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[sarabest]

My daughter is an addict and will not quick taking percoset and other pills! After back surgery two weeks ago she is taking 400 tablets in a two week period. Confronted her today about her use and she got very anger and flushed them all.  Now the withdrawals set in.  This is her third time trying to quit.  I live 4 hours away from her and her two kids 5 and 2 what do I do.   Help how do I help her before she dies?  Should I go get her and the kids and have them stay with me?  Tired mom.

[Mousiee]

I am sorry this is happening to  your daughter.  I know it is the hardest on our loved ones because we can just pop the pill and "numb out" while they have to be in the moment and deal with it.  There are many ways you can help your daughter, but she has to WANT to quit, like others have mentioned.  If she doesn't want to, all you can do is be there for her and educate yourself about addiction so you are coming from a place of knowledge when you discuss it with her.

If she does want to stop, you will want to take her to her doctor and describe exactly what she is taking and how much.  Who is prescribing her 400 pills every 2 weeks???  I would suggest not going to that doctor.  Sometimes I think doctors are the real problem.  Anyhow, you may want to find a substance abuse specialist in your area.  I feel it is best to see someone that is truly knowledgeable about addiction, withdrawl and recovery.  You might want to ask him about a drug called Suboxone to help her get off of the pills.  It is a drug that takes away the horrible withdrawl she is feeling when she attempts to stop.  Please Google Suboxone and learn more about it before going to see the doctor.  Or, have him thoroughly explain to your daughter what it is/does.

If you can get your daughter to see an addiction specialist, he/she will hopefully take it from there and get her on a program to wean off of the pills.  The longer she is on these pills, the harder it will be for her to stop.  Educate her about the dangers of addiction (after you first do your research), provide her with reading material if that works better than speaking to her directly.  Let her know you love her and you are there for her.  It may take some time, but she can recover from this.  It is not really safe for her to quit abrubtly if she has been taking them for a long time.  Her body is used to having the drug and the shock of being without it can stop her heart in extreme cases.  If she will not see a doctor, but wants to stop, have her wean off of them by taking less and less each week until she is down to none.

I am not a doctor, nor do I claim to know everything there is to know about addiction.  However, I do know what I experienced first hand (mine too, was a percocet addiction), and I have done extensive research on addiction.  I am just sharing some facts that I learned to hopefully help you and your daughter.  Come to this site often with your questions and for support.  You may also have your daughter join.  It is an excellent site and very informational; and she can join anonomously.  

I wish you and your daughter strength and hope.  She is lucky to have a mother who cares so much.  That is so important in recovery.  Keep reaching out to us; we are here to help one another get through this ugly thing called addiction.

Hugs and support,
Mousie

[scaredmom330]

I am so sorry you are going through this. I have a son that is addicted to soma and alcohol. Unless she is truly serious and wants to quit there is nothing you can do. They have to want to quit. I finally had to do tough love, didnt help but did make my life a little easier. he would call me drunk or so high he couldnt talk. I finally told him I wouldnt talk to him like that and to call when he was sober. Unfortunately I learned from my friends here, he most likely will have to hit dirt bottom before he is ready to quit and me being on him does nothing but upsets me. I wish you and your daughter the best. pm me if you need to talk.

[tylersblueeyedmama]

Wow...I know as a mom and when I had to go through withdrawals, I was more scared of my son seeing me in that condition, ya know!  If you can take her and the kids and she is SERIOUS this time about quitting, then do it!

Please keep us posted :)

[mr.lucky66]

is this just a recent problem? more info. please

[LIZZIE LOU]

does your daughter really want to quit or did she just react to being confronted and flush the pills?