How has everything been going with this?
I hope it's not too late to help, but I know how you feel! We were in the same situation, although our fees were a lot less: $250 app fee/$1000home study... we ran into the same situation with no grants to apply for before home study complete. Since we had it done, we applied for a TON of them, and were denied them all. There are just so many people that apply for grants, that you can't really rely on them. That said, its definitely worht it to try. Google these: parenthood for me; show hope; katelynns fund; helpusadopt.org; perpetual change. All names of grants you can apply for. There are a lot more out there, but it all depends on the type of adoption you are doing, if you qualify. Also, we did many fundraisers including a benefit meal, mystery dinner parties (unique and a lot of fun!), recycled old ink cartridges and cell phones (recyclerewards.com), and the always popular selling items.