confused and need some advice...

[tiffanimk]

I dont even know where to start! My bf is using percs (which I thought was coke at first) but I only know this from snooping his texts. We've had our fights about me accusing him of being a "cokehead" and he doesnt seem to get that Ive seen leftovers in the bathroom and even in our bedroom, I notice the change in behaviour and habits but yet he wont come clean about it. Ive decided to push it out of my mind as much as possible until I catch him in the act. Im at a loss and wish he would just talk to.me about it!!

[Life360_Dave]

He does not respect and you can write the rest of the story if that is lacking. If he is snorting pain pills then hes has been exposed to them for quite a while as has modified the technique to make them more effective. Most people just swallow them but snorting is for those experienced in the world of drug taking. If this is the case then you have a very unpleaseant road ahead of you. You say in the begining that you dont know where to begin and then you say you want to push it out of you mind. Begin in the begining when you first suspected him of this cause this did not happen over night but for months and it would seem that perhaps you pushed it out of your mind back then. It seems he is the dominent force in your relationship and you might be somewhat intimidated by him. If you want to continue with him, then you have to step up to the plate and get some positve action going. Talking to him might not work as things have progresses beyond a simple party, you might have to threaten to leave him at this point. These drugs like perc are very powerful and can very eaily take over his mind. You already see a negative change in his behavior and it will only get worse. Keep posting

[bigeasy1124]

Well, as a person who was addicted to cocaine for three years and pills for a year, I can say that unless he is ready to stop, then it is going to continue. Catching him might be what it takes though. My loved ones caught me with cocaine and to see them hurt was enough for me to stop, but got addicted to pills 7 years later. I hit rock bottom again with the pills, just couldn't do it anymore because it was messing up my stomach and possibly could have killed me. Sometimes it takes such a life changing experience to make someone stop, but maybe when you do find stuff or text, confront him right then. An addict loves the drugs more than anything and if he chooses the drugs, there is nothing really anyone can do except wait it out and hope something bad doesn't happen.