My mom has Alzheimer's/Dementia

[LadyNissan]

My mom has Alzheimer's/Dementia and she lives in Indiana, she is my best friend and always has been. I feel like I'm missing out on the time that she still can remember me and I feel guilty that I live 6 hours away. She lives by all of brothers and sisters which I'm very grateful for and very blessed. Just really sad and it's a point of anxiety for me and plus I'm a chronic worrier. I'm just looking for some support to ease my mind, I don't talk to every day and feel like I should just to tell her I love her. I'm the only one out 3 sisters that even calls her to talk to her, my youngest sister has disowned her and my older sister act like she doesn't have the time. Please to ease my mind on this.

[heartfluttersflyawayplz]

great ideal, didn't think about that

[Faithdove]

Does your mom have a computer or smart phone. You can do FaceTime or Skype and talk face to face! That is what I do with my mom who lives 4 hours away. You are a wonderful daughter and it shows!!

[heartfluttersflyawayplz]

Ok glad to know your a lady so your name matches lol

Good for you on all you have done for your sweet mom, I know my mom loved anything she got and loved having family around, by phone, pictures what ever it was

I say your doing a great job keeping in touch with her

I can say I wish I had recorded some of our times together, which was everyday for me because she lived with us, but I would give anything to have put a recorder under her bed and could hear her today say I love you etc.

Miss my mom so much, the last year of her life she held our hands all the time, that's how she loved us , she didn't talk much ,

Also, you have to go into her world, things are different for her and that's how she sees it and telling her it's not like that, or that didn't happen only confuses  her more, so let her talk and believe what she needs to, so she's happy, at that point that's all that matters as long as she's not hurting herself

Plz keep in touch, ',,,,,,,,,, Heart

[LadyNissan]

I didn't realize my profile said I was a man...lol!!! All woman here!!

[LadyNissan]

Thank you so much. I made a scrap book for her when I first found out in November of 2012, she loved it. This year I can tell her handwriting has changed and a little bit of her memory but she is still going strong. I was very thankful that I spent 4 days with her at this last Thanksgiving but rode the Megabus, by the way LOL, with another big LOL!! It was in my price range so I really didn't mind any sacrifice I made to be with her. I love her with all my heart and soul. I am her double. When I was there I made sure I took some pictures with her and for Valentines Day I put one of those pictures on a sweatshirt that you get back in the Walmart  picture department so now I know she sees me and I told her that was my way of giving her a big hug when she wears it. I also took the same picture and found a beautiful frame that said, "Love, Hope, Faith.." I also sent a pin that said MOM so she could wear it to church. One bad thing in the whole deal is I originally sent it to an address she had 4 years ago or it would have been there way before Valentine's Day, but I got it and as soon as had texted her and asked her "anything yet?" Her reply was "WOW..I just got it 15 minutes ago and I love all it!!"  So that made my Valentine's Day!!
Thank you so much for listening and all of your advice.

[heartfluttersflyawayplz]

yikes just saw it says your a male , with name I took you as a woman, so sorry either way your a great kid and she will know it

[heartfluttersflyawayplz]

hi, I am so sorry your going threw this and feeling bad about it ..

please don't, I know I can say that and you still will lol, first you dont live so close so that is understood and if you all her everyday well that tells her how much you love her.

yes its very sad my mom I can say never forgot who her girls were, she didn't call us by name but she new our faces.

ask the family members to show her pictures of you and put them where she can see them, ask them t tell her once a day that you love her and thinking about her, just anything to keep you there while your not .

if you get a chance you do need to go see her when you can, so that you wont feel so bad, and it helps her to see her Daughter

send her pretty cards with pictures of you in the, old pics of you and her together , so she can see you . write her notes and send to any thing just so she can know your with her .

sounds to me like your a great Daughter and in your mothers Heart she knows you would be there if you could.

so stop feeling quilty, and start finding pics and sweet mother daughter cards to send her, even pretty pjs shes likes or little things that will remind her of you . GOD BLESS always here to talk ...... Heart