my dad and methadone

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Ok, I'm not sure how any of this site works, so im just going to wing it, im 23 and to save face you can call me Kitten. people have for years. My dad is addicted to methadone, has been for as long as i can remember.... well actualy since i was about 14. he takes it for back pain but now its just cause he can... it tareing our family apart, he has made drug deals with nabiors from it long long agaio he has let us go hungry by useing the last bit of money to buy pills he get mentaly abuseive and even a littin heavy on the hand with the grand kids.... but i dont know what to do any more we have had him put in the hosptial... rehab... nothing is helping, an my mom... welll she keeps his pills and try to control his intake but he gets so mean and crazy and **** and she gives in, out hold house walk on egg shells..... that are coverd in flameing glass...... to keep him pleased so we dont set him off... not to long agaio he wanted to take way to many and we were trying to get the bottel from him so he didnt and he was calling us name and throwing things and well the cops got called..... JUST SO HE COULD HAVE THOSE DAM PILLS he lied to them saying my mom hit him.... they took my mom to jail.... her 4 year old gradn daught got to watch her go to jaill.... thats all over with no tho... but the other night mom was being rushed to the hospital they thought she was having a stroke!!! Dad refused to leave with out his pills cause we hid them from him.... he is always falling asleep and hell at age 13 14 15 I could not have friends over cause my mother and I were scared they would see how he acted.... we try so hard not to make him mad and it dont work... its so hard to watch him do this hes killing him self and emotionaly killing every one who loves him... any one got any advice??? im scared i dont want to lose my daddy to a pill... please help me this is all so hard

gnarly_1 · Answer

hang in there you did the right thing...

peppyapple · Answer

i dont think mom would go.... and he is disabled.... dont work.. and cant keep friends.... im kinda scared... i just sent an email to the website of his docs office and turned him and the doc in.... if he finda out he will never forgive me... god i hope this dose not bite me in the ***.... thank you both! we will see what happends from here

bugsy89735 · Answer

Well,,thats a story,,,wow,,gnarly has given you some good info,,, I am feeling your pain,, YOUR DAD needs to wake up,, does he have any clean friends?? does he work?? Maybe one of his friends can wake his *** up??? This is just wrong and has to stop immediately,, You go down to the clinic and tell the DR that you are reporting him the the States Physician Board and You will spread the news to all the other medical clinics in the area on how NEGLIGENT this DR is!!! YOU MUST GET HIS ATTENTION,,,go with your mom and give that DR a peace of your mind,, Tell him he is abusing his oath and YOU will report him..try to get the records of prescription refills from all the pharmacy's and make copies and throw them in the DR's face....THIS IS SERIOUS!!!!,,,I hope you do this and I hope you let us know on what happened....Peace and Love  Bugz

gnarly_1 · Answer

HI try and google social services of the state your in..otherwise you can probably find it in the phone book...

peppyapple · Answer

how do i contact one??? where do i go? and how do i do it with out him knowing??? i live with him and my mom

gnarly_1 · Answer

HI DONT GIVE UP !! you may need to get a court ordered detox for him if he is as abusive as you say and is noding off all the time and showing sighs of abuse get a hold of a social worker and try to get some help they will know how to direct you in your particular state
I know this sound extream  but it sounds like you have tried everything else I cant believe the dr keeps prescribing him more when he runs out early sounds like the dr is in it for the money and not the well being of his pacents ...try and hang in there a bit longer there will be and end to this thing it just may take jumping thew a few more hoops to get there
good luck and God bless.....Gnarly

peppyapple · Answer

The doc knows.... dad will run out of a month script in 2 to 3 week and the doc will wright him some more.... he has to know when dad sits in his office falling asleep cause he is so doped up!!! but thank you very much... i just dont know what to do any more.... im so sad i really and truely give up... witch is not like me at all!

gnarly_1 · Answer

HI im sorry your going thew this...your dad is abusing the methadone normally if taken correctly you dont get high on it but by his behavior I can tell you he is taking it to get high on it...many people dont think you can get high on methadone ...im here to tell you you can...I have done it...if your dose is say 50mg and you take 100mg your going to wind up high as a kite on the stuff this sounds like what your dad is doing hence he gets angry
when someone trys to control how much he takes...you need to get a hold of the dr or clinic that he is getting it from and report him...you can be weened off methadone safly
I weened myself off but it doeset sound like he is ready for that ...but the dr or his clinic
does have control and there not giving it to him to abuse it they need to know... try this approach and see where it gets you  post back and let us know..mean wile try and hang in there if you cant leave all together good luck and God bless....Gnarly

peppyapple · Answer

I think she about ready to, shes reached a breaking point with him... but the thing is It hurts so bad... Im scared if we put him out he will end up on the side of the road shotting up or something but i think your right... and Id like to thank you and and any one elase who posted to this... I cant believe how much better it feels to let all this out... iv been holding all this in for many years, so thank you, its hard to believe a few words on a screen have lifted a bit of weight off me....

cathy5841 · Answer

Peppy, I feel your pain. It mite be time for some tough love. Can your mom ask him to leave til he gets help. He needs to realize where his life is and what the pills cost him. I am sorry you are going through this n there is no real help til he wants it.

peppyapple · Answer

thank you both very much, the thing is that we have tryed to have the cops take him and he lied to them and my mother went to jail insted they never listen to us, I am strongly thinking about turning his doc in for writeing more scripts when he not due for another 15 days and so forth i just dont know how i would go about it... iv have even tryed turning him in when he gose to the hospital for what ever reason i go hunt the doc down and tell them and they say theres nothing they can do... its gotten so bad that about a week agaio i got very sick and my doc sent me to the er do to no appointment... and the hospital actulay to me that because i lived at that addy i could not have painkillers cause our addy was red flagged for pain visits i sat there for 4 hours crying cause i hurt so bad till another doc came in and saw that i was not trying to get a fix and knocked my happy *** out.... my point is that.... i mean its bad that it even happend... i just dont know what to do i feel so alone... but thank you for trying to help... sometimes i wonder if im on here for him, or me... but i just want my dad back!

Mollyrae · Answer

I should have also added that if your Dad refuses to change, it may be time for you and your Mom to leave.

Please let us know what happens....
Molly

Mollyrae · Answer

My, My...I feel bad for you Kitten. Your Dad needs help in the worst way. I feeel that the bottom line here is to get him into rehab and the only way you're going to do that is to call the police and have him taken by force. You need to explain to the officer what your Dad is putting you through. 

I feel that the first thing to do is call your local Social Service and talk with them. They can give you excellent advise on how to do this. DON'T feel bad for what you may do, it's in the families best interest.

Your Dad is NOT thinking clearly at the moment and won't until the drugs are out of his system. Please don't be afraid to do this. Many families have been helped this way.

My thoughts are withyou.
Mollyrae

cathy5841 · Answer

Hi peppy, such a sad story...and sadder is the fact you cant help him until he wants help...BUT you need to take care of you and your mom needs to take care of her...he made these choices and it seems he has been offered help (rehab) and didnt want  it...until he is ready, not much you can do...have you and mom tried any al-anon meetings?  they are support group for the family of addicts...they can help you alot...keep posting, maybe someone can offer some advice and there is lots of good support here...