what feelings do they go though?

[sadcc]

My husband has struggled off an on with a drug addiction. The past two years have been the hardest. He is currently in a "rehab community". It's been 3wks today. He told me Thursday that the kids and I are better off with out him and he doesn't think he'll ever come home. Is this a normal? Because he's there we haven't talked since so I don't know if he was just having a rough day or what. I feel I just got my heart stomped on. Yes I wanted him clean but I didn't want it to ruin what we had left of our lives. I wanted my children to HAVE  a sober Dad now I'm scared they'll have no Dad.

[Nobecca]

It's part of the withdrawal, after the horrible pain and physical symptoms begin to subside...the mental crap kicks in. I feel similarly right now, and tired, so very tired.
Try to stay supportive, don't ask for much in the way of reassurances because it's all an addict can do just to stay off the junk.

[Julia M Aharonov, DO]

There is very little you can do. The only choices you can make are for yourself, not for him. You can not make him want to stay, or get clean. An addict's drive to use is often much stronger than any relationship: lover, wife, even child. You must decide for yourself if you are willing to be a third party in that relationship, because that is what you and your children will always be. Unless he completely commits to sobriety and to your family, that will be the sad story.
I am so very sorry to be so blunt, but it is too often that the opiate comes out the winner. You must take care of yourself first and foremost. Good luck to you.