My adderall addicted wife

[forehead]

My wife and I separated in Oct 2007. 41/2 months later we were back together.She told me before she came back she had an addiction to adderall and had an affair with a registered sex offender fresh out of prison.6 weeks into our reconciliation she dropped me off at work, kissed me,told me she loved me and would pick me up at 2:30.She never showed up taking our only vehicle.All the signs were there, eating binges,in bed for a week, her supplier showing up,and meeting with her supplier 2 days before leaving, paying $17 on a bill I gave her $84 to pay,so on so forth.Needless to say, she moved in with her sex offender boyfriend leaving a husband and kids hurting deeply.This was on April 12th and after we tried contacting her she changed her cell# and email so we can't contact her.She cares about us and said the only reason she had the affair was the adderall addiction. Are these normal actions of an adderall addict and what should we do? From a hurting family. Thanks

[forehead]

Thanks. I needed that.I firmly believe that God will bring her back into our lives one day.He has a plan that will be on his timetable-not ours. God does want families to be together, but there must be recovery and healing first.

[newgirl2708]

Aren't you all better off without each other? Chaos is so unhealthy. While she's out of the house, take a look around at the children and yourself, are you at peace are they? Sad, but you have a chance to make things a bit better after making a mistake. Fix forward is what I always say. You say you're clean. Good for you not letting her in. You can't help someone by stepping into the darkness to get them, stay in the light and let them come to you. Fix forward.
Best Wishes,
Newgirl

[forehead]

The day before she left-the day after meeting with her supplier, she cleaned the kitchen for 3 hours and spent 2 hours cleaning the bathroom.This was after sleeping for about a week straight.Friday, she was talking a 100 miles an hour. I am a recovering cocaine addict and will not enable her or let her use. Maybe that's why she left.

[spacecadette]

Not stimulated by adderall.  Adderall may stimulate her to clean more, get in the mood to re organize all the socks in the house, or read a book twice as fast as normal... or talk a lot....but not that.  Maybe it's time for an intervention?  

[leann357]

A registered sex offender? I don't think those a normal actions from any one, addict or not! People do do things on drugs that they normally would not, of course, but.....  I am so sorry for your children, they need their mother!!! I grew up without a mom, because she died , nor because she was running the streets. It made no difference why, all I knew is she was not there!