Wondering where and how my friend's are???

[BANDIDA]

Just edited my profile...lost my carrier and have been out of touch for a bit!!!! To all the girls and guys and you know who you are!!! But for everyone I am so glad to be back on-line!!!! This is my AA meeting that I can not physically attend!!! Missed you all!!!!! Happy Holidays!!! Luv Bandida

[TJack]

Your Mom sounds like a real example and fighter.  Mine has always been pretty weak, but is doing more now physically than she ever has.  What good exercise, shoveling snow.  I bet that was a workout!!  Oh that ice cream with cookies sounds good. Yummy!
And you deserve it after that job you did!  
Just had to pain med hubby and he went back to bed.  This is his worst day so far.
Poor guy and such a beautiful sunny day, which is rare in the northwest in Jan.
okay off to the dump and store.  I may just have to get some ice cream and cookies :>) Where are you Bandida?   Have a great weekend all of you.  TJ

[ibizan]

i hope u do that renew vows barefoot in sand!my mom has her dementia moments...but she knows every move LeBron James makes in b-ball.....watches her football....devout CNN and Animal Planet junkie......she overlal is doing well!battles that dementia bigtime....she is a warrioress...sounds like ur mom is 2!just spent 2 hours shoveling driveway and sidewalk and a lil more is coming!now for some good coffee and vanilla ice cram with pecan cookies crumbled in it!

[TJack]

Ibi, i don't think we even have the crab and seafood one.  I will check though, cause i would like it too.  Yep, same man and only man in my life.  He is a keeper.  He thought we had been married 40 years, i assured him it only felt that long but was 39 ha ha.
Now next year when it is 40, i intend to be on a beach in Hawaii. Who knows, maybe renew our vows and me barefoot!  
Boogie, i hope your can get the right meds, because it makes all the difference.
I don't even want to hole up in the bedroom anymore.  That's remarkable in itself.
I feel like i've got a life.  Drinking isn't foremost in my mind, although it crosses it ocassionally.  I am hanging in there.  Sounds to me like your goals are completely doable for 09 Ibi.  Snow!!!  Sunny here this morning.  Foggy all day yesterday.
Anyway, y'all have a great weekend.  Wishing the best for your Momma Ibi.  Mine is slipping mentally a little more all along.   Now she is physically better than she has been in years.  I use to beg her to walk the halls in her apartment complex. She would nt do it.  Now she is doing it daily! Go figure...   Tonya

[ibizan]

wow 39 years with ur best friend there T-girl!so cool.....i think relationships like that are a true find and a needle in a haystack!my fav subway sub is the seafood and crab on wheat!boogie- my goal for the new year is to pray more for others and to be more focused on my activities at hand.....to decrease my repetitous brain chatter!snowing like all get out here in Ohio......tis the season!

[boogieman]

hi. i'm glad the meds are working out for you---that's what i'm working towards now myself. hope everyone is doing well  and off to a good start in the new year.    gm

[TJack]

Happy New year to each of you.  Home from the coast.  My hubby had lap band surgery on tuesday.  Doing great but sore.  This is alot less invasive than what i did.>gastric by pass.   He is doing good.  Sore but doing great actually.  I think of you all so often.  You are like my family online.  Bandi, where are you?  Got me my fav. sub yesterday, the club on the italian bread.  yummy!  Ed is drinking protein and i am eating like a nut.  I should be on the protein with him.  The goof ball has a goal weight for less than me. What???  No way!  Our Doc says NO NO NO also.  Of course if that were the case i could always beat him up. chuckle!!  No beating going on around here in 39 years to the day tomorrow, Jan. 10.  We were just babies when we fell in love and married.   Pretty much have held each other together ever since.  I had my best friend break my heart a few days ago.   When will i learn?   He is my rock, he and the Lord and i am gonna watch myself in the future.
Oh and by the way my therapist is beside herself on how good i am doing on this pristiq and deplin.  No more anxiety, no valium needed.  I am not even depressed and trust me i have reason to be but choose to move on.  Thinking of you all. Hang in there and keep posting.  Hugs, Tonya

[ibizan]

Yes a Better New Year to All!like my dad would say and i hear him all around me...have for 3 years....we have to keep moving 4ward.Sure missed him over these holidays but i hear him say ah Mary i'm so glad to be out of that sick broken body i had!Tjack i KNOW what ur going thru....i'll go see my mom today...her dementia is progressing....she told me not to come xmas day...no room at table and hung up on me.i told my family what happened but the nurses aide had a special plate of food for me and asked wheres Mary?I'll talk to her today!I celebrate new years like i have for quite a few years now....take a vacation day....do what i want and need without hopping to the work clock,call in carry out for my fav Cantonese foods....come home....feed the critters and me.....the sofa beckons with lots of afghans......i woke up last nite at 11:30..that is a first time in a long time i hadn't slept thru New Years!I was laffing at myself the other nite...bitter cold here and remembering how many holiday seasons in the past when i was a younger gal going out in this weather clubbing with high heels on mini-skirt lil lycra top and shortie jacket to get wasted!and drive in bad weather loaded!YIKES!so glad i never harmed anyone with my drunk driving....and feel at peace to be at home with my loving 4 legged family......yes like AA says we will come to KNOW and comprehend the word serenity!

[boogieman]

hi there. ya it's been pretty quiet here today. glad to hear the meds are helping. i'm laying low myself at home---don't have any reason to be out on amateur night ;)  hope the new year brings us all the strength and courage we need---one day at a time. best wishes to everyone here on medhelp--i'm really grateful to have found all of you and this has been a big help for my sobriety and sanity. see you next year---gm

[TJack]

Well, Happy Healthy New Year to us All and God please bless us too!  This is my hope and prayer for us all.   Thinking of you all.  Home tonight.  No partying, probably be alseep my 10 unless some gun fire wakes us haha.  Usually that happens.
Been very busy with my hubby's Mom and Dad.  Neither is well.   You hear me Ibi, i know you do.  My hubby is having surgery next week, the lap band.  So he has been on protein drinks basically since the day after Christmas.  I need to get on them too.  I have turned into a junkfood junky.  Boogie, i have to say this pristique along with deplin is amazing.  I am so thankful.   I know i couldn't be dealing with my Mom and Dad in law and stayig calm without this help.  Think of you all so often.  Bandi, i want to be there with you in that sunshine!!   Hey, i got a subway sand today and thought of you.
I know yours would have been better.  Hugs to all.  Be safe.   Hugs, Tonya

[TJack]

Well i posted on here last night telling you all how great you are and the post didn't happen.  I needed my password blah blah blah.  So in the meantime the post was gone.  Dang it!  Anyway just to let you know i love all your posts.  So uplifting and informative.  Thanks boogie for the heads up on the anti depressant.  My insurance pays, thank the Lord or i would be saying nope put me on the effexor.Hope this post makes it.  Merry Christmas to you all.  Be back on in a few days.
Hugs to you all.  Oh and Bandi, you be a good girl ya hear?   Tonya

[ibizan]

whattya mean ur boy has a date tonite?u mean the dog?my freezer has 3 boxes of Edy's frozen tangerine fruit bars in it!

[Phtartist]

I'm the Queen of Wean.  I've been on and weaned off so many different meds that well............... including Effexor and Pristiq.  
I'm off Cymbalta now. Very little withdrawel symptoms having done it slow.
Don't have any concerns  for yourselves with me as an example, it is just that any med with SRI action reacts poorly with my body.

Well you all sound good, even you Bandida, still fiery. Nice to meet you GM.  I always saw you on the thread and liked the boogieman name. I've read you give good guidance.

Hey IBi, Bobby Flay opened a new restaurant about 5 miles down the road from me. Bobby's Burger Palace is the name and it has a slew of original burger and shakes. I tell you this because, the shakes are made with Edy's ice cream. Ha, could ya die!!!

It's near the big mall here, so I am not touching it til after the New year.

My boy has a date tonight !!!  WooHoo!

I stay off the "Puter" on the weekends, just to clear my head.  If anyone would understand you guys would, its an addiction thing. It's just a rule I have for myself so I get other things done.  That's why you don't hear from me for the weekend.

  I made a similiar rule for video game playing. When I got sober I was sometimes in a panicked bored space, the biggest threat to my sobriety early on.. Video games filled that void, I'm talking serious 360, PS3, gaming. I  have a set time to play and that is it. I have to always be doing something. With the FM it is kind of hard to go and have a round of tennis.

The last gift arrived today. Everything is wrapped but that.

Have a Merry Christmas and a Healthy New year all.

I might ttyl
me

[boogieman]

hi there. i had to look up pristiq---never heard of it before. turns out it's the same thing as effexor with just enough of a difference in it's structure to call it something else. if that's the case, it's what i've been on for a while and haven't had any serious complications. it also turns out, strangely enough, that wyeth pharmaceutical's patent on effexor expires this year, and from what i've researched, pristiq has been introduced to sustain the same massive profits that effexor (which now will be available as a generic) generated. according to an article by a well respected organic chemist i found, the difference in venlafexine (effexor) and desvenlafexine (pristiq), is that pristiq is the same thing minus part of the original structure of effexor. but it's enough to call it a different name and charge you $3-$4 a pill. this is important to me because i hate having to take these dam pills as well, and the profit motive behind so many of the meds on the market today has led to some rather dramatic actions due to "unforseen" reactions and side effects. if this information is correct, and you are having to pay arms and legs for meds, i'd ask why effexor wouldn't be a viable alternative as it will be much less expensive in the long run. if you have good insurance that pays for it, it's not as important. but i'd like to know how it works for you either way. take care---gm

[TJack]

See what happens when i miss getting on her a day or two.   Lots of action.  And even some laughs. woohoo   Boogie, dr. is in process of switching me to pristiqu, a new one.  I am coming off the zoloft slowly and in a couple of days will at the pristiqu. She also put me on deplen.  Which helps the anti depressant work better.  It is suppose to help increase our dopamine and seratonin.  Oh for the good old days when I didnt have to take pills.  Never knew how good i had it.  Did any of us?  You girls enjoy those little animals and the big ones too Ibi.  Merry Christmas and hang in there,  Terri, it won't be  long till subway will just be a faint memory to you.   You will be movin on up!  My New Years Prediction for you anyway.  Hugs to all.   Tonya

[ibizan]

i usually envision ppl as self imploding and blowing in2 a zillion pieces up in2 the stratosphere..sick?i don't think so:) but heck we can think anything we like its the putting it in2 action that draws consequences and thats what we must consider.but bandita i've had many a work situation similiar to urs and like kenny Rogers sings know when to hold em and when to fold em......and i've had to go to boss and fold em out.....for my sanity...and so glad u decided to do the same!

[BANDIDA]

latest update...thank you boogieman you made me laugh!!! A baseball bat is too obvious but the EX-LAX HMMmmmm. No really nothing happenrd I saw DH when I got to wk and told him BL and I had had an argument and he said ok we'll talk about it later. I said good cuz I am not real happy with what took place. Anyway I callled him after my shift and he said he knew cuz Tyler aka BL had called him. He said look don't worry I am not going to take sides and it's no big deal. I told him I do not go behind someones back and that if I was going to say anything it was going to be said with BL in the same room, and I also told him I wished he had given me the same courtesy earlier this month when he suspended me....He said oh that's a different matter.  Anyhow I am still employed and my plan is to kill with kindness and yess boogie I will start keeping notes on any incidents if they occur. Hopefully not! Catch more flys with honey than vinegar right!!!!  Thank you guys my friends for your advice and support because Tom gets sick of hearing it and he already wants to take the baseball bat route on DH! We don't even have a baseball bat!!! Maybe a rake???? Got to wk 2-10 tonite no BL..unfortunately I feel as if a cold is coming on...Zicam up the nose it does work!!!  Happy Sunday to all and I'll B standin By ((((HUGS))) Terry

[boogieman]

hi. i try to look at people that push my buttons as being spiritually or emotionally sick but the same place i got that idea also tells me i'm not to be a doormat. unfortunately these are ideals i have not come close to reaching 100% but i try to practice them. my first instinct usually involves implements of destruction like baseball bats or adding ex-lax to someone's coffee----sorry, i'm still sick in me head. but i would imagine that you aren't the first person that the dh and bl have tried to mess with and like ibizan said i would go to hr or as high on the food chain as necessary to register your side. eventually you'll reach someone that actually still cares about things like inappropriate behavior and customer service. and document everything---names, dates, times, places. when you deal with people who choose to sabotage others via unfounded personal attacks, your best weapon is often having the facts and the support of others who can verify your position. best of luck and take care!  gm

[ibizan]

mr.fattbutt is HUGE white with some black spots.....and big booty and that hanging belly with big gob of gooskin hanging down.....i know u've seen em.....he eats well....lady across the street feeds all of em like me so tween us they got the cat chowline goin on.and bandita....u either need to talk to boss or HR...to tell ur version....or ur gonna explode worse than u already are...of hold it in and get so pissed and take that beer......my Moe i think is part maine coone.....tortoiseshell girl with those giant polydactyl toes/feet!

[BANDIDA]

Oh Boy last nite got nasty!!!!! Bootlicker and I went at it.bad.. Little as--wipe!!!! He refused to let a customer use the xtra change to make up $$ difference on their tab and really insulted them. I told him no big deal just let them have it. Then he got in my face and I lost it and went back to the suspension **** that he started earlier this month and asked him what it was that I said...he said you know what you said, I said no i don't so tell me? He said you know what you said! I said no and neither do you cuz it was never said. More heated words were exchanged luckily no customers in the store cuz I was yelling at the little creep. All the time my other co-worker was there (she is a friend and loyal to me). BL short for bootlicker then says his brother is a cop and I said no not yet cuz he has not been hired by any force and told him I knew he (BL) wanted to be a cop FHP and if that was the way he was going to treat ppl that he was going to make a perfect cop because he was already showing corruption in his behaviour. He then proceeds to tell me oh well that coming from someone who is on probation....ooh boy did I then get hot!!! I said oh so you've been researching me huh? So now with all that has happenned I see the picture all coming together...Hence the empty or half drank beers in the cooler that he keeps finding mysteriously when I am there..He is trying to set me up!!! As I was leaving last nite with my other co-worker I asked her if I was wrong she ofcourse does not want to get in the middle but we agreed that I should go to HR on Monday and get this **** out in the open all of it!!!  They might as well fire or suspend everybody at this point cuz I am not going down without being heard!!!!!  The plot thickens and I still have to wk today from 11-3 BL free thank God!!!  If Di--Head is there it is going to be real hard not to say something about last nite. Ok I'm done...any opinions my friends??? Terry Ibi all my 3 cats are maine coons not pure but very coony. Still planning on adopting the kitty from work she is so friendly and really would fit in here with us.

[boogieman]

howdy. always enjoy reading these posts---never fails to pick me up! i lost my dad to drinking right after christmas a few years back to the bottle and it helps to know i'm not alone. what i would give to be a kid again at the holidays! my therapist just kicked me up another 75mg of effexor to 300---having a hard time shaking the depression and anxiety this time around for some reason. there's a movie on now with a cameo by wolfman jack--those were the days! anyhoo, i don't know which is funnier---buttman and bootlick dodoodoobiedoo or a kitty named mr. fatbutt....but keep em coming!  until next time, take care ladies----gm

[ibizan]

hey i hear good things bout Pristiq!got a lady on it now is helping her so much.....newly sober gorgeous gal...three beautiful sons and  undergoing divorce from a husband who quote Carmela Soprano regarding Tony's ho-ing around..U insert urself in anything that has a pulse!I love Carmela!Bandita u the hoochie koochie mama and will overcome these working blues.....I hear John Lee Hooker and Willie Dixon now....Phartist good to see u post here....lovin ur time with those dogs no doubt as do i.......have to use up vacation b4 end of year or they take it away from us so using up some days.I love a day where i don't hafta hop 2 the clock.....run errands and hang with these animals.....Keota new guy greyhound is such a love.First holiday season in 8 years minus the Colonel.....i tell Keota Colonel had a paw in him coming to live with us!:)Got a gorgeous Maine Coone kitty with 6 toes buggin me now for a back scratching session!Love these creatures!

[TJack]

my doc is cutting me back slowly on the zoloft and when i get down to 50 mg. then i will add the pristique.  I hope you aren't being just all at once taken off of one and put on another?  tj

[BANDIDA]

It had to be me...It had to be me..lalallaladoodoodobiedooit had to be me..By Boss is a D--K and has a Bootlick doodoodoobiedoo!! Sorry I could not resist making up my own little toon! Was supposed to be off yest. but D--Head aka Lucas the boss...asked if I would come in at 5:30 a.m mind you, after working till 10pm the night b4 well I agreed and when Tom picked me up wens night@ 10 he was PO'd bigtime!! Good thing the door was locked at wk cuz the boss was there due to cash reg's prblems. Tom said the lites were still on and I said I know he's still there Tom said who and I said the DH--d. Tom got out of the car and went to the door ponited at the dh thru the window and said "I am going to kick you --------A----! He (Tom) of course is still very PO'd about the suspension ****! It was pretty funny actually. Yesterday I get to work and DH says oh your husband was very mad last nite cuz you had to work? I said No that was not exaclty it but my advice to you is that you 2 avoid eachother. He said tis 2 me at 5:30 a.m and was laughing cuz it is obvious to me he was watching the video from the night b4. I swear this man is a video watching freak!  Oh well just more for real stories to add to the book I will write someday!!! Gotta wk today @2 and just hope we all survive these holiday's again...and yes we must all make the best of it!!! Luv ya all Terry  I'll catch yall later

[Phtartist]

Nice to have us all on the same thread again!  

Funny thing, when I got my daily update and saw the thread " Wondering where and how my friends are?" I knew it was one of my gals.  Sure enough!

Bandida you Boogaloo, had to be you, so good at spreading the love, girl you're one in a million.  

Things are good here for the most part. Like Tonya I'm going off a serotonin med. mine is Cymbalta. I have a question, can going off raise your blood pressure as your body adjusts to not being on it?.  Mine has been going up and down with a sudden migraine then no migraine and on and on.  My dr. has not gotten back to me.  

Other than that, low stress here, husband has been traveling on business a lot LOL. That was not fair, he is good as you all know. Peace and absolute quiet except for by big doggies to hug is lovely.

I told I think, each of you, but my son a his be actch fiance broke up.  You girls said it did not sound like things were right.

You are gonna laugh, right after the wedding, I bit off the nails I grew for it, ate everything in the house, including my first rib eye steak in 11 months, and cut my hair short. I know I grew it because my daughter wanted it longer for the wedding. The stylist that did my hair must have seen me as some old Mom or something, She did my hair like I did old ladies back in the 70's. I was ready to have some cool Mom hair over the brow sexy something, She did teased up all curling iron curls.  I died and then turned it over. Then the photos came.  OMG, I laughed, I did not see me in the pix. MAJOR LOL

I glanced over all your notes here, you all sound good. Things going on but you all have come far from the stressful situations that had a grasp on you last thread we had going.
I too am long past any looming stress.

Yes, my son is here now, hating his life, my FM ***** (what Bandida's boss is) ha, but Life is life, its not how it is, its how you take it.

Hugs girls