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help me,to help my boyfriend
I ve only been with my boyfriend since march. I knew very little if anything about persciption drugs. Now i think I know too much. Anyway my b/f started out telling me he only did a few a day (loratabs) But I noticed him in the bathroom way too much. Come to find out he was snorting them in there. ( didn t know you could do that.) At least 5 or more a day and it wasn t always tabs. We fought over it alot cause he worked his *** off and never had any money. Eventually I walk out on him. I guess my leaving was a wake up call cause he doesn t know anyone who doesn t do drugs. We have talked and HE wants to quit. Today is the first day. We don t know what were doing, but were gona do it together. Im thankful for this site, Ive learned even more. But I need help and advice. If anyone has suggestion on what I can do to help him, IM here and know ths is gona be rough. I have already seen his anger but at least now I know its from the drugs. Thanks to you all in advance!
I just wanted 2 say thank u 2 all who posted! it helped me alot, I have a bf who is addicted 2 Oxy and have tried everything 2 help him, but it seems he has gotten worse over the last 2 months because now instead of snortin it he is injectin it! it scares me so bad that he will kill himself with this drug! i love im so much and don't know what else 2 do....please help!
I agree w/ Billy, work was tough in the initial withdrawl but it absolutely took my mind off of it and the only thing that will heal him is time. I'm a week clean again and wow, what a difference. Still slight chills and trouble sleeping through the night but no headaches, body pains, or nausia. He just needs to make that week mark and he'll begin to see the light. Carr is spot on as well, I abused hydro at work and when I got off it I felt I couldn't do my job as well as I could on the drug so I really had to take a total different approach w/ my mind. What worked for me was really treating this as a war w/ myself that I wasn't about to lose. After the first few days of withdrawl, I begain exercising again and taking a multi vitamin. As an addict, I think I'll always be addicted to something but now, it's living as healthly as possible. I'd recommend helping him find something else to believe in to take his mind off pills.
They have some remedies on here for withdrawals, i myself used benedryl (for sneezing) advil(for aches n pains), nyquil(to help sleep) and pused water like i was niagra falls. And hot baths for soaking my bones. I also used a heating pad for the chills.
On another note. We cant save him from himself. I tried to save my boyfriend. Even though he wanted to stop, he didnt know how or what he would do once he wasnt getting high. It's not only an addiction to drugs, its an addiction the lifestyle as well. None of us as addicts want to be addicted. You just get into the routine of getting what you need in order to not be sick and feel "normal". I used dilaudid and heroin. So my routine was set. Get up, hustle the money up, go buy pills, do them and then it started all over again for the next fix.
After nearly 4 years of telling myself that he needs me to stay alive and not o'd from this I had lost my home, went to jail more times than I have fingers and toes. Lost my job, lost my car, was homeless for 9 months. I even went to rehab this year and still came out and used. He has to want to give up old playgrounds (where he scores pills and hangs out) and playmates. (those ppl that he thinks are friends but are really just addicts like himself). Its always going to be a work in progress, because what he and everyone else has on here is a disease. It constanly tells us to go, go, go. Especially since he is just on day two of withdrawals. Keep an eye on his blood pressure, if it gets too high. Go to the ER.
This is all I can think of right now. Once his body is clean, he will have to work on his thinking next. This is the worst physical pain he will go through. Dont let him talk you into enabling him to use by trying to convince you that he just needs one. One is too many and a thousand isnt enough. He's just cheating himself and you out of a happy relationship. I walked away from my boyfriend 50 days ago, we still talk. He's not using like he did, hopefully following my example. I have 50 days clean time right now. I never can make it past 90 days. I will do it this time, my mind is different this time around. I hit my bottom.
Just remember that you arent alone and neither is he. Show him this forum if he wants to share, we are here for you and him. Even though he may not feel like it, go to NA meetings, just google "narcotics annonymous" in your area. If you want to drop a line to me. PM me. I am here for you. Newcomers are most important to my recovery...
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx to you and your friend xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
carrie
On another note. We cant save him from himself. I tried to save my boyfriend. Even though he wanted to stop, he didnt know how or what he would do once he wasnt getting high. It's not only an addiction to drugs, its an addiction the lifestyle as well. None of us as addicts want to be addicted. You just get into the routine of getting what you need in order to not be sick and feel "normal". I used dilaudid and heroin. So my routine was set. Get up, hustle the money up, go buy pills, do them and then it started all over again for the next fix.
After nearly 4 years of telling myself that he needs me to stay alive and not o'd from this I had lost my home, went to jail more times than I have fingers and toes. Lost my job, lost my car, was homeless for 9 months. I even went to rehab this year and still came out and used. He has to want to give up old playgrounds (where he scores pills and hangs out) and playmates. (those ppl that he thinks are friends but are really just addicts like himself). Its always going to be a work in progress, because what he and everyone else has on here is a disease. It constanly tells us to go, go, go. Especially since he is just on day two of withdrawals. Keep an eye on his blood pressure, if it gets too high. Go to the ER.
This is all I can think of right now. Once his body is clean, he will have to work on his thinking next. This is the worst physical pain he will go through. Dont let him talk you into enabling him to use by trying to convince you that he just needs one. One is too many and a thousand isnt enough. He's just cheating himself and you out of a happy relationship. I walked away from my boyfriend 50 days ago, we still talk. He's not using like he did, hopefully following my example. I have 50 days clean time right now. I never can make it past 90 days. I will do it this time, my mind is different this time around. I hit my bottom.
Just remember that you arent alone and neither is he. Show him this forum if he wants to share, we are here for you and him. Even though he may not feel like it, go to NA meetings, just google "narcotics annonymous" in your area. If you want to drop a line to me. PM me. I am here for you. Newcomers are most important to my recovery...
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx to you and your friend xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
carrie
awe wow--my heart goes out to u because i was and am in the SAME boat with you.
boyfriend, pills, not knowing about snorting them, wants to quit......
please let me know if u need anything. im kinda lol'ing because i read ur post and it is so much like my situation!
boyfriend, pills, not knowing about snorting them, wants to quit......
please let me know if u need anything. im kinda lol'ing because i read ur post and it is so much like my situation!
I couldn't work for my life during withdraw but, that's me and i am weak. If work is his 3rd day of detox it will be hard but it may take his mind off of it. There was a thing for me when i quite smoking (the first time, i have since started again) that i call the 3 day hump. after 3 days the worst of my withdrawl was over. it is a handicapped mental game u have to play with yourself. Luckily he has you for support! I would have given anything/would give anything to have some support here. my family has basically disowned me (even they they are both currently using addicts though involuntarily) and support my decision to get back to what i was prescribed Only because they want me to move out. So i know the support system, and would enjoy it, but all you really have is yourself, just remember keeping clean is a day by day challenge through withdraw.
P.S. I am going through heavy withdraw at the moment also, see my other post for my story, This forum is what has saved me from myself. it is my ONLY support. and i am thankfull for it!
Billy B
P.S. I am going through heavy withdraw at the moment also, see my other post for my story, This forum is what has saved me from myself. it is my ONLY support. and i am thankfull for it!
Billy B
Thanks first for your replies and time. Yes this is his first time detoxing. Our 2nd day. Hes not being aggressive or angry like I thought he would ..... Yet anyway. Hes very quit almost sad. Shakes,headache,aches and pains. Eating pretty good. I guess right now Im just letting him know Im here. Gave him a few massages last night they seem to help him relax. Im big on vitamins and such so I started him on some multi vitamins, b 12 that i had.Im sure hes run down and could at least use those. This was a spur of the moment decision so weren t really prepared. He has to go to work tomorrow and advice?
Withdrawl is such a crazy thing, the more I read other posts, the more I believe it's different for everybody. I can absolutely raise my hand in embarrassment and say I've snorted Loratabs before. The main reason being once you're on hydro for so long, that initial high you get when you start using begins to fade and you need to up the dosage. By snorting it, it hits much harder and much faster. I can only speak for myself and the only thing that has really worked for me to get off this sick drug was cutting off my supply, going c/t, and getting the support I need on this website. But on the otherhand lot's of people sware by the amino protocol. (the melatonin did work for sleep for me)There's no way around it, withdrawling s#&ks! Help him stay strong and have him take a look at what has been posted here, me may suprise you and make the change when he sees how many other people have gone through or are currently going through what he is right now. Keep us posted!
Hi there. is this his first time trying to detox? he is not going to be very pleasant to be around, but it sounds like you already know that. have you seen the amino acid protocol at the bottom right side of the forum page? really helps with irritablity, anxiety, depression, sleep, RLS. also, calcium magnesium are good for muscle spasms, melatonin is good for sleep. B12 complex good for energy. he probably won't want to eat but try to get him to, anyway. maybe some soup. also, immodium for diarrhea.
keep posting with questions and just to vent. we are all here to help.
love and light,
Kova
keep posting with questions and just to vent. we are all here to help.
love and light,
Kova
Well hes hisatated to tell me , Opiates are his drug of choice too.And hes been snorting for about 2 years.
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