Re: social situations; what to do?

[dark69meat]

Since I'm on the road tor recovery and drinking doesn't appear to be an option; what are your views regarding social situations where alcohol is served?  Basically I'm very weak if everyone is looped having a good time and of course I'll want to jump in on the fun.  Since I'm new to the whole sober scene, I really fear how to act or what to say.  I mean, I don't want to stay home all my life, but believe this will be my biggest challenge.  I can get caught up in the excitement quite easily which could be very depressing in the aftermath.

[ibizan]

ya never know until u try...ur a social guy....and smart too...u will know what to do if BEAST starts the whispering....ur sober voice will drown him out....and its ALWAYS a choice!

[uberadtx]

One more thing..Now that you are sober, you have choices.  Imagine that.  And guess what?  You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. :)

[dark69meat]

I don't think 'scared' is the appropriate word; maybe 'apprehensive' and not having a plan.  It's easier not going, but I do occasionally like to mingle with folks.  Getting out is part of the process of recovery and an opportunity - I just don't want to fail, my biggest fear.  I can't go back now, sober is the way for me now.  I think the depression in the aftermath would destroy me if I were to get wasted.

Alex - The antibiotics idea is a good one, and since I take 'medication' for cholesterol, if wouldn't  technically be lying; now would it?  Looking forward to the other side of the equation (after exams).  Hope dad is fine.

Thanks everyone again for all your comments!  This is a huge life-style change.
-dark

[ibizan]

ya know all?most people at social occasions r more concrned with their OWN buzz if their boozers and could care a fiddle if ur not drinking...that is of course if ur not standing in a cluster with them!ginger ale in glass or tonic water with twist of lime staves them off......and it really NTB!

[alexandra fox]

Something that might work in the short term, for one or two social events where there is not a cross over of ppl - tell them you are on antibiotics (might have to do a bit of research for a plausible reason) and therefore you can't drink. This would take care of "what to tell them part" - the other part, of how you would feel and manage, are another story. My dad has been on antibiotics for three months, that's what made me think of this idea.

Will think about the other side of the equation, and get back to you later :-)

[ibizan]

being scared is healthy sign.....i c many who aren't and do drink!u owe NO ONE any xplanations....NADA ONE!so play it by ear...if u wanna go go and if not don't......everything ur feeling i felt.....and know a few have here too.the only person u owe anything 2 foremost is urself!u r the one who looks in the mirror in the morn!