recovering addict husband on so many meds

[twinkledeb]

hi again
thank you all so much for answering my last post. it's really great to know there are people out there that understand what i am going through. anyway my question to all of you is have you ever heard of a recovering xanax addict being prescribed effexer, adderall, amphetimine salt clonopin pills and klonopolin wafers.(all at the same time/) it seems like so many meds to me unless there is some mental issue i am unaware of? i want out of this marriage and he doesnt even though we dont speak or have anything to do with eachother. we also have 5 kids together. but he spends very little time with them. he thinks he is perfect(has said so) sees no reason to go for help besides going to doc to write him more scripts(she had wanted him to go to therapy, AA meetings and rehab but he refused)i really dont think he is using any other drugs besides what she is prescribing
any help understanding this would be great

[LIZZIE LOU]

good morning...

is this the same doctor who helped support his xanax habit?   does your husband suffer from panic disorder...does he have panic attacks?

it never ceases to amaze me at how ignorant some doctors are.   they can be an addict's biggest enabler...even when they know there is an addiction going on.  

kim  

[twinkledeb]

hi thanks for answering so quickly
yes it is the same doctor she actually speacilizes in addiction!
i dont get it unless there must be some mental illness as well?
it just seems like so much medication and he is not the same since before the addiction started 4 years ago
he has been seeing her for years now but she does not return my emails or phonecalls. i guess he told her not to. i dont know what to do especially cause of the  children . i dont think its safe for them to be with them . he lashes out of nowhere at them and then is nice the next minute. they are totaly scared of him and i dont blame them.

[LIZZIE LOU]

aawwhh sweetie...i am so sorry that you and your kids have been put in this situation...one that was not part of the plan...so to speak.

i'm sure that you have looked up all these different meds. on the computer.  it sounds like there must be some depression w/panic attacks along with attention deficit disorder.   does he have panic attacks?  have you ever witnessed any?   seems strange to me that your husband is still seeing his "addiction specialist" for this long and is still using and abusing...whatever he and she are doing...is not working.

will your husband let you go to his doctor appts. with him?  this way you can be involved and ask as many questions as needed.

i, personally, would never let him live another day in that house as long as his addiction is affecting the kids as you have stated.   it he wants to continue the life of addiction...he can do it elsewhere.   there is no one...and i mean no one...more important than my kids...and i would do whatever it took to ensure they live a healthy and productive life.   what they live now will shape there future.

i hope you find peace sweetie...

huggs,
kim

[twinkledeb]

thanks kim
i cant tell him to leave because he wont listen. right now he is laying low because he knows that i went to a divorce lawyer. I keep thinking its all my fault because i never threw him out when he was addicted to xanax years ago. we totaly do not speak at all(except for him to scream at me for some reason) and when i emailed his doctor she did not respond but he screamed at me that i am an idiot to email her
we recently tried counsling and the therapist threw him out because all he did was put me down and say he is perfectand only i need help   the only thing he could think to say about me was that i did not finish a needlepoint that i started!!
but its ok that he is missing for a few days straight and goes straight to the bed after work. he eats all his food which is mostly chocolate in bed from a fridge in our closet. he keeps bread and turkey in there and makes sandwiches in bed. i geuss i was pretending this was all normal but its really not
anyway sorry for babbling and thanks for your kind help
twinkle

[elvistcb]

I was on xanax for 9 years, and am now on valium taper. I was on xanax 2 milligrams a day equivalent to 40 milligrams of valium. i crossed over to 20 milligrams of valium to slowly taper off. i am down to ten now. and once in a great while i take a 1 milligram xanax if things are real bad. My doctor wanted to switch me to klonopin also and i told him no. Xanax and Klonopin are the two strongest benzos around with such a half life in the body. Switching to Valium is a true and tried success for many, many people. Its half life can be up to 150 hours. Getting off of benzos is ten times harder than opiates. I would rather come off of a heroin addiction compared to benzos. The average benzo user takes about 6-18 months to feel normal, give or take. I have done extensive research on them and am also on a forum if you want any help. Hope this helps                         Elvis

[twinkledeb]

i still dont understand why he is on 5 other medications

[paulfan1]

do something for yourself
i believe a day at the pennisula spa might be a start?.....