I am so happy for u...i have been praying for u and ur familey.....I have never had to give my babys up like u did...but i dont beleve in forcing a teen to give up there child...I know some teen moms who were and still are great parents....sorry if im out of line...but i read ur storry and have been thinking of u.......God Bless... Valerie
Yr fine. It is what it is and I am moving on. The way I look at it is that if I missed only 15 years of him life and I get to spend 50 knowing him - what really was that 15 years. I am just so amazed at how God moved His hand in this. It only took about a day to find him. God has blessed me and answered my prayers. I give him the glory.
I'm so happy for and for Adam! I think u are an amazing person and u are handleing this perfectly! I wish that my kids had bio moms like you. I pray God answers your prayers,it seems as though he already has started.
Great news...what a gift for the holidays. Now you can have peace and look forward to a whole new beginning. You are a great person and your son will be blessed to be able to get to know you.
Hi Kris, I hope you don't mind me asking, but how did you get Adam to get a hold of you? His adoptive parents sound a little scared by what they had written you, (NO more contact at this time.) I am wondering because my Son's girlfriend who is also adopted, has had some contact with her birth Mother, and of all places to run into her (my space.com) Now she sends her pictures of herself and wants to meet with her. And my Son's girlfriend dosen't know what to do.
I wrote three letters. The first one I had no idea if I had the right person. The second I was a bit emotional - it is very painful to go through and not knowing where your child is - a bad feeling. I think this scared them. The agency worker called and said that it would be best not to contact them any more, and I wasn't any way. I only asked for a letter back telling me that he was alive and happy. That is all I wanted. It was the aboptive parents that wanted to meet me as well as Adam's. I never once said in my letters that I wanted to meet him. It never entered my mind because he is so young. I think that it is best that they take their time and work through this. I can wait. I don't want to overload them or Adam. They don't know me and I don't know them. The best thing for your son's girlfriend's mother is to back off a little. I view my son meeting me as all in his time, not mine. He and his parents will run the show. All contact now will come from them first. I am not a salker and I won't call his hourse, drive by, or send any more letters or picture. If he wants me to send pictures, he will ask. He has his life with his family and my hope is to be apart of his life - now or later and if not that is fine as long as he is happy and I am always here for him.
It is hard because if she tells her she doesn't want to meet, it will really hurt her. A good thing to say would be that she needs a little time and she will contact her when she is ready. The pain of losing a child is so so hard and not knowing. It can overwelm the birth mother and then she can in turn overwelm her child. The birthmother see her as her baby. The mother needs to realize that she is not that little baby, but a woman she doesn't not know. This needs to be done slowly. It sounds like she is pushing a little. One needs to see the difference of the past - the baby and the grown woman.
My hubby and i are married for about 10 years with no kids.
Due to our working environtment, it is impossible for us to go for the IVF Process... But we thinking of the an adoption few years later.fyi : my hubby is 46 while i am 32. please give some advice! thank u soo much!