I think you hit the nail on the head -- even though you want to grow up, you are also anxious about leaving home, particularly mom, and I think that is why you seem to have trouble with things such as recipes and going places alone. One place to start is to ask yourself, "what am I afraid of happening if I were to: use a phone/cook for myself/go somewhere alone?
Thank you for posting. I would have wrote sooner but I've really been thinking about what you said. I think the thing that scares me is that I will fail or that I am not able to grow up for some reason. I know my phone problem is anxiety related. My Mom thinks that my problem could be that I can't learn from her because she is impatient. She wants to see about checking into a program that might be able to teach me some life skills. So I'll try to post back if anything new to report. Thanks agian for your responce.