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ok well I'm in a relationship with someone who has a problem with addiction she was a heroin addict for a couple years and started on pills before that when we meet she wasn't using but she was going to a methadone clinic I mean she is the most beautifulest person I ever meet in my life we been together for quite some time and we are very much in love she recently was determine to give up the methadone and go to rehab but we found out she's pregnant and now they say she has no choice but to stay on methadone it's just all this is really hard for me especially since I'm not an addict or do I use I had a bad pill problem a few years ago that lasted about a year but I quit on my own and felt with the week withdrawal and the about 2 months after that I still didn't quite feel myself and never looked back I have no desire to get high or does it even cross my mind so sometimes it's hard for me to know exactly where she's coming from or what she might be thinking I support her in everyday I can think of I make sure the things I say are supportive and not demeaning to how she sees herself it's just hard sometimes she still stays in contact with friends that use they still call her and there's always a sense of temptation and I feel like there's not much I can do I don't want to tell her you shouldn't be talking to this one or that one or push her away from me or make her just do things behind my back I just guess I'm asking for someones opinion or similar story to offer ne hope that this isn't a losing battle and ways I could maybe communicate with her about the risky situations she puts herself in and that these people from the clinic who still use and ask her where to get **** at are not her friends and express my concerns without her shutting down her feelings with me I mean she is so beatify and a wonderful person and I love her so much I just want us to beat this and not lose her to addiction
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1563401 tn?1296593413
hey ,you know ,my husband came with me ,at the angle you fear of taking,the more aggressive angle,and he saved mmy life.Dont be afraid to tell someone how you feel ,especially someone you love,the fact that she is pregnant,i would and should think it makes you more aggressive,you need to protect her and your child,if it makes you look like an ******* to someone who isnt serious enuffabout straightening their lives out so what!You can be supportive by caring,it doesnt mean your nagging.theres two people there now ,and one is completely innocent to the world,methadone is beneficial thru her prgnancy,if shes on it ,she casnt get high,ifshe wasnt ,stone sober clean she would be more likely to continue...painpills was my thing i went to a methadone clinic 2 yrs ago and just got off 1 week ago today,You can never do too much ,when you love someone,and tho you look like your naggin and ridin her,when she looks back she will appreciate that it was a crucial step in her recovery...Danielle
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1481358 tn?1288295091
Have her read what you posted. If that doesnt get her thinking right bro I dont know what will. You know its up to her. Theres not alot you can do. Shes gotta get the point you did when you quit. She gotta be in that  mind set. For some of us we get help for your addiction in time and for some of we dont. Its really sad. Im sorry your in this spot man. I really am. It hits home because I know how my ex wife was feeling, just like you...
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287981 tn?1297035068
Beating her addiction is going to be up to her..You can't change someone or force them to want to change..No one can tell you whether or not its a losing battle but her. You should tell her how you feel and how worried you are..Good luck!!
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