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Need Support/Advice For Desperate Final Attempt At Sobriety

Hi guys, I know it's not often you hear a 17 year old kid wanting to get sober... And that is exactly why it has been such a struggle for me. I have been using anything I could get my hands on to cope with anxiety/depression/insomnia/add, or just to be happy and have fun. I already went through an inpatient treatment program almost two years ago, and pretty much lied my way through it. I didn't want to admit I had a problem for years, just rationalized it with what "everyone else was doing". The fact was, I was the only one my age doing lines of coke in the bathroom stall between classes, only one stealing from my family and friends just to have money to support my habit. I have amazing and supportive parents, but I have told them so many times that this time would be the last time, that they don't believe me anymore... and I don't blame them. I've went to celebrate recovery classes, but no one my age is in them. I am the drummer in our church worship team, and little do they know I've been struggling with my sobriety for so long. (I live in a rural farm town of 2000 people, and everyone drinks and parties) I moved around a lot, so that isn't in my heritage, and I don't feel like I fit in, because I don't. The fact is, I have accepted the fact that I'm the only kid my age trying to straighten my life out before my 18th birthday in a month, so I don't screw up my life forever. I haven't been sleeping at all because I've been on and off of cocaine the past few weeks, and today I finally threw all I had left away. I really need to make it happen this time. I have cried, prayed to God, and spent hours in his word the last week when I was up all night. Every time I get clean I go through an insane period of depression, anxiety and paranoia. During those few months that my brain tries to get back to being normal, my life is a living hell. And I feel like there is no hope, so I go back to drugs. I'm going to have to stop hanging out with my best friend, because all we ever do is get twacked and attempt to write a book or some other ridiculous idea we come up with.

Sorry if I'm blabbering on and on, I just have no where else to go and I'm coming down of my last line. HOPEFULLY FOREVER. If anyone can relate to me, or has any advice on what I can do, or any tips or tricks they have from getting sober, I would greatly appreciate it. I need to make it this time, I don't want to live this way anymore. I want to be happy without drugs.

Thank you so much,
Nate
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4522800 tn?1470325834
Thanks.BUT we all have our own experience that is a blessing to others. So do you! I learn from everybody every time I get into a post...Great info from ALL.
Thank
May the lord carry us in the palm of his hand..
vickie
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4958267 tn?1372585989
Like I said to someone else in a different thread listen to vvic she knows what she's talking about and is a big help.
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4522800 tn?1470325834
Hey thanks for the note. I had to stay away from ALL my pill friends now we will know if they are real friends Huh? I have one that lives in my town we met in tahoe in 1973 she is like a sister but I WILL not go around her or the others right now...I just go into here and go to my meetings. I have a new clean/sober family. I have been married for 27yrs and have a great family support too. It is sooooo important for me to divorce all those people and I can not even talk to them on phone to much because they can tweek me. Remember Pill Friends or Real Friends??? does not matter what the substance is.
May the lord carry you in his palm..
vickie
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4958267 tn?1372585989
Maybe try to fall back on some old hobbies you had before the drugs?
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4958267 tn?1372585989
Check out my Xanax/Alcohol thread I know xanax/alcohol isn't your addiction but my self and other touch base on staying away from "friends" and stuff.Try to have a daily routine of working out and stuff.
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Feeling really depressed today. Been keeping busy to try and keep my mind off it. Going to get some good sleep and try and make tomorrow a good day!

Urge to use is just ridiculous. If I'm not busy that's all I'm thinking about... not to mention the crazy dreams I've had!!

I need help with saying no to people, any suggestions? Thanks for supporting me. Honestly a lot more than my friends have. I just come on here and read some of the comments you guys make/made and it gives me that reassurance that I need. Thank you!!!
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4522800 tn?1470325834
You are going up the steps since I last posted. Good going check out the post I replyed in I need hope--frjs85 I ran by some info about are disease of addiction it is short form of all the info that is out there. Like I said besides my god, meetings and this info it helps me stay clean today...
God Bless you keep on truckin forward and do not look back...
vickie
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Oh...I'm sorry. I understand about trust issues...I'm glad you're looking around for something. Is there an AA group anywhere?  It's perfectly fine to attend AA even if the addiction is drugs. Alcohol is a drug, as well, and you'll be accepted. Just so you know...

Have you already gone the therapist/councillor route?

A good short term goal right now would be staying clean for 30 days...then surpassing a month. Although I'm sure you'll be happy to get to Monday!
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Thank you... and the longest I've went was probably around a month or so. It is hard to remember because of all the times I faked being sober. My friend doesn't have any intention of being sober, nor does anyone I know that is my age... So I'm just doing it alone! I would go back to Celebrate Recovery, but the leader of the group disclosed something I told him privately that made me lose all trust in the group, and I don't want to go back to that. But I am looking for a new one to go to.
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I was just thinking about you!  You're doing great...every day that goes by puts you further away and you'll begin to feel differently.

I wanted to ask you and maybe you already said this somewhere (too lazy to look back) Since you began using drugs, what's the longest you've been clean?

I'm sorry about your best friend...Is there any way for him to join you in getting clean?    You should think about going back to Celebrate Recovery...you need that support.
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I know it doesn't have to be this way... I started working again today and am looking for a job to do during the week to keep myself busy. Deleted everyone I used to buy from out of my phone, told my best friend that we can't hang out until I figure my **** out... and hopefully I don't fricken slip, I just feel like I have/had no control over myself and I'm trying to gain that control back.
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hey buddy,
i saw so much of myself in ur post. im so sorry to hear that and i could feel ur pain blossming out through your words.  I read your post and i just want to share my experience with you. im 25 and started drinking at 15, pot at 16, coke at 17, opiates at 24. I also grew up in a small town of a couple thousand people, and have a loving family who at the drop of a hat would do anything for me. Theres a hugh coke scene in my hometown, i loved the way it made me feel, it took away my social anxiety and all my fears, till 10 am when im coked out, hungover, cant sleep and hate myself completel for my self destruction. i could tell from your post, that u needed to get some of that out. I like to think its like puking, u kno as addicts we have all of this negative energy RELENTLESSLY PULLING us down emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. We need to puke all of that out other wise it sits and the pressure keeps building. I still stuggle everyday man and im clean almost 2 months! I just posted on here a few days ago how horrible i felt and today im better. But the difference is, now I KNOW there are people who care, who want to help.  I used to hide my addiction from my family and put on a face like everything was ok. Living in negativity is hell. I wouldnt wish it on anyone. I could tell  you have a big heart u deffinetly do. I got some great news for you, you never have to use ever again! MILLIONS of people are or were in your shoes. I suggest coming clean to your family. Tell your parents that you want to quit and you need their support, you have to be honest with them, SPILL YOUR GUTS to them no half truths, your days of lying and coning are over,  but most of all be honest with yourself. Which from your post sounds like you are. That is a HUGE step.  There are organizations who can help, na, aa, christian groups. They do basically what we do here. By getting together with other addicts we share our pain and it changes us in ways we cant imagine. For the 1st time we feel something we neverr felt before, hope.  Great people on here pick me up and always help me.  Whatever you decide, you have to surround yourself with sober people who wont judge you or make u feel worse than u already do. My best friend is till popping vicodin, and I love him to death, but he doesnt wanna admit he has a problem.  If you feel you cant do it on your own, theres people out there who can help. Theres a saying that goes if nothing changes nothing changes. U can do this brew. It doesn't have to be this way. Dont worry about rambling, haha i do it all of the time. All that matters is it comes from the heart.
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3688816 tn?1358475297
Hey Nate, I have been reading thru ur post for the last hour. U are an amazing person and have so much ahead of u in life. I kno how hard it is to get away from drugs and change the ppl u hang out with esp when its ur best friend but in order to get and stay clean u have to change ppl , places , and things. It may seem hard at first but it DOES get easier I promise. When I Was ur age I used to take pills for fun bc all my friends did it and now at the age of 27 I was totally out of control with pills and when my Dr cut me off I had a "best friend" who introduced me to heroin. In a years time I almost lost everything. I am married to a wonderful man and have two great children. I almost Lost the bc of using and I also almost lost my life bc of using and not caring abt anything but my next fix. Have u ever talked to a psychiatrist or psychologist about ur anxiety and depression? It really helped me to talk to someone who wasn't going to judge me but tell me exactly how it is. U have sooo much going for u and I'd hate for u to sell urself short and not b able to do the things u want to in life bc ur tied down by coke. Please PLEASE remember U CAN DO THIS and u Are worth it!!!!! We are all here for u thru this. U can ask or tell us anything without being judged. I hope ur doing ok and I hope u stick with this and choose life!! =]
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4522800 tn?1470325834
OMG Ces77 You just made me cry....Sooo true and I am so proud of him to get this at a early age.
vickie
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4614494 tn?1368356385
You are so young and you have such a great life ahead of you!! Im praying God will show Himself to you sweetie. God has great things in store for you.  Don't ever forget that.  Will be praying for you ;)
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depression is very common comming off coke, crack.....you may need meds for a period of time say a year -2 yrs then ween of meds to see if you really need to be on them. i suffered crushing depression for yrs before and after coke.....doing coke actually made it worse for me....took a few yrs of finding the right meds that eventually saved my life....you can pm me if want to know more about that. and it took a little longer to get clean off crack...try to stay busy, get a hobby, meetings. anything that keeps you occupied and try not to be alone too much...goodluck...
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4626633 tn?1382597122
Your post has me in tears too! It's so wonderful you have decided to quit at your age, and not be 40 or 50, looking back, saying if only I would have quit.

You're so articulate. You have a very bright future ahead of you, should you decide to stop this now.

There isn't much I can add but my support. I take it since you said you basically lied through rehab the first time, it wasn't your choice to go? This only works if you want it to, and it seems you do this time.

I have a 16 y/o and a 18 y/o. My love for them is unconditional, and so is your Mom's. She's hurting because you're hurting. Please keep talking to her.

And one last thing, you say you do this because you're depressed ( among a couple other reasons). Do you see a Dr for your depression? And if you do, do you feel comfortable with them?

I'm very glad you found your way here. Please keep posting.

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Wow... Thanks guys for all the support. I made it through the night and actually ate some food this morning. Just gotta take the day a minute at a time. Luckily I have to work early in the morning tomorrow so I won't be tempted to go out and do something stupid tonight. Feel like complete crap but hopefully I will start to feel better soon! Thanks again for all the support
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4522800 tn?1470325834
ALRIGHT !!!!! I posted early that there will be some awsome people who care here.... RIGHT ON EVERYONE.....Keep checking post they roll in and out.
Bless you
vickie
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Oh my gosh, I am so glad you came here! My heart goes out to you while I am reading this post. I WISH I would have known I was an addict/alcoholic when I was your age, (cause I was already well on my way) it would have saved everyone a lot of heartache! lol. You have your whole life ahead of you, and it breaks my heart that you are struggling with this. So, I know it is tough at this moment, but maybe look into some aftercare, outpatient treatment, meetings, etc, when you are feeling a little better. In the meantime, stay away from using friends, change your number if you need to. I don't know what kind of resources you have if you are in a rural area, but remember, we are here, and we want to help in any way we can, even if you just need to vent.
Allison
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2218783 tn?1357571081
dont give up on fighting for your sobriety go to your parents and beg them I am a parent and your post broke my heart Please keep posting you can take your life back!  Keep knocking on doors someone will answer :)
God bless you and posting is a huge step You can get thru this. Talk to your parents and like you said they have heard it before but it doesnt matter they love you
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You are on the right track. Just hang in through the anxiety--it seems to hit everyone hard no matter what drug we've taken. It's just real life coming without a filter so do all the relaxing things toothfaire said. Deep breathing can really calm you. The Deepak Chopra website has short meditations you can listen to online.http://www.chopra.com/library/guidedmeditations
I've been where you are: new kid in small town in high school, athlete...trying to fit in a new place. Very stressful. And I know when coke wore off, I was so down, depressed, lethargic (in my mid-20's!). I just had to quit between that and feeling like I could have a heart attack at 25! And I have my own teens now, and taught high school to at-risk teens, so I know how hard these years can be. But you are close to moving on and it is great that you want to  stop all this before 18. You just found out things earlier than many of us have. Once your body adjusts, your mind will come to adjust too. Just give it a chance to heal which takes a little longer.  
I really like the term "urge surfing." Like a surfer, ride through the urges/cravings to use. They pass; it's not a permanent feeling. Google "urge surfing" and there are some really interesting tips. Don't think too hard. Just take it hour by hour, day by day.
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http://www.hbo.com/addiction/understanding_addiction/16_myths_of_addiction.html

That particular part of the hbo.com/addiction link explains just SOME of the "myths" of addiction we addicts must contend with.  But another HUGE myth that you brought to mind......you said one of the reasons people don't offer you help is because you look the opposite of what an addict looks like,'
(not your exact words, but close)

Addicts don't LOOK any certain way.....that's the HUGE myth you brought to mind.  We are from every walk of life, every race, creed, and income level.  Our professions are many.  We are doctor's, homemakers, EMT workers, athletes, retired, rich and poor and in between.  Just as it "rains on the just and the unjust"....the disease of the brain does NOT discriminate.  SO many people don't "get it".  It frustrates me completely!
So.....when you aren't crashin from your last high.....please take the time to re-read, re-process this whole thread from tonight.  The younger we begin our drug/alcohol use......the more severe the consequences.  

I know for tonight you are crashin, but when you have a little more clarity, I hope you will make it a point to re-read this whole thread.

Addicts don't LOOK a certain way.....that's a HUGE
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4341997 tn?1514588688
try taking a hot shower or bath....it always helped me with anxiety.....and deep breathing exercises....do them for a few mins....and put your mind on something else......maybe try to watch a movie or listen to some calming music.....hope you feel better tmrw.....just hang in there....i know you have it in you!  keep posting for support!  
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