hey sweetie...don't sweat it...relapse is part of addiction and recovery. knowing what to do after that is what makes the difference.
are you sure that you can trust yourself with having those pills on hand? i know from past posts here, that flushing them is a "freeing" experience. it will be hard to do...but...you will prove to "yourself" that you mean business about reclaiming your life. don't let them be a constant temptation...FLUSH THEM GIRLIE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You are so awesome. I want to flush. I know the traps of having them here. I am terribly afraid of the w/d again. I really don't know how we get through them again. I really need to taper so that I can function through my day. My little guy has therapy for 5 hours today and I need to do at least 2 hours of that and my mom needs.....Ok now I sound like people I know... sorry. Man the excuses come so easy. I am so glad you answered me. I was hoping you would. Thanks for being there and I will let you know how it is going. I really appreciate you, lil rab, FLaddict and several others who keep on supporting.
you do what you need to do...BUT...just remember one thing...you are an addict. can you trust yourself?
flush them...do it now! i heard that excuse...lol flush them!!!!!!
the longer you take them, the worse the w/d's again. stop now before it gets worse. you had 25 days...that is awesome...don't go backwards...let's go forwards from here...today...right now.
Oh, and cancel the script if there are more refills.
You CAN do it! Show em who's boss!
Hello! don't feel too guilty.Most do relapse.I don't think you will go into full blown w/d's if you stop now.you have 25 days of healing.Be careful! you don't want to go through hard w/d's again.Like lizzie says free yourself and flush them.God Bless.
Hey darlin, don't beat yourself up. You did the best you could. You are a lovely , wonderful individual facing one of the hardest things you'll ever do. Tomorrow's a brand new day.
I'm going out on a limb here and joining the rest of the crowd by suggesting FLUSH!!! If you do it now, there will be very little suffering compared to the mental agony of trying to taper, not to mention the extended emotional anguish you'll have from prolonging the inevitable. Plus, more opportunity to slip, in my opinion.
And yes, I agree: cancel any refill "loopholes"--these pills are so much bigger than us; I'm personally of the school that believes in surrendering to this--if we could control our use, we would've never logged into a forum called "Addiction"! Why try to control your use now? FLUSH, FLUSH! CANCEL, CANCEL...
Okay that siad, I know that you have an intuitive inner voice (call it God if you will) that is telling you how to handle this. Listen to that voice--it's never wrong. The voice of addiction will try to masquerade as this, but you will know the difference. You're a smart lady, and you will know.
All my Support & Love,
get rid o those nasty little devils they'll be calling your name otherwise sweetheart.
Thank you my dear friends....Nuff said.
I did have another refill...it is taken care of.
You guys are so smart. :o) I hadn't even thought of that refill for a month from now, until you reminded me. I guarantee I would have thought of it later though.
There's a saying around the rooms to the effect of: "I needed every drink/pill/hit I took in order to be able to get sober." At times it's tempting for me to say/think "if I were smarter (better?) I would have quit back [whenever], when I knew I had a problem, but before it got so bad."
That's very tempting at times. It's also a crock.
In fact, that type of thinking promotes my disease and my denial. In effect, it's saying "I should have done a better job of controlling that uncontrollable thing over which I am powerless." My mind tries to resolve the conflict inherent in that statement with thoughts/feelings that ignore the fact that I am powerless and, for me anyway, the thing is uncontrollable, and focus only on my failure to exercise the necessary degree of controll.
VERY QUICKLY that line of thinking morphs into the notion that I CAN drink & use again, IF I just exercise the necessary degree of controll (which it feels like I now understand and would be able to do).
I took that line of thinking to its logical conclusion time after time after time, through relapse after relapse after relapse. Each time the perceived control dissolved with the first pill or, later, with the first good hit from my crack stem (talk about INSANITY - can you believe that I would really talk myself into thinking that "this time" I was going to use crack but keep it under control? There's no such thing as controlled crack use!).
Despite the fact that the result was as would have been predicted by any sane person, with each relapse I suffered that incomprehensible demoralization with which I'd wager everyone on this board is all too familiar. Each relapse seemed to provide a new definition of failure. It wasn't all that long before the definition of failure became short and simple: it was ME - I WAS failure.
Now, that doesn't seem like a particularly good place to be. It SOUNDS very sad and, in fact, I do feel a bit sad as I sit here now and recall those days when a simple glance in the mirror would cause that silent shout of condemnation within my mind "YOU ARE A FRAUD AND A WORTHLESS DRUG ADDICT!"
But, it's actually not that bad a place to be. For me, it was a necessary place that I had to be (time after time) before I was able to actually able to get to a good place. At this point I am grateful that I know and truly understand that there is no such thing it being "different this time." If I hadn't been to that dark place so many times, there would be no way I would truly believe that. Thus, there be no way that I could now refuse to join forces with those thoughts that less-frequently, but still regurarly "suggest" that what I really need (RIGHT NOW) in order to make everything OK is just "A LITTLE" of whatever.
How could I possibly see those thoughts as just lies of my disease if I had stopped using on the 1st try or the 2nd (or 3rd or 4th), back when I first became aware that using was a problem? The answer is that I couldn't. Sooner or later I would have to give that "new" option of controlled use a try. I would give it a try and at this stage of my disease it would kill me.
I'm not saying that you shouldn't feel bad - you have good reason to feel very bad: you've come face to face with the reality that you're best efforts are insufficient to get and keep you clean. You have been presented with irrefutable evidence that dispite having full knowledge of the negative effects of the pills on you and your family, and full knowledge of your past inability to exercise control over your use, that you were still willing to refill a script and put those pills in your mouth. Who wouldn't feel bad about that?
I am saying that such bad feelings can be important and positive part of Recovery.
When I got to my 2nd rehab less than 5 months after I left my 1st, I was feeling quite hopeless, helpless and worthless. It was just TOO AWFUL and that there seemed to be NO HOPE -- everything just seemed like the WORST POSSIBLE NIGHTMARE, except it was all so clearly and painfully real. I had been there about a week when I started crying and I just couldn't stop. I just could not stop. The only time I had ever cried like that had been 25 years before, when I stood by my Dad's casket and the the grave into which it (with my Dad) was about to be lowered.
Dr. Ben (who had himself known the agony of addiction to heroine, crack and alcohol, with MANY failed attempts to get clean) saw me crying and followed me into the empty room to which I had fled. He put his hands on my shoulders and MADE me look at him. Looking me right in the eyes, he said "Don't be ashamed of those tears. In those tears lie the seeds of your Recovery, my friend - embrace them and never forget them." I have never forgotten those tears, nor those (and many other) wise words I heard from Dr. Ben.
So, Mom-in-Stress, that's what I would say to you too: Don't be ashamed of your sadness or tears. Don't try to hide from them or to put on a good face in spite of how you feel. Embrace the way you feel and FEEL IT, because those feelings and tears are the seeds of your Recovery - never forget them.
At the same time, try to remember that you are not a weak person trying to become strong again, nor a bad person trying to become good again. Rather, you are a sick person trying to become well again.
Take care of yourself, just like you would that little guy that you love so much if he were sick. You deserve that just as much as he would.