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[coastie333]

first question.  even though friends and family have warned me for years, i just came to the realization that i need help.  is there a such thing as successfully cutting back, or is it an all or none situation.

[road2recovery]

I also beleive that things happen for a reason...Sometimes we just dont' know why at the time...Just very happy for you and him that things turned out this way!!  

Coastie---  I am not sure about finding a place without your job knowing...Others here may be able to help with that one...But i just wanted to say what great strenght it shows you have to consider this option....You can do this..
good luck
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[kim715]

I have sent you an invitation to be a friend.Please keep reading and posting.We are all here to support you.Peace.

[coastie333]

how does valium or librium help?  i would love to go to an inpatient facility or a detox for a few days.  how do i find something like that in my area.  also,  i am well known in my profession.  if this news gets out it could be the end of my career.  can this be done    anonymously.  i have never been to AA, but how can it be anonymous when you say "hello, my name is neal, and i am an alcoholic"

[kim715]

Thankyou my friend,but I don't know that I saved his life.I give most of the credit o the man up above for helping him to see the light ,if you will.Life is funny though just as his addiction stopped mine began.The tables turned on him and he soon found himself finding yet another reason to live and breathe recovery.He had to help to show me the light.Which he did and if it's even possible to I love him more now.My heart always breaks when I read that someone feels that they can't tell their spouse about their addiction.I feel so fortunate to have someone right next to me who knows just what I mean and just how I feel.Everything in life happens for a reason,so perhaps we were brought together to save eachother.In any case God is good and Life is worth living again.Much love.  

[coastie333]

thank all of you for replying to me.  again i am new here and just now looking for help after 11 years of drinking this heavy.  i am definetly going to be reposting and looking for support.  i am looking for some friends on here. would someone please tell me how to "request a friend".  i am just now learning my way around this site.

[road2recovery]

WOW----thanks for sharing that...You saved his life by leaving him, and stopped enabling him, which know was tough for you to do..
What a great happy ending!!!
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[kim715]

Welcome,you have come to the right place for help and support.My husband is a recovering alchoholic,sober 3 years now.He was a hardcore drinker for most of his life,he is 49.Most days by 3pm he was already drunk.His breakfast consisted of 2 rum and cokes or 2 or 3 16 ounce ponders just to stop the shakes so he could go to work and always packed a 6-pack in his lunch cooler.His drinking caused lots of problems,a couple DUI's,some stays in the drunk tank,fights,family having enough and distancing themselves from him.A doctor once told him his liver was so bad that if he continued to drink like he was he would be dead soon,but that didn't stop him.He even knew first hand what this could do because he watched his dad die at 54 because of drinking.Over the years he had gone to rehab and would stay clean for a little while but  then he would think he could handle it and take that first drink and that would just start the ball rolling downhill and he would soon be back to drinking everyday.Three years ago I couldn't take it and I packed up and moved out.His mother had since passed away,and his two sisters' had enough,so all he had was his drinking buddies to depend on.He moved in with a friend and his wife who were both heavy drinkers also.He no longer had anyone around to see to it that he had a clean house,or clean laundry,or a descent meal on the table,or to make sure that all his money didn't get spent on booze and that the rent and bills got paid and he had his basic necessities.He got to see first hand what it was like to live with an alchoholic,because he was living with two of them.He would have to break up fights between his 'friend' and his wife because when they would drink they would go after eachother physically.I didn't speak to him for a little over 3 months.I moved,changed my cell phone number and had decided to file for divorce,eventhough I believed he was the love of my life,I couldn't stand to watch him rot away like he was,and I didn't want to help him kill himself anymore by picking up the pieces everytime he messed up.Everytime he would drink I would lose him.He didn't understand why I said that,but eventhough he was physically there,it wasn;t him.In fact the person he turned into was someone who if he were sober he would hate.I guess being around people who were just like him must have made him see what I meant.When we were together he was a functioning alchoholic,but only because I was doing the functioning for both of us.My husband went into a 5 day detox,trying to detox from alchohol without a doctors' care can be fatal,so please seek medical attention to do this.They can prescribe medication so that you don't have seizures,the seizures can kill you.Once he detoxed he set up outpatient care with a therapist who had him on some anxiety and depression medication for a while and he faithfully attended AA meetings.He continues the AA meetings to this day.He has turned back into the man I never wanted to live without 7 days a week ,365 days a year.Although he has been sober for 3 years now he cannot drink,not even one.Just as I am an addict in recovery he is a recovering alchohol,always.I wish you all the luck,know that YOU CAN DO THIS.My husband and I both will keep you in our prayers.Peace.

[Brrrrad]

Hey Man, This forum is a good place to be to help you. I was in your place a few yrs ago and was drinking vodka and beer everyday. I actually towards the end did`nt feel that good until i had my first BIG swig out of the bottle strait.It got to the point that 80 proof did`nt affect me i had to have 100 proof.
For me now; I know i could not "cut back" i loved that feeling way to much.I was drinking that heavy for atleast acouple yrs. It got to the point that my legs were going numb,and my left side hurt so bad until i got that first big drink of the day. It was terrible
There is hope and a great future ahead of you. The people here are totally awesome and will help you along the way.If you need anything just throw me a pm.You have your whole NEW future rite around the corner and many good peep`s here to help you.

[Rose703]

Welcome to the forum!!

It sounds like you have an alcohol problem and that you're ready to quit. Have you ever attended an AA meeting? My mother was an alcoholic and going CT off of alcohol is tough and you really need something like Valium or Librium to take.
Do you have the option of going into an inpatient facility for a few days?

As you know that's alot of alcohol to consume each week and your liver is already showing damage from it. Please keep posting and more people will come on here and help you.  

[coastie333]

sorry it has taken me so long to reply.  i am new here and just found my way back to this forum.  weekdays is 6-10 drinks. mostly vodka and coke, then i switch to beer till i go to sleep. this 6-10 drinks sometimes goes up to12 or more and if i decide to go to the bar during the week it is much more.  weekends i try to wait till 3pm for my 1st drink, but sometimes don't make it until 3pm.  i drink approximately a half gallon (the big plastic bottle) of vodka and 2-3 cases (24pk) of miller lite a week.  my liver enzymes (ALT, AST)  are approximately double the upper end limit.

[road2recovery]

Do u mean 6-10 drinks , beers??  I really think it is not possible to cut back, but  may be too dangerous to just stop .
or do u mean from 6pm to 10pm?
r2r

[coastie333]

alcohol.  weekdays- 6-10.  weekend days 3pm until i pass out.

[road2recovery]

Welcome....Depends on so many things..What is your Doc, and how much??
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