Well well well........This has to be a first!!! See all the good things that come from being clean!! Feels alot better being positive doesnt it!!! Nice to see this today James. sara
Thank you sara. I think i needed a bit of tough love and not just from kim but from my other family (MH). Its the first time iv wrote down the positive things and thought really hard about what it would be like to live like that again. Its just a no no, so im going to try my hardest to be more positive as i didnt really realise how many good things have come out of it. I know good things did come out of it but didnt realise there was so many and i think i have to much time thinking when i am in myself so im tring to think of a new hobby. I have started playing chess over the last couple of days and thats helped a lot as its a real thinking game plus im playing against a computer and iv only won once lol but its better than none and ill get better at it. Thank you everyone James
Hey! So glad to read that you are out of the negativity at the moment. I find it SO helpful to remind myself daily of all I did NOT lose, as well as that which I have gained.
A dear friend sent me this quote today, and I am going to share it with you now...hope it works for you the same way it worked for me! (well, without the tears) (:
"It's not what you ARE that holds you back, it's what you think you're not"
Thanks Otis, for the quote!
I'm so glad you didn't take my post in the wrong way. I just wanted you to know that sometimes we have to look for the positive when it seems like there are only negatives. When I am feeling down I always sit there and think of at least 10 positive things. They are always there! So thank you for understanding my post. I just want you to be happy and move on with your life. You deserve nothing but the best! You have done what many cannot do. Be very proud of yourself! Hang in there buddy! The cravings will pass if you let them.
Best of luck to both you and Kim!
Now this is a positive post finally, lol. James as long as you keep trying and hold onto your clean time, that is one thing nobody can take away from you. It's ok to feel down or angry at times, but being positive can actually change our lives a lil bit. Focus on the good, get rid of the bad. It was nice to read this from ya buddy. Get some lovin from Kim tonight, that will keep ya positive, haha.
A knew i had some positives but the more i thought the more came out it was amazing feelings and i realised i had a lot more positives than i thought. I value everyones opinion as i see it if someone can take the time to write to me then their opinion is worth it as they have taken the time to help me. And bmdad i honestly would never take your opinion in a bad way. I value our opinion as you say we are all addicts and have been there so we all know what its like and i took a lot out of your answer, it helped me a lot, thank you. I value all of your opinions and i think it was what i maybe needed. Im not saying everything will be perfect from now on but i know how to change the negatives into positives better now thanks to you all. The chess helps with the cravings a lot too. Im also trying to think of other things to occupy my mind as kim even said i think too much and im dangerous when i think too much lol. Still baby steps but theyr getting bigger. I now know i havew to learn to walk before i can run and i think i maybe expected too much too soon. Thanks to you all ... James p.s. Oh Gizzy Kims going to kill you she says lol but she never refuses my lovin ha ha thanks bud thats another nice night in lol
I AM SO PROUD OF YOU!!!!!!!!! THIS IS WHAT I HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR !!!!! keep it up you are on the right track James you are getting it you have not lost anything you have gain EVERYTHING your whole life back and its going to be a great one ......
I posted this on the recovery group for you we were talking about negatives of using which you did and I am so proud you did the postives on your own thats a big step anyway this was my post it might not make since to everyone
James thats what I am talking about this you dont miss that !!!! The next thing I was going to have you do was list all of the postive life changes when you are clean but you did it all on your own ...You are making some great steps forward keep it that way. Write on paper a list of both the postives of being clean and the negitives of useing put it somewhere you can see it everyday. So when you do have a rough patch you will see it and read it !!!!!!
Well after writing all the negatives that came to mind i thought well lets see what positives i have i could not beleive it they just kept comeing and made me real happy i never though i had so many positives thanks for the tough love just what i needed and as for the others that answered my post well i take everything bi can and will use it in positive ways you did me proud Avis i am going to start my mornings with positive thinking i wont say i will never have another bad day but i can see more positives that tough love done me wonders i even changed my mood thank you Avis and MH YOU ARE ALL SO AMAZING PEOPLE THANKS FOR THE HELP AND THE CHANGES HERES TO A KNEW JAMES IT WAS A REAL GOOD EXPEREANCE WRITING ALL THE GOOD THINGS DOWN and Avis im going to start my positives against my negatives so i thank you all sooooo much James
It's always good to think about the good, but it's so easy to start dwelling on the bad. Just work on that and keep these positive posts and thoughts coming. When your having a bad day, we are still here to listen and it's ok to whine sometimes, I like to whine every now and then too. We are men, it's in our nature to complain, lmao. Congrats to both of you on that clean time, I am proud of you:)
That is what i needed giz a feel so happy tonight iv got this big grin on my face i never thought about all the good things like more money so my days will start with positive thinking thats a great tool to have i also agree that every day wont be great but if i can have 4 good days i will be so happy thanks bud you all helped me wiyh your answers to my post i take it all in and use what is best for me you all helped so much and Avis tough love and write down the neegativesand there were lots but the positives i could not stop typing i never thought about all the good that came from my 200 plus days clean thatsmy bigest positive so far it changed my mood write after i wrote it thanks for the help Giz James
The best thing for me about being clean is my boys saying" hey my dad doesn't drink anymore "The time we have spent together in the last few months have been incredible.I am now physically sick but I'll take that any day over addiction.I regret what my life could have been without addiction but i can only look forward now.I pray everyday that my kids choose not to be addicted and tell them everyday that drugs cause only pain,imprisonment,and death. We like to go camping/build tree houses,go hiking,work on old cars,ride motorcycles,and target practice with our 22's. WE NOW GO TO CHURCH EVERY SUNDAY. They take mixed martial arts 2 days a week.If I keep them busy maybe they'll never turn to drugs.I just want to be a real dad cause i've missed alot.
This post has done my Heart so well.. Thank you James I'm very Proud of You !! Warm hugs letakos
a got up this morning hhad breakfast way kim something i have not done for ages i started to get a bit negative. But shanged that myself by thinking of all those good things that have come from my clean time and iv had some fun in the snow and a big smile on my face ah ddont know how to thank you all for that but i will anyway thank you everyone who has helped me through the bad times but here vome the good times and hhope it stays this way James
Congrats on day 2 of being positive!!!!!!!!!! YeeeeHaaaaaaaaa!!
Good on you James !! It takes practice this is for sure Our minds are very powerful and the way we think effects everything and everybody around us.. I'm proud of you for taking the steps to make your life so much more fulfilling !! love ya letakos
Way to go James!!! As you now know there are always many positives no matter how many negatives there are. Sometimes we just have to find them. They don't have to be anything crazy either. A positive could be listening to that bird chirping outside your window. A very simple positive but can also be a very rewarding one. Hearing that bird shows life. A life that you fought for and got back.
The positive list could go on and on.
Keep pushing forward James. You are doing an amazing job!!
James...with your new positive attitude you are probably a heck of a lot more fun to live with and your life will be better.People will enjoy being around you and I have to say that your accomplishments are amazing.You should hold your head high and be proud for you are showing some wonderful character traits.Drop the past and live in the present and future for there is still alot of good future ahead of you.you may have moments of feelings of self pity,but just give yourself a kick in the but and keep moving with a smile on your face.Good work..and don't dwell on the past anymore..you can not change it,but you sure can have control of the future.
Really great to see this post! Good Work James!!
Love to you and Kim!
this was sooooooo good to read.....
Thanx James! Keep on the sunny side of life my Friend!!!
Sending you tons of love (not tough one this time!!! lol) and hugs.