll need to get help one day cos she will crash and burn. She is hooked on dopamine release is sounds like. Shopping, smoking, gambling, sex, alcohol and drugs,can all become problems for someone who has an addictive personality
I am sorry you had to experience this and go thru the pain addiction inflicts on all close to them...but she will have to reach her bottom..and reach out for help
good luck to u qand moving forward is all u can do now
You are not responsible for your wife's addiction, and you are certainly not responsible for her recovery. All of that is entirely up to her. You did the right thing by asking her to leave and turning your attention to repairing your own life - and finances. There is not one darn thing you can say or do to an active addict to change her behavior. Please don't pack your bags for that guilt trip.
Vicodin is not for chronic fatigue... unless I have been missing something....
I am so sorry to hear that. Even though she is a registered nurse addiction is still possible. My mother works in hospitals and told me that ANYBODY can get addicted to medications...she know's doctors and nurses with addictions. It sounds like your wife doesn't realise her behaviours even though you do see them.
I myself was addicted to codine painkillers and whenever someone questioned me about them i would retaliate and become defensive and really be in denial i guess.
There are most definitely more ways of stress relief than gambling. Though she may not feel that way. Perhaps she is depressed?
Don't blame yourself, by the sounds of it you have approached her many times in many different ways and in the end it is up to her to realise her destructive behaviour. I do hope in time that she see's what really is happening and gets some help. Perhaps get some counseling for yourself? or if she would agree to come along to counseling with you and talking about things?
All the best of luck to you.
Sorry for you marriage ending, but it sounds that she was more interested in the fun of the drug and gambling then the marriage. Did you ever go to the Doctor with her to discuss the problems her actions were having on your marriage? Did you know about these issues before you were married? Being a registered nurse, she is taking lives into her hands high and that is a very scary. But if she left without even the thought of quitting then I don't think you should blame yourself. Try to move on with your life and know that you did what you could to help her. Does she have family close to her that you can contact about the addiction. My sister was addicted to Meth for a few years, hit rock bottom last year and finally got into rehab and is getting her life back together. Good luck to ya.
god bless you,
debbie