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My boyfriend & I both have an opiate addiction. He relapsed over the weekend & I did yesterday. I felt nothing, but regret & depression & I vowed to never do it again. I want my boyfriend to stop, too. I called him & asked him not to use anymore & I got the "Yeah, yeah. I gotta go." & he hung up. Our addiction put us in a financial hole that we are currently digging out of. How can I get through to him & make him remember how depressed we both were before we cleaned up the first time & how this could ruin both of our lives again? I'm very worried for him.
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352798 tn?1399298154
First of all, welcome to the forum. Talking with him about this may help, but as you know. Unless he really wants it, he won't get clean. You can't make him do this.

"When your desire to get clean, is stronger than your desire to use. Then, you will get clean"  GTMI
536882 tn?1225512859
Unfortunately GTMI is right.  Unless he wants it for himself, you can't do a darn thing.  BUT, you can stay sober for yourself, and hopefully he'll see what you have and want that for him.  Try to learn from your own relapse and identify the warning signs that led to using.;  Next time those things start to happen, you'll be able to reach out to others before going to the pill.  I'd definitely make sure your monies are separated from now on.  Double up on whatever you're doing for your recovery.  Keep posting here and welcome!
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