Meetings?

[Weney3777]

I've gone to 4 meetings in the last three days, and I don't think they're for me. I love my wine, now and then, and every meeting says alcohol is a drug and to obstain from it. I'm also prescribed xanax and a couple others...taking klonopin to help with w/ds. I REALLY want to stay off the tabs, so, I guess, if I feel the urgent need to take some in the future(went 15 days till Friday), maybe I will go, just to get away from everyone I know because they all use. It's hard when you're quitting and you live with someone who takes them. Also, all my friends are on them and I don't know anyone else clean, except you guys. So, I guess I will just stay on this site and keep reading and posting as much as I can. Thank you for your support.

[ZJILLIAN]

Stay with the meetings! Shop around for ones you like. I even ended up staying with a meeting for Vietnam Vets! I was the only woman but I totally identified with what they said better than some other meetings. Do get a sponsor. It sounds like you are very alone with this in the center of a circle of friends who use. This is doomed without support. Start with meetings. At least you know that everyone there can identify with your goal and won't work against it.

[Weney3777]

I appreciate your points of view and advice. I know I have a lot on my mind right now, and the meetings really do get me away from all of it. I might continue giving them a try; can't hurt. All I know is that I don't want to feel the way I did on day 15 last time and be alone. As you know, I'm pretty much doing this alone, otherwise. From what I gather, sarah, aftercare is what? meetings?

[slapperman]

-when going to meetings both NA & AA: go early stay late, sit in the front and discuss this with someone there with some serious sober time

-don't use and go to meetings

-get and use a sponsor

-get a home group, that's a group you feel comfortable with

-keep going if possible 90 m in 90 days

-use the phone

its free and its people just like us looking to help people just like us

lots of love and godbless

slapper aka joe

******AVOID PEOPLE, PLACES, AND THINGS YOU USED WITH OR AT********

Suggestions on the back of your meeting directory and above the the phone numbers to call when in need

This will help a lot and think about it, it make sense

[Astray]

The stats may well say that that someone addicted to one thing may be more likely to be vulnerable to others but I'm sure thats not always the case. Personnally, I've never had a problem with alcohol, or indeed anything other than opiates. Though, in the case of alcohol, that might be because if I drink even a moderate amount I tend to get ghastly hangovers!

I'd say you know yourself fairly well and if you don't think you have a problem with the odd glass of wine you probably don't, giving up everything thats vaguely enjoyable could make giving up the the thing you are addicted to even harder.

Outside the home your social situation will definately be making things harder, friends using is a very risky environment. This may sound daft but perhaps joining some clubs doing almost any random activity might help, you could get out of that environment and meet some new people who are clean.

Having the drugs at home though, thats really hard. If you can't persuade him to give up for his sake can he give up for you? If I had access to the pills at home I know I'd be unable give up - I'd crack sooner or later and just take them. The only thing I can think of is if he locks them in a safe or something so you can't get them in a moment of weakness.

Take of yourself and do what works for you.

[dominosarah]

It is very common to use another substance.  I am both an alcoholic and addict.   I hope you can find a place that you are comfortable with.  It took a few meetings for me to find the right one also.  Aftercare will be very important for you since you are living with someone who uses too.  Takes alot of strength and determination to do that.  Take care of yourself.....Keep posting          sara

[worried878]

It is true...alcohol can get an addict in trouble and pills can get an x-alcoholic in trouble//have seen it happen...mostly x-alkies who get hurt and get a scrip for pills...and they r off into pill popper land

if u find the right meeting..u will possibly change ur mind..i went to atleast 10 and ended up in an AA group cos i liked it better than NA...I never heard anyone preach tho about not to this and not to do that...some admit they drink..it is not like people come down on them..people say what they feel  and no one judges//not at the meetings I have gone to anyway

But it is very true//a substance abuser is very likely to abuse another substance..so statiscally what u heard is very true
u r in a very bad environment to get clean...and if u can not remove urself from this environment..u will have a tougher time than most...if i couldnt get out of this environment i would spend as much time away from it as possible/when u r clean for a while and feeling strong//u may make some life changes//but right now it is day by day//sometimes hour by hour..minute by minute//u just gotta hang tight