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Withdrawal worse everytime
I am wondering why physiologically withdrawal symptoms get worse everytime you go through them, I have severe cluster headaches and don't take norco all the time, but when I need to take them when I am in a bad cycle, (a cycle can last anywhere from 3-5 days) I go through withdrawals, the bone pain, achiness, all of it. I t didn't use to be this way, but now it happens everytime. I would rather suffer the withdrawals then take them when I don't need to, but it is getting harder..can someone explain this to me?
What a great post, passenby! There's a lot of wisdom there. Vico I hope you can regroup and get back in the saddle because you need to do this in order to get your life back on track---WITHOUT MR. *******. Like Passenby said, there is a NICE guy out there for you, and it will happen. But you need to be clean and sober to make those good things in life come your way.... Please try and pitch your stash so you aren't tempted, and use spite for your husband to your advantage!!!!LOL Hang in ther and keep posting. Love, Peazy
Thank you for the advice and support. It has been really hard getting through this. Today my husband tried to come back to me and tell me it would be different and not 30 minutes later he was arguing with me over something stupid and calling me a *****. Going on and on about how he can't wait to get out of here. Ever time I get my hopes up that things are going to change I fall harder. It's like withdrawal each time its worse. I used today and I felt so much worse after I came off the vicodine and now I feel weak. I let myself down. Feeling good for a couple of hours just wasn't worth it.
I will try and reroute your email---I hope I didn't delete it. Damn, I hate technology sometimes!!
Your husband is reacting to pangs of guilt, but of course his true colors are shing through.........Cry me a river, buddy. If he is SERIOUS about getting your lives back together, he will go to counseling w/ you and truly make an effort. Oh, and did I mention quitting seeing the bimbo?? LOL Anything less means his heart ain't in it, so don't fall for it. He's trying to assuage his guilt, is all...
You picked up and it's over and done so let's move on....Thank God you didn't find a lot of solace in that fact, it wasn't pleasurable, and that's great!! Get your determination and head back together and call a lawyer, Like (Lisabet?) said. Might as well salvage something from this, and it's be a shame to just forfeit it.....So you GO GIRL!! Be pro-active and try to be assertive. It's hard when you feel so mentally (and physically) depleted, but try to summon up everything you can, because you usually don't get a second chance at diving divorce property.
Again, I'll try and find that email or, HEY! how's about another one?? Thinking of you, babe--Peazy
Your husband is reacting to pangs of guilt, but of course his true colors are shing through.........Cry me a river, buddy. If he is SERIOUS about getting your lives back together, he will go to counseling w/ you and truly make an effort. Oh, and did I mention quitting seeing the bimbo?? LOL Anything less means his heart ain't in it, so don't fall for it. He's trying to assuage his guilt, is all...
You picked up and it's over and done so let's move on....Thank God you didn't find a lot of solace in that fact, it wasn't pleasurable, and that's great!! Get your determination and head back together and call a lawyer, Like (Lisabet?) said. Might as well salvage something from this, and it's be a shame to just forfeit it.....So you GO GIRL!! Be pro-active and try to be assertive. It's hard when you feel so mentally (and physically) depleted, but try to summon up everything you can, because you usually don't get a second chance at diving divorce property.
Again, I'll try and find that email or, HEY! how's about another one?? Thinking of you, babe--Peazy
I had a feeling he would do that. And I think you're in for many of his ploys in the coming months -- and that's not to say that he doesn't love you, but that he's NOT worthy of your love in the way he's behaving. There is never any excuse for an ongoing affair.
I really, really think that protecting your financial interests (and yes, finding an Attorney) are so important right now. And about the slip-up, hey, we have ALL been there so don't come down hard on yourself. Just pick yourself up and start back where you were -- one slip up does not a relapse make.
I know you want this marriage to work. You can't turn your switch from 'in love' to 'out of love' just with the snap of a finger, but your husband's actions are speaking volumes in re: to his character right now. If he's not willing to break it off right now with the girlie, and go into intense counseling, and treat you with the utmost respect and 18 other things that would prove he were serious about the marriage, it's important that you find friends and family to turn to.
And again, you have us whenever you need us.
Alexis
I really, really think that protecting your financial interests (and yes, finding an Attorney) are so important right now. And about the slip-up, hey, we have ALL been there so don't come down hard on yourself. Just pick yourself up and start back where you were -- one slip up does not a relapse make.
I know you want this marriage to work. You can't turn your switch from 'in love' to 'out of love' just with the snap of a finger, but your husband's actions are speaking volumes in re: to his character right now. If he's not willing to break it off right now with the girlie, and go into intense counseling, and treat you with the utmost respect and 18 other things that would prove he were serious about the marriage, it's important that you find friends and family to turn to.
And again, you have us whenever you need us.
Alexis
Sweetie, I just read about what your dh (ya know the acronym for 'dear husband', well I don't mean 'dear' when I use that acronym) has done. I agree with everything Peazy said, so I don't have a lot left to say except to offer a shoulder to cry on if you want it. Oh, and the self-blame game is so prevalent when this kind of thing happens -- but you didn't decide to leave him for another, so this is NOT YOUR FAULT. And you shouldn't own it, he needs to.
I've been through some traumatic times with my hubby, but what you're going through requires some tough action on your part to protect your self-interests. I think that getting a lawyer would be an important first step in regard to any assets you two have. You have to protect yourself financially in these circumstances. And get tested (you know) - it's highly unlikely you have any diseases, but getting all of your ducks in a row right now is so important (sorry to get graphic, I'm just concerned for you).
Dealing with the addiction aspect, man what a toughie. You are doing so wonderfully with staying away from the Vic's - you're already through the physical part, it's the emotional part now to contend with, but YOU CAN DO IT. If divorce is in the works right now (which it rarely is -- they usually end up coming back begging for forgiveness to which you promptly let them know that you're not a soft place for them to fall). I'm really not trying to tell you what to do, just putting some stuff out there, so I apologize in advance if this comes across as harsh, but damn that pisses me off what he's done! Going through withdrawal and then having to deal with this. But you WILL make it and come out a stronger person, I just know it. It's the fact of, 'that which does not kill us makes us stronger' (what a unique phrase <insert sarcastic little facie.).
So I would say that you need to protect yourself financially, emotionally and separate from this guy and focus solely on yourself for awhile. The idea of finding friends and family to be with you right now is a good one, but from the standpoint of leaving your home, it might not be in the best interest (legally - please consult with a good attorney). I know it's easier said than done, but you know you have the comfort of us and others when you feel the need. Big ((hugs)) to ya.
Alexis
I've been through some traumatic times with my hubby, but what you're going through requires some tough action on your part to protect your self-interests. I think that getting a lawyer would be an important first step in regard to any assets you two have. You have to protect yourself financially in these circumstances. And get tested (you know) - it's highly unlikely you have any diseases, but getting all of your ducks in a row right now is so important (sorry to get graphic, I'm just concerned for you).
Dealing with the addiction aspect, man what a toughie. You are doing so wonderfully with staying away from the Vic's - you're already through the physical part, it's the emotional part now to contend with, but YOU CAN DO IT. If divorce is in the works right now (which it rarely is -- they usually end up coming back begging for forgiveness to which you promptly let them know that you're not a soft place for them to fall). I'm really not trying to tell you what to do, just putting some stuff out there, so I apologize in advance if this comes across as harsh, but damn that pisses me off what he's done! Going through withdrawal and then having to deal with this. But you WILL make it and come out a stronger person, I just know it. It's the fact of, 'that which does not kill us makes us stronger' (what a unique phrase <insert sarcastic little facie.).
So I would say that you need to protect yourself financially, emotionally and separate from this guy and focus solely on yourself for awhile. The idea of finding friends and family to be with you right now is a good one, but from the standpoint of leaving your home, it might not be in the best interest (legally - please consult with a good attorney). I know it's easier said than done, but you know you have the comfort of us and others when you feel the need. Big ((hugs)) to ya.
Alexis
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