First off it is very encouraging that you seek advice and support for your problem.
Personally I don't take drugs and never have so I am not sure on how helpful I can be to you. Yet, I've been going out with a heroin addict for like 8 months now so I can tell I have some experience.
What I have come to understand is that the hardest part of this process is not dealing with the symptoms of withdrawal. You may stay clean for let's say 6 months and then go back to it again. You see it is not only the physical dependence you need to fight with. You must learn to be strong and you have to change your life style. That is difficult.
I understand that people may not understand your feelings. People - according to my experience - find it hard to trust and help one who is addicted. In your efforts it is more than normal that you will 'fail' sometimes. Trust me, it is not a 'failure'. This is not how you should see it. It is an EFFORT.
It is easy for us (non-addicts) to turn our backs and say 'what more I can do?... nothing' but this is our mistake. It is us that we are supposed to be the ones thinking with a clear mind. It is us free of the bodily pains who must be patient and offer as much help as we are asked for. By this I mean to say that both your father and brother should also seek help to learn how they can help you.
To try to quit on your own is the hard way especially when you don't have one encouraging you. Going to a rehab is the best thing you can do. But keep in mind even after completing a program you will have to work on things.
My boyfriend has been in such programs twice and is still taking heroin. It makes me sick to hear some of the people around him calling this a 'failure'. They have lost their hopes and by that they make him believe there is no hope for him. But there's always hope as long as you are willing to quit.
How hard you will try and through what methods depends on you. I am not one of those who believe that being harsh to drug addicts help them. Letting them - you - on their own for me is a mistake. You see, even if I am not an addict I can tell how hard it is to quit. If only it was as easy as some people think!
Never let people disappoint you in your efforts. Never let them disappoint you with what you will end up using the drug but always try to think of what you can do without it. A whole lot more!
Being on the other side I think you should try to talk with your father and brother and explain to them that you will need their help with it. Make it clear to them that whether they are willing to do so or not you will try as hard as you can to help yourself. Do not allow anyone - NOBODY - be an obstacle in your efforts in any way. You have to think of ways to make a support group around you. Just as you did coming in this forum.
A year ago you would ask me my thoughts of drug addicts... you wouldn't like me to tell you how I used to feel about them. Now that I CHOSE to put myself in this situation by CHOOSING to date a drug addict I realized that my bubble world was just that: a bubble world. And in that world drug addicts were a stigma. I feel so bad and disgusted from these thoughts of mine. So make sure you keep away people who think the way I used to think in the past.
And never ever have feelings of guilt or shame. Just keep up with your efforts. You are young so there is plenty of time and strength to fulfill your goal.
I noticed you didn't mention your mother? May I ask why?
I too am a former heroing addict, junkie for more than ten year that tried to get clean from 20 years of age onwards - can you tell us more about what facilities/detoxes/rehabs/counselling is available in your country? I personally think that to get off and STAY off heroin most people need extra help. The demon is too strong to fight with just will power - I am sure after 3 years of addiction you have experienced that yourself.
I so wish that you get clean now - I wasted my 20's stoned and sick - my youth, my looks, the time of irresponsible freedom and fun that most people experience I spent chasing dealers, coming up with money, vomiting, staring at the four walls of my room and facing my angry and distraught family. I so wish it could be different for you.
Your right about quiting heroin being so hard but sometimes I think back to those days and think it must not have been that hard cause I did it a hundred times,lol. It was that staying quit that kept trippin me up. Keep helping and peace,,,I"m pretty sure alot of christians have addiction problems. Its not what you are but who you are,,gl
thx alot for considering my problem.....i wasn't expecting dat much quick response......i have read all the advices...i will try them and then let u know what i have found about da cure.......thx and mr.lucky66......i wont use methadone.....cze i know using methadone iz like shifting from one addiction to another....agan thx alot for being in conversation......
Seek help somehow. Either give in and ask your parents, find a church (they have recovering addicts that can help you), or it will 'get' you. I have lost two brothers, too young, to heroin o.d.'s. Call Dr. Phil's program and he'll help you. Do something before it's too late. The more you go on, the harder it will be to kick. My prayers are with you. You're too young to die. Good luck to you.
I was in your place many years ago and feel for you. If you want to quit dope (heroin) or all narcotics, you have to really want to. I wanted to quit when I was young too but wanted to get high more, I guess. Once you become addicted to dope and become" bitten by the dope bug", it takes a lot of continued sustained effort to stay off of it, either becoming a christian, going to a program or maybe some other way. One thing I would not recomend would be methadone. all the best
18 years old? I am sorry. Heroin is my drug of choice, and I know how hard it is to get off of.
Have you considered going into a treatment center? You will find people your age, with the same problems that you can relate to. You will also good counselors to help you with the problems that are causing you to use in the first place. Please consider this option, quitting on your own is near impossible.
Hope you will continue to post and listen to the people here. You will get good advise. Good luck.