Today is my 70th day clean!!!!

[tinkerbell2661]

I got my feelings hurt Sat. I had some company visting.....my 27 yr.old daughter came in...we were talking about things driving us crazy...with my recent pill problems...and my husband having a affair in 2009..my daughter stated I have no reason to be crazy I let them (husband) and his past problems with drugs) drive me crazy....I feel she will always throw this up in my face....then she apologized and said I am sorry I still love you....I cried all night and half of yesterday....how should I feel about this?  

[Pat1956100]

As Sarah says "You are feeling again".  I had a similar situation with my son and I cried uncontrollably for a day.  I know how badly it hurt and I really wanted to numb it with pills but I didn't.  I posted here and got wonderful support.  I don't know about you but I am so used to keeping things inside and it is sure nice to let them out.
Glad you posted and that it helped.

[cork712]

Congrats on your 70 days!!
I was just imparting these words of "wisdom" to my 18 yr old --Don't let other people determine how you feel, control your day (friend conflicts). And this is coming from me, who battles this daily!! Sometimes others are having their own bad day and take it out on the closest person, and parents always get the brunt of that! We are all vulnerable about our pasts. The great thing is is that IS the past, and we want to keep it that way.
Be happy in your  successes. I think it will take a while for our kids to get used to and believe in their new type of parent.

[FourJays]

Congratulations on 70 days . . .  that is what it is about now and that is awesome!  BTW I find that I am more "affected" by what people say and emotional in general during these first months of recovery  . . . I'm blaming it on PAWS!

You are doing so well . . . keep it up :)

Julie

[Andie015]

That was her opinion...but not fair at all to make you feel so bad. I had the same thing with people throwing my past in my face...I just kept thinking "what can you say about me now?  Nothing..because I'm a better person". And you are...never forget that. And congrats on your 70 days. That's awesome!!!! Keep strong and know you ARE a great person..no matter what.

[tinkerbell2661]

THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH....IT JUST SEEMS LIKE I LET THINGS GET TO ME....I FIND MYSELF TEARING UP OVER EVERYTHING...I WONDER WHAT IS GOING ON...

[YesLife4Me]

Don't let the past dominate NOW.   All we have is right now.  No promises of a tomorrow, but we can hope for one and do what we can right now to make a better today and tomorrow.   The past is a learning lesson.  Use that as a tool to learn from.   70 days is incredible don't look in the rearview mirror!!    

[ricart70]

I think you are doing great!!!   keep it up
I hate when people repeatedly bring up and say things that they know will hurt you.   Remember that when they do that it certainly says more about them,and their insecurities than it does about you.  Believe it !

[Sweetness91]

Aww Tink...don't let it get you down. One thing I've learned is I take things to heart alot more since detoxing. Things hurt my feelings now, things that I would've said "oh well...whatever" to before. I'm not saying that what was said shouldn't have hurt your feelings because it would most certainly hurt mine, but just remember that you can't control the opinions of others, their actions or their words. Forgive and forget!! Don't dwell on it my friend, you have alot more GOOD things to be thinking about....LIKE 70 days!!! You go girl...congrats :)

[VICourageous]

Hi yes just keep truckin forward and do not look back....
Great Job on 70 it just keeps ticking away min by min...
vickie

[Norco1947]

Hi TB ,  Start everyday thinking the past is the past , nothing you can do about it .
You can make today and tomorrow better . ... Ron