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[dawnella78]

My husband was on pain management for 10 years after back surgery. 3 years ago, I notice his behavior  started to change. Then  his pills were getting lost, washed and all the other excuses on why he needed more. Then he decided he was getting off of them and he went to rehab. 30 days later you could see the change but he never admitted to being an "addict" he would always say that he never abused them just became dependant. For the last couple years, he has admitted to getting again and being clean for awhile. Well now is a complete different story. His doctor was stripped of his license for some shady crap and now we can not find a doctor that will touch him with a ten foot pill. With saying that, things have really changed. His attitude, behavior, he stays outside alot, on the phone, never wants to have anything to do with me...and I have found some cut straws, aluminum foil with burnt streaks and a pill container with white powder. Can some body please tell me what this is?! I've asked him, he says I'm crazy and he is clean. I first thought he was snortting pills. Now I Bel eve its something else, meth possibly. I'm loosing my mind and I know I'm not crazy. If anyone has advice for me I'd greatly appreciate it.

[dawnella78]

As for rehab that was 3 years ago. He never went to a meeing after. Said he was fine....hes told me he has been clean for months at a time. I know he is in pain with his back, but this ia not the way to deal!

[dawnella78]

I asked of he was snortting pills and he said no. I asked him of otvwas crystal meth or heroin and he said it was some apoxy stuff he was using on things!! Really?? Im that stupid. Anyway, i assumed itvwas crystal meth ir heroin but waa praying to god not! He denies it all but on some days says he will take a drug test. I am going to get one and pop it on him. From what im aware of he never used street drugs before. He has always worked and provided for us, but lately he is very forgetful and not much help around the house. Thank you all and ibwill keep in touch.

[gnarly_1]

Hi....well it sound like he is smoking heroin....with that said have you confronted him about the tinfoil with black streaks and the small straws  normal people do not have that kind of thing laying around....it sad he did not embrace the help in rehab  denil kills  he has to admit he has a problem b/4 you can do any thing to help him  I would try a talk if that dont work a family intervention may be your best bet  keep posting for support.............Gnarly...................

[Trixie_007]

The foil and straws are typically used for smoking drugs. It could be Heroin, or it could be certain types of pills. I would recommend watching the show Intervention on Lifetime/A&E. It's on Tuesdays right now. It's also on Netflix. It will show you what an addict's behavior is like, and it will educate you as to what you should be looking for.

Good luck!

[oxypain101]

I would have to agree with Debbie.

when i was using i would lie about everything and make excuses why i needed more pills.  I hope he snaps out of and gets honest with you.  once he admits he has a problem you will be able to help him.  It all start with a back injury and leads to abuse.  happened to me.  i never use street drugs but pills are not any better.  i always thought because i was successful and my dr was giving me the meds it was ok.  It was not ok.  i was a drug user just like ppl smoking crack herion coke same @hit

[atthebeach]

Hello dawnella and welcome. I am sorry for what you are going through.
I have been there. No you are not crazy. They would want us to believe that. It is not them and their addiction it is us. They will make every excuse in the world to take the blame off of themselves. They will twist the situation around,  manipulate and turn the blame on us.

I am sorry to say it sounds like he is smoking heroin.

I am not sure how long ago he was in rehab and how long he was "clean".
But the fact is if his behavior is off, acts shady, you are finding proof, he isn't
In some kind of therapy, support groups, church, is being defensive, then is sure sounds like he is still or is using again.

If he is being honest and has nothing to hide ask him to take a urine test to prove it. If that doesn't go well and he gets more defensive about not being trusted and won't take the test you ha e your definite answer.

I would suggest you take care of yourself because I know how sick and tir d we can get. We need recovery and healing too. Please get some therapy, talk to a pastor, go to an al-anon meeting. You wil get the support you need.

Until he is honest with himself he will not be honest with you. Until he is sick and tired of being sick and tired he won't stop.

We are here for you.
Sending prayers.
There is always hope.
Keep the faith.
Debbie