HELP

[SmellBurton]

My partner is 28 and has drank since he was 13 years old he drinks on average twice a
Week but it can be as many as five times a week. When he does drink he has on average
20 units, either lager, red wine or cider. In the last month he has started been violtley sick
Everytime he drinks, before this in the four years we have been together
He had only been sick maybe 2 times and now its 2 to 3 times a week. He's had blood
Tests and liver results come back high and now it is showing incresed damage. I know he
Needs to stop drinking but its harder for john when he's drank all his adult life. He also
Has mental health problems wheather this is due to alchol I don't know. I could really do with
Some good honest advice to show him, he knows I'm writting this and I think would be greatfull
For some advice. Thank you for taking the time to read this.

[17mthssober275]

Hi, sorry your man is causing liver problems, isn't he scared? I am a sober alcoholic, 21 months now, was a daily drinker. I quit and went to a recovery program outpatient for 10 months, that saved me, the twelve step program and recovery program (how to escape your prison) saved me. I also took anger management, which helped me so much. In the recovery they taught me how to think differently and how to live life without drinking and be happy. I feel so good now without using, I am able to think so clearly and rational, and feel happy, enjoying so much more now than when I was using. Being clean and sober is a new way of life and I love it. Have found friends going to AA meetings, don't hang around drinkers anymore, better for me that way. Hope John wants to get help before he gets cirrohsis, or hepatitis, if he doesn't have those now then his liver will heal if he quits right away. You can go to open AA meetings with him, that would be good support for him and you will understand alcoholism better when you hear what it was like from now sober speakers there too. Good wishes to you both
Judy

[SmellBurton]

Thank you very much for your advice
And taking your time to write it. I've found a local al-anon group. I read the post to john and I pray he took notice. Thanks again. Mel.

[OpenMind24hours]

The best thing for John, and your best hope, is for John to post his own questions. He needs the willingness to want to stop using alcohol. He has to acquire the desire to stop drinking. From your description, it sounds like john indeed has the disease of alcoholism. The only way he will stop is when he's sick and tired of being sick and tired. Nobody can do that for him. I'm a recovering alcoholic, and i didn't stop until I was ready. It took every drink I drank to get to the point of stopping… on my own. And I stopped by voluntarily calling an AA friend I knew, and asked him to take me to a meeting.

Now for you…from your post, I see you're very concerned about John.  This is something you and I have in common. My daughter was hopelessly hooked on alcohol, cocaine and crack cocaine. The same that I described above about alcoholics applies to drug addicts also. It takes what it takes for the person with the disease to want to finally stop. While I was waiting for my daughter to stop, wondering who will attend her funeral, I discovered Al-anon. A fellowship of men and women who have a loved one with the disease of alcoholism (or addiction in some cases), and it's making their lives unmanageable. If you can identify with this, you will absolutely benefit from that fellowship. I sure did. My daughter has been clean for well over 9 years now, but absolutely none of that was my doing. She did it because she finally was done with using drugs and alcohol. And she did this entirely on her own.

Show this post to John?? You know him better than I, you'll know what to do. I wish you and John the best. Everything will happen in God's time.

[Mustang0064]

I was drinking 3ltr of beer a day for  20yrs ...I quit cold turkey almost 60 days ago...I feel good ...it can be done...I just needed to realize it ..xo