wife on the edge

[wife on edge]

My husband broke his neck and had surgery cervical laminoplasi (i cant spell) well anyways he has been going to pain management and getting 120 roxis a month and he tells me he is not addicted but lately he doesnt come home  after work and when he is home he is so wired - running all over the place I am affraid he will over do it and hurt himself more. Well I just found out he is snorting the roxi and drinking very heavily and does it around my babies - he says he is aloud to do this drug because it is perscribed - but I dont think he should be snorting them and drinking. I am a little scared being around him with my kids because he is very much on edge and freaks out, and breaks things. Did I mention he used to have a cocaine addition inwhich he stoped over 5 years ago!  What can I do to help him? Will he get worse - we have lost a friend this year because of the roxi and I dont want him to be next! Help me help him!

[Calzy]

When i was popping one pill after another and driving around with my kids i thought i was in control. I did some pilling and drinking off and on in the mid 90's and i had no business driving myself around let alone my kids and i would look my wife in the eyes and say i'm fine, just tired. Thank God no one was injured. I am just now ending my battle. I wish i could talk to your husband and show him the road ahead but i hope you can reach him soon. If i only would have listened to my ex-wife when she was trying to help me but i had to wait until she was gone to hear her. Try to tell your husband there are alot of people trying to work their pain mgmt the same way he is and see if he will look at this site. Tell him you will leave him alone if he will just look at the site. Just pull it up for him and let him start reading and just walk away and see if this might help. It's just hard for him to show a weak side, you know the male ego thing. Just a thought.

[tooklastdose]

you would benefit from Al Anon

[BonnieAnn]

I am so sorry.
Saying that he is allowed to do the drug because it was prescribed is addict behavior at it's best. Did the doc tell him to snort them and drink too? PHEW! He is justifying.
He won't get clean unless he realizes he is abusing the drugs so, my concern is for you.

If you honestly feel threatened, or you feel he may hurt the children, then get away from him. Take care of yourself and your babies. I know it's hard hun, but you have protect you and them.

Please keep checking the post. There are a lot of people in this forum, maybe one or more them has had a similar experience and can help you.

God Bless, Bonnie

[marcatj]

he has to want to quit.

all you can do if you've talked to him about this already is threaten to leave. OR leave. you can't make him stop...

i am so, so sorry.  i would also get some support for yourself...

hopefully someone else will jump on here and give you more advice, but honestly, "tough love" is the only thing i can see here.  and taking care of your children and yourself - first and foremost.  since you can't make him do anything..

good luck to you....
mj

[marcatj]

he has to want to quit.

all you can do if you've talked to him about this already is threaten to leave. OR leave. you can't make him stop...

i am so, so sorry.  i would also get some support for yourself...

hopefully someone else will jump on here and give you more advice, but honestly, "tough love" is the only thing i can see here.  and taking care of your children and yourself - first and foremost.  since you can't make him do anything..

good luck to you....
mj