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Methadone

Since Boyfriend 50yrs went on methadone ( 2 months now)  He doesn't want to touch. kiss or have sex with me. I need help and no where to turn.. We have been living together for 9 months ... I knew he needed help getting off drugs but I didn't know the price I would have to pay emotionally... Please help because the clinic won't help me. Thanks.
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I will tell you this ...When I got clean from opiates,my sex drive was the very first thing to come back. Sex drive is one of our strongest  biological imperatives and just one of many things that opiate use and methadone maintenance shuts completely down in almost all users/patients . Weaver said about all their is to say on this. The methadone took the sex drive away and taking away the methadone will bring the sex drive back.
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I know exactly how he feels, it didn't matter how much I wanted to have desire and feelings, I simply couldn't. I was a zombie. As the years passed I disappeared. I'm sorry your going through this. The only solution for me was to stop taking methadone. I guess this really is up to your BF. Does he plan to stay on meth maintenance for a long time? What kind of recovery is he doing, other than taking methadone? If he wants to get off the methadone and treat his disease with therapy and NA, then we can help. If he wants to stay on methadone, I'm afraid you may have to get used to the new situation. I hate to say that, but that was my experience. It took some time, but I went from not caring and unable to orgasm to wanting it all the time and couldn't control my orgasm. Then I slowly balanced out. I was on it for years though, it shouldn't be so hard on him after 75 days. If he wants to quit, a slow taper down is best and there are nutrients that can help with withdrawal symptoms. I can't stress enough the importance of aftercare. Without methadone, he will be completely opiate free and will need something to replace it with.  He will need support and some coping skills. Find out what his intentions are and lets go from there. He's early in recovery, so don't push him, just find out what his plan is. See if he would be willing to post on the forum, many of us have been in his shoes. Keep us posted.
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sorry that was a typo. My experience with this is that big changes in sex drive in a man can be not physical but more emotional. It is possible that he is too preoccupied with the changes in his drug habit to focus on sex.
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I think you posted a really good question. And I think that it would be great if the man on this forum could help you with what is going on. But speaking as someone who is heterosexual and a woman, I have been in relationships where his sex drive changes dramatically. My experience with this is sad
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I don't have any personal experience with methadone but from what I've read online, loss of sex drive is pretty common with that drug. Is counseling an option? Would you be willing to see someone who specializes in addiction and family therapy? This is what my husband and I did and it helped us a lot. Good luck.
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Methadone is an opiate basically. Yes its used when someone is recovering from opiate use but some of the side effects are the same. Decreased sex drive is one of the side effects. Just support him on his recovery. That is the best thing you can do for him. Addiction effects everyone not just the addicts. That's the sad part.
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