I have been with my husband for 18 years, married for almost 16. When we first met we were young. He did drink, but I thought then it was just a "guy thing" for him to drink. His father was an alcoholic. He was far worse than my husband, he would leave his wife home for as long as a week, he just wouldn't come home the day he got paid. When he would return, he would have new clothes that he bought himself, and blamed all his problems on his wife. My mother-in-law was a stay at home mom raising 5 children. He would leave her with no money, therefore had no groceries, she did not drive and didn't have a car. My husband has gotten worse over the past 5 years. I am a good wife, don't go out with friends, I'm a social drinker, maybe once or twice year I may have a little to much, thats it. I can't stand to be around him. When he's drunk all he does is degrade me. He tells me that I need to get a real job, I clean homes two days a week, plus tend bar 2 nights a week, plus take care of my own home, raise my son, and do my wifely duties as far as grocery shopping, bill paying, cleaning, etc... Everytime time he gets drunk he is awful to deal with. I am so tired of him humiliating me. We recently went to Disney World, and he had to have a beer at 10 am, I know in that week he paid over $200 in beer, cause they were 5.50 each. My son is failing school, and asks me everyday when he gets home if his dad is drunk. This is really takin a toll on me and my son. I have tried talking to him, his mother tried, everyone has tried. I can't take it anymore. He tells me that if I ever divorce him he will kill me. I have asked him what the problem is and he says he doesn't have one. Well, duh, he does. He never knows when to quit. We recently built a new home, in which my grandfather financed, and he said that he will kill me before he gives up this house that he struggled to build. We have a new home, a new automobile, all the toys, I am happy with my life, but not with him in it. I don't deserve to be treated like this. People have even told him that he doesn't know how good he got it. What should I do. He has never hit me, but he is very mean to my son. I am afraid to go to work and leave him alone with his dad. Whats the next step?????