Was i date raped?

[camdenthebat]

Hi
if anyone can help, please do...i recently experienced a really traumatizing event. I was getting drunk with my friends and i passed out. Next thing i know am waking up in the Bartenders house, in his bed (he just had one) and he happens to be a dude. Turns out my so called friends had left me in the pub. The thing is when i woke up, i found that i only had on my shorts and my tshirt, i of course panicked and asked the bartender what happened and he told me that i had puked all over myself and he helped me remove my trouser. H e was really nice about it, saying that i was lucky that i had ended up with him and not some sexual predator and explaining how my friends had one by one staggered out of the pub. Nevertheless, I suspected that i had been raped or something but the thing is i never felt sore (am a dude and i have never experinced anal sex ). However, i did feel a bit weird like something had been applied there, cause it felt all slippery and sweaty but i didn`t really experience any pain or anthing.I suffer from anal fissures so am guessing had any penetration happened i`d atleast feel some discomfort. i don`t  know if anyone can help me know how one would feel after a sexual assault where some lube was applied and where i was completely relaxed since i had passed out? Am yet to seek any medical attention since am simply not sure what happened and am frankly embarrased. I also took a shower that day against my better judgement. Am really really scared that i might have contracted some STIs and i would appreciate any help given.  Am just 19 and am yet to tell my parents or anyone for that matter. i lied to "my pals" that i managed to go take a taxi and head for my room. I know i messed up bad what with my excessive drinking and apparently my choice of friends, so please don`t be judgemental or anything. I just really need some help on my earlier question...was i raped? and can one know in such circumstances, no pain or soreness, if you were raped?

Right now i feel kinda sore since after i showered which was a day after,i applied some dettol to act as a disinfectant in case of anything. I read somewhere in one of this forum that if one has anal fissures and one applies dettol, one is bound to feel some discomfort. Am taking this as the reason am experiencing this discomfort but i won`t rule out rape. Note however i never experienced any pain or soreness immediately after or in the 12 hours that followed. Just a weird feeling down there, maybe its psychological but i don`t know. Please help.

[kiara1966]

Go and get checked out there are lubes out there that have numbing agents in them.  Don't assume everything is ok if you don't know.  Also alwayse remember when in doubt check it out... It can save your life.. Good Luck and I hope everything is fine....I have a 20 yr old son and I am very open with him and if he came to me and said mom I realy screwed up and need your help.  If she was any kind of a mom she would give you the same advise and help you get checked out.. But most of all get checked out I dont know about your area but there are free clinics out there check them out ....

[Isa2]

Go and get checked out. Don't be affraid or embarrassed by it. Take care of your self first and go and find out if the rape did happend and If so if you have an std.