Ugly Realities

[troubleinohio]

Can anyone tell me.....how do you start to deal with the things in life again without pills? Im realizing that when I was on them, I was sooooooo numbed up to so many painful realities about my life that I didnt want to cope with!!!!! Now all these thigns are resurfacing and overwhelming me. Im realizing that my relationship with my husband is not a very good one (well I already knew it, but when on the VICS I didnt care so much that it sucked and needs worked on). Now that Im not numbed to his ways, Im finding myself in a bad spot. Theres so many of these "bad spots" in my life popping up now too. SO many issues Ive had but didnt deal with while on the pills. Do you understand what Im saying? Im waking up from a coma so to speak and I dont like what Im seeing. HOw can i change so many things about my life that are bad now?? How do you get through this? I feel so overwhelmed and depressed. If i had a bottle of pills in this house I would gobble them up right now I know that. I am so weak right now. Im glad I dont have any or Id be back to sqauare one.  I also have the ongoing pain issue that I dont know what to do about either. I do have very bad legitamite pain and so far nothing is helping it. Flexeril, skelaxin, motrin 800, tramadol (not taking these all at once, just trying one different each day to see if any help and so far nothing). What to do?

[Gobig]

Going to meetings?  

[ToManyToCount]

Hey Trouble;

You mentioned in your original post that you have an ongoing pain issue.  What is the cause of this?  Forgive if you've posted it in another thread - I'm suffering from SFB today and need to be reminded of just about everything.  If it is relative to something joint or muscular related I can possibly offer some drug free alternatives being the proud owner of a whopping case of rheumatoid arthritis and it's faithful sidekick fibromyalgia.

TC,

TMTC

[beachtowel]

Your post is very troubling it seems like your ready to cave back into your bottle of pills to fix everything in your life.........

[Savas]

Hey, I know what you mean. The best I can say is try to take a long term planning view. Try to get a feel for what needs to be dealt with and then work on it. Don't get frustrated when it doesn't go well. Try focusing on the few things that go right at the end of the week. And try not to obsess on what isn't getting better.

It sounds a lot easier than it actually is.

[justlikeyou]

life can be amazing too, ups and downs, downs and ups. its not what happens in life thats important, it how we react to it that makes the difference between happy and miserable.

[anotherfinemess]

the difficulty of withdrawing pales by comparison to the difficulty of dealing with life on lifes' terms, if you ask me.  Its a rude awakening, to say the least.  I am stumbling through this as well.  I tend to think that two things make it better:  1st,  physiologic rebuilding of your neurotransmitters, which were dampened when we were using, and of course this is a gradual process,  and 2nd, developing coping skills that we either didnt have before, or just havent used in so long, since the drugs did the "coping" for us.  If I were to give you any advice, it would be to seek counselling, either individual or joint counseling, to get an objective, 3rd party view of the dynamics of your marriage and whether it could- or should- be salvaged.  If it helps any, I am as beside myself as you are!
Lisa

[1234betterlife]

i feel so bad for you because i know how you feel. everything seems to crash on you. realationships, kids, money, job, whatever. you have to take baby steps. as you know these are some of the reasons that we use narcotics. we cover up the pain or discomfort of mental emotional problems with the fake "it's all right i can handle it" you have to literally take one thing and deal with it, something small at first. pay a bill. solve one problem. but eventually you will need some counseling so you will not relapse. this is so hard to do. it is exposing the whole situation. without it, chances of relapse are very high. i know that with myself i thought i could handle all of those problems by myself and i just could not so i relapsed again and again until i sought the appropriate help. if i stopped talking with my counselor at this point, i most likely would relapse down the road. things are just not finished. it takes time. please know how much i care about how you feel and how very much i understand.

[allaboutmary]

So sorry you are feeling this way. Where are you in your detox? what day?  I do know what your saying about dealing with all the bad in our lives without pills.Very hard.  I do feel that I definatley feel the bad things more now, but on the up side I feel the good things more also. I also have legit pain in hips and walk with a limp. The first 5 days pain was very bad, but now on day 10 I'm finding that the 800 ibprofen is working pretty good. The thing with me is I haven't gone back to work yet and this scares me. I climb ladders all day. Write back let me know what day you are on. If it is 1-5 everything you are going thru is normal. Keep your chin up and seek out things that make you happy. Treat yourself to something. You deserve it!