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I realize your post is almost 5 years old, but I could definitely use your perspective! I have asked my partner to explain his anger to me and he just gets more angry, and tells me to figure it out myself. If you are still around and willing to discuss, I would be appreciative
I am in the same situation as you. My husband has the same issues as yours. We can never have a conversation if things do not go his way without a temper tantrum. I have been married 21 years. He says he will not seek help but everytime it happens . He says I am sorry and will work on it but then it happens over and over again. I am so sad, and wish my two teenagers did not witness his anger.
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I read many posts on anger issues but I can definitely relate to yours.How are you and your husband doing? I feel your pain . I have been married 21 years. My husband has anger management issues too. I never what is going to set him off. He yells (never physical) and says horrible things and then he says I am sorry the next day like nothing happened and when I confront him and try to talk to him , he says he will work on trying to control it but refuses to get help. I am sooo upset that at times my two teenagers witness his horrible temper tantrums. I dont want to leave him for economic issues either. Everyone in the outside world, thinks he is the greatest guy , even my family.I am so ashamed of his his behavior and embarrassed. His father has a horrible temper but my husband always promised me he would never be like him. .
I just found this article and I am going through the same thing with my husband yelling at me all the time for such small things. It is usually every few months that things will get bad to where we don't speak for a days. I don't know what to do. Any support would be greatly appreciated.
He seems to be a classic abuser. Symptoms of a domestic abuser contain the following: demanding, yelling, treating your wife like a slave, unrealistic expectations (demanding that she turn off the alarm clock immediately, isolation from family and friends so no one will hear her scream or see the bruises she will likely soon incur. Abusers do this for power and control. They begin usually by being charming. After married or living with their loved one they usually begin to be verbally abusive with put downs and yelling. Then if this is not sufficient to obtain power and control physical abuse occurs including threats to her life. From what she says, he hasn't got to the physical stage yet. If she can get him help and he will accept help now, it may not get to that. He needs to get therapy specifically for Domestic Abusers (this can be emotional abuse as well) as anger management is not about power and control, Domestic Abuse is.