Clearly your boyfriend is abusing alcohol. If going out for the night (on a regular basis) consists of getting so wasted you’re experiencing black outs, slurring and the most alarming; to regularly walk into your daughter’s room when he is extremely drunk-to say the least-is a problem.
One of my best friend’s mothers considers herself an alcoholic and has been clean for over eight years now. She never drank on a regular basis. In fact, she would go months without drinking anything at all. However, when she did drink she was a hard core binger and could never have just a few drinks socially. She had three young children and she was arrested w/ DUI, had her kids find her in the morning passed out on the floor (soiled) and had her family wake up to find the car on the front lawn crashed into a tree totaling the car. So consistency isn’t the only thing that means you’re an alcoholic.
Hopefully you can talk to him about his behavior and he will cut back. If he doesn’t, you may want to consider other options. Take care of your baby- your number one priority!
It is definitely alcohol abuse,I can't say if it is also dependency.
He needs to get help and be responsible for his actions and if he can't do that then you need to leave,now!.
You need to protect your daughter from this man,if he gets that drunk he can't find the toilet and goes to your daughters room how will he know it's your daughter and not you.
You need to protect your daughter and get her out of this situation.
Denise