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While I understand the negative effects of methamphetamine, in general.  I constantly read anything I can get my hands on about the addiction, but I've never found information that is directed toward me.  I am a 47 year old mom, who eats and sleeps regularly, plus I always take my vitamins.  I don't smoke or use meth by injecting, I've only ever snorted it.  I want to be clean, but am terrified of the comedown.  The thought of needing days to sleep it off seems impossible because I need to work in order to stay afloat and keep my family fed.  Most information I've read is for the person who binges, uses it for sex, or abuses it by smoking or injecting.  I'm a functioning addict, and have been for 20 years except for when I was pregnant.  My children are all intelligent beings with no emotional problems.  I'm a productive member of society.  I volunteer at school and I work very hard everyday.  I also have a very dirty little secret and need help to to stop.  Can anyone recommend any type of reading for a situation like this?  
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4522800 tn?1470325834
WOW!!! This post has a hour glass by it, meaning it is a old post, however, I had seen that Cricketk92 went in and she knows this site.

SO..here it is over a Year later. You should stick around here for more Support. Many of the above here have many yrs clean now. We even lost one of our favorite, loving, caring members IBK, due to a massive heart attack, since you have posted.

I was on that stuff off & on since the 70s and up. It still floats heavily around in my small town.
Take a Step and walk into a NA or AA meeting. Most of the people at my meetings have tons of time in off this Stuff. Shooting, Smoking or Snorting it is all bad and it will kill your brain chem and body parts. When I went up the latter to get my Methadone prescribed for pain. I too was snorting it with illegal Adderral. It was just like my Crank days. Now I live with 2 stents in my Heart and have some other health issues going on. This Disease is a VERY Serious one. You can not just read a book and get better. There is SO much more to this. Addiction runs deep. Most of us where very functional. I own all my property and vehicles straight out and have been married for over 30yrs. Thank God he stayed. To this day, and it had been over 3 yrs, the biggest thing I had to change, was wanting to get something to get me wired up and going. I had to learn to change all of that. What the heck does these materiel things matter..We can not take them with us when we die and when we keep using that is what will happen, sooner or later. You could snort that line and it might be your last line ever..These days it is cut with so much crrap that can eat you alive.
PLZ get some help now..even if you have to go to a Addiction Dr. In your case I think you need LOTS of help. You have not stopped since this post over a yr ago!!! YOU are the only one that can take that first step toward recovery. Thank about your children!! Addiction can be passed down either through the genes or environment. Your kids most likely know and they do not say anything. Do you want them to think it is OK to use drugs? I do not think so. Get help for YOU and then they will see a way Better Mom. I sure will Pray for YOU. Stick around here for Support too. Do Not run away. We care and are here for YOU and your Family. Go hit a meeting and seek some professional help before it is tooooo late. Trust me I know what damages are made here.

Praying for you to see the light before it gets to dark!!!
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11318065 tn?1462984479
So glad that you came back!  And you seem to be in a better state of mind than you were in your first post!  I wasn't around back in Oct 2014 when you first posted so I just read all of this for the first time!  You got some really great advice and as you can see a year later that nothing changes until something changes!!!  If you are ready to quit this is an awesome place for encouragement and understanding!  It will be the best decision you ever make in your life!  I just hit my 1 year clean and I can tell you, it is a totally different world!  It is so worth it!  So take that first step and jump!!!  We will all be here routing you on!!!  ♡
Karen
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I posted the question a little over a year ago.  Today as i was going through my bookmarks, I found it again.  I read all the answers, and had to take a minute and read them again.  I'm not going to lie, the truth is not always easy to read, and I had to read them through a third time.  I am addicted to methamphetamine and we don't like to hear the truth.  
Nursegirl6572, you were right on all accounts,.  I hadn't read the posts, then i did and wasn't sure what to say, and then i was briefly pissed off.  Not sure what i was expecting...  pats on the back, hugs, we understand your dilemma, no, it's not your fault.....
First, thank you all for taking the time to write.  I am in the same place i was when i first wrote, in my head I may have made improvements, but really I'm still using.  I have been in denial and I am an addict.  I haven't been to the doctor in years and I have no idea really what's going on in my body.  I have had teeth issues, of course, that i have dealt with.  I have checked out emotionally and I am not the same person i once was.  I realize people grow and evolve in life, but that's not what i'm talking about.  
I'm not even sure about what this site has to offer, but I will be revisiting right after work.  I know I need to stop.  I know my children need their mother and I know I've been justifying my behavior for years.  
I know time if of the essence and its not on my side.  
Thank you all for the dose of reality i needed.  I'm going to beat this.
Maybe this is not worded properly, or maybe i'm still in denial of something, but I am ready to be a better person and mother.  I'm ready to stop being a slave to this disgusting monkey on my back, and I am just tired.  Tired of feeding my addiction before all else.  Tired of giving my emotions up freely.  I want my kids to know who I really am, and actually I'd like to know me again too.  
Thanks.
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271792 tn?1334979657
I am just blown away, jaw dropping in shock over this post. HOLY MOLY!!! You are so far down in denial I don't know that you can ever get up. I do believe that there is hope for everyone, no matter what but you are teetering on the edge for me. As someone said..stop reading and start doing. The first step is to admit that you have a problem. If you can just get to that you may see the light. I am going to say an extra prayer for you tonight.
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A functioning addict is an addict in recovery
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So true!!!!  
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KS...you made me laugh which I really needed. "We were all functional until we weren't". Very true. And yes we are all alike. I have a Masters Degree and two well adjusted children. Graduated at the top of my class. Doesn't matter. Drugs took the glory from all of that and kept me from doing much more than I could have at the time with these degrees although at some point in the beginning I also thought they "helped me" achieve all of this.
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8976007 tn?1413330650
how ironic.  just got a call yesterday that my daughter's uncle is in the hospital  with his leg blown off making this crap.
if it is that toxic and dangerous to make, what makes you think you are healthy after putting this toxic crap in your nose, sinus' (which i can pretty much guarantee are eroded)???

when is the last time you had a CT scan of your face????

not trying to be harsh, but your thinking is skewed.  
have you ever confided in your doctor???????

do you think it is possible you have ADHD and are self medicating when you could be getting a legal medication to help with that????
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480448 tn?1426948538
You sure have received a lot of awesome answers!  I hope you come back to post again.

Either you haven't read the replies yet, you don't quite know what to say, or the truthful replies aren't sitting well with you.  We've seen all of the above reactions from people.

I agree with the others....as much as you want to down play or rationalize your drug use, you know it's a problem, or you wouldn't have posted here.  Hopefully you're worried about more than the come down....because like already said, meth is a drug that can and will have DIRE consequences to one's health, and considering how long you've been using on a regular basis.....I'm very concerned for your health.

You absolutely positively need a THOROUGH medical work up, to make sure the meth hasn't caused any serious and urgent medical problems.  Your doctor is the best place to start...both for the physical AND for a starting place to ask for help.

This forum is full of people who understand....stick around, and allow yourself to benefit from the information AND the support you will get here.  Speaking of support, do you have a decent support system?  Are you married or in a relationship?  If so, does your partner know of your addiction?  Have you confided in anyone?

I think the next time your addict brain tells you the following lies (in your own words):

"  I constantly read anything I can get my hands on about the addiction, but I've never found information that is directed toward me.  I am a 47 year old mom, who eats and sleeps regularly, plus I always take my vitamins.  I don't smoke or use meth by injecting, I've only ever snorted it."

"Most information I've read is for the person who binges, uses it for sex, or abuses it by smoking or injecting.  I'm a functioning addict, and have been for 20 years except for when I was pregnant.  My children are all intelligent beings with no emotional problems.  I'm a productive member of society.  I volunteer at school and I work very hard everyday.  I also have a very dirty little secret and need help to to stop."


.....read the following statement from Ejm above:

"How would you feel if one of those precious children started doing meth; because your telling them it's ok. Is that functioning?"

That brief sentence speaks volumes, doesn't it?  

Another WISE statement mentioned more than once above...

Time for action...reading isn't enough.  You've reached out for help, I commend you for that...that's step ONE.  Reading a book isn't going to get or keep you clean (or alive).

I wish you the best and SURE hope you come back to post.  If you ARE reading and the replies aren't sitting well with you, that's okay...this stuff isn't easy...not to hear, or to imagine, or DO.  Just post, be honest, and open your mind and heart to the help that's here (for a start).
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David D. Burns - "The Feeling Good Handbook"
That book is the fundamentals of CBT, written by the man who first applied this idea of Cognitive Therapy. It is the thinking that must change, the behavior and feelings will follow. Keep us posted.
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Sorry I doubt think I answered you question. I would read the AA big book & NA how it works & why. It will describe your situation & your solution in detail.
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You don't have to live under a bridge, lose your kids, home to be an addict BUT if you continue to use you are going to jail, some sort of institution (most likely from your brain melting down) or your going to die.
How would you feel if one of those precious children started doing meth; because your telling them it's ok. Is that functioning?  I think not. Your doing something to get it putting your entire family in danger. They cut meth with poison on a frequent basis. You are committing a slow suicide. What kind of mother do you want to be. I think the best you can or you would not have posted this question. I think you want us to tell you what your afraid to tell yourself. It was a great relief to me to say "I'm an addict". I'm not bad I'm sick. But I have a disease that wants to kill me as sure as cancer, heart disease or diabetes. You can stop all this insanity. You can be clean, be free, be the mom & person you want to be. It was very difficult for me to come to a place where I could admit what I was really doing. Be completely honest with yourself. You deserve it.
So glad your here. We're here to support you. Glad your alive & in your right mind to ask. That makes us the blessed ones. People die out there every day from addiction. Don't be one of them.
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When the functioning addict topic comes up, it always make me think of all I have lost and gained. While I was using I was "functioning" really well. New diesel truck, farm, tractor, trailers, kids were going to all the great museums and homeschool trips. The problem with all those THINGS and SITUATIONS is, I wasn't really there for them. I provided a lot, I did a lot of things for my family, but I didn't REALLY experience any of it to the full of my potential and heart. I lost my business, which I am starting up again. I lost the new Cummins 4 door truck, the farm, the tractor and trailers to detox. My whole world fell apart, only after I quit. I ask my kids today, "was it worth it, having to give up all those things for me to be off drugs?" There is no hesitation. Last time I asked, they said, "We have you back, you are more fun and nicer than you were on drugs, YES, it was totally worth it." So I gained me and my family back, even though I never knew i lost either one while using. I thought all was okay, accept the times I OD'd. Everyone knew something was up with me, they saw me change over the years, even though I couldn't see any difference. The drugs clouded my perception so slowly, I felt like everything was going just fine. Anyway, good questions above. What brings you here? If everything is functioning so well, why quit. I would have never quit, if I was truly happy on drugs. So, why do you want to quit?
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4522800 tn?1470325834
Have you ever seen a Brain Imagine of a person who has used Meth for Years..In my days it was called Crank..I just went on up to the methadone and added illegal adderral for that buzz. I was a nurse, dancer, legal secretary and very successful all my life..I own my property and have been married for 29 years. NOW because of all my Drug use I am having a hard time balancing back the brain chem/hormones..It is getting better but it at least takes a good 1- 2-3 years now..Meth makes your brain look like Swiss Cheese..I sure pray you stop now because you need the rest of your time to balance the brain back. Look up all you can about the Brain and the Disease of Addiction..This is why they call it a brain disease..It sure dose knock down a lot of good chem/hormones that take time to come back to normal, if it will ever come back to that!..This is so serious..Please stop and get help!!!
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You snort this junk. That's pretty high up on the addiction continuum of dangerous behavior; not to mention how you obtain it. That may be dangerous as well...

At 47, I would be very concerned about the damaging effects catching up with me. How are your teeth? Any problems? Your heart rate and BP?  I think you know that, after 20 years, your use is coming to an end. That's how you found us and we're not going to say, "oh, okay. You're doing fine and feel like you can function well; it's fine."  I'll tell you...so many of us thought we were great until we stopped using and sought help and support. Then we realized that our judgment was way off. That we really didn't look that good and we really weren't as funny as we thought we were.

So how can we help you quit? Are you comfortable with your doctor? Is there anyone you can share this with?  Support and a strong mindset is key.

Keep posting-
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Great answer, clean in ks!!!  

I wanted to add:  Where are you getting the meth?  Do you know how they make this stuff?  How do know it is not adulterated?  How do you know the person making it won't get sick, have someone ELSE do it, or get in an accident?  

Please write back...thanks!
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3197167 tn?1348968606
We are functional until we are not.

It's easy to self-talk like you did to justify continuing our use:

"I am a 47 year old mom, who eats and sleeps regularly, plus I always take my vitamins.  I don't smoke or use meth by injecting, I've only ever snorted it.  I want to be clean, but am terrified of the comedown."

Something brought you to this forum....whatever it is...I'm glad you posted.
Non-Addicts....healthy 47 yr old moms don't put meth up their nose.  We just tell ourselves that because we are STILL ABLE to do this or that.... or because we DON'T do this or that....we don't have a problem.  Or we're not as bad off as "others".....it's typical addict thinking....that's why I recognize it...LOL   Rationalization is what we do best.

Have you not had any negative consequences in your 20 yrs of using?
What has you thinking about quitting now?
Usually...not always, but usually, we have to be sick and tired of all that supporting our habit entails.
I hope you'll get to that place where you are willing to break the chains that bind you.....FREEDOM awaits us on the other side....and it's a beautiful thing.
  
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Have you had a full physical lately?   Speed is very hard on the body, no matter how high functioning you are.  You're getting older, and this drug is NOT helping you maintain your health.

Methamphetamine acts on the dopamine receptors.  Over time, have you found that you're using more and more to achieve the same result?

Long term meth use, and you qualify in spades, will result in:

High Blood Pressure
Headaches
Elevated heart rate
Dizziness

and more...the worst being sudden episodes of psychosis.  

You feel okay, but you are NOT okay.  And as you age, this is going to get worse.  

You can certainly keep on using...its your life, and you can do what you want with it.   Is this what you really want?  Do you picture yourself in retirement snorting meth every day?  

Would you want your kids doing this?  

I'm sorry, but you seem to be justifying your addiction.  I've got 2 masters degrees, own a home and a business, have a daughter in med school, a great husband, and a lovely life.  And I've been destroying it with opiates for 8 years.  

Meth is a BAD drug.  I guarantee you are ruining your health even if you look good on the outside.  The human body was not meant to run at warp speed.  Please get help...tell your family the truth, talk to a counselor, and get yourself clean before something awful happens.  The crash is coming, and you never know when.  God Bless.   I hope I wasn't too harsh...
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Also, you wrote: " Most information I've read is for the person who binges, uses it for sex, or abuses it by smoking or injecting"

Doesn't matter. You've used it for 20 YEARS. You are way past recreational honey.

We will be here for you. Let us know what you wanna do:)
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Wow, you DO sound like all of us. I come from a great home w/ money and parents who love each other. I look really good on the outside. So why in the last 8 years or so did I start revolving my entire life around opiates? Because I'm an addict. Didn't wanna admit it. But it's true. Deep in your heart/mind, you know the answer, too.

Msdelight said it: forget the reading, start getting help.

P.S.- functional or not, it will get worse. We were all functional too at one time.
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You are all those things you said, yes. But you are a meth addict. Functional or otherwise. You need to stop reading and start doing. Your life depends on it.
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When I read your post....at first I had to laugh....not b/c I think your situation is funny, but b/c you sound like alot of us here on this site.  I think alot of us had some type of pre-conceived notion of what an addict and addiction is.  Let me preface this with..... I am a 43 year old wife (22 years) and mother of  great kids.  1 in Navy, 1 in college, 1 working and 1 still in high school.  I worked full time and was the room parent for EVERYONE of my kids (unless some other woman beat me to it, which usually didn't happen!)  I've sat on the PTA board, our local recreation booster club board, and did alot of volunteer work.  All of my kids played sports, all graduated high school (still one to go) and are pretty well adjusted kids.  For the last 15 years I used opiates to keep myself going.  To keep going, and going, and going!  I slept and ate correctly, I do smoke but oh well, but I wouldn't consider myself the junkie living under the bridge????  I have a home a business and lots of responsiblities.  I also had a nice little secret that no one knew about, as I'm writing that I know its a lie I told myself b/c when I decided to quit, I found out that everyone knew!  Unfortunately, I DO think that 20 years of methamphetimines would be considered addict behavior, no matter what your outside appearances are?  
Anything in particular happen to make you question why your taking the methamphetamines that's made you consider quitting, if I might ask???
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