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How do I confront her?
So I've been dating my girlfriend for about three years now and I suspect she's bulimic.
The only reason I suspect she is bulimic is because I am, and she does a lot of the same things I do.
She excuses herself from the table within minutes of finishing the meal to go to the bathroom.
She's far to thin for her exercise level and food intake (She's 5'6 and 113 pounds).
And the thing that made initially suspicious was her cough in the bathroom last night. It was that throaty cough that you make when you get that acidic chunk caught in your throat when you purge. That single cough that you can't help and the dead silence afterward as to not draw attention. And the whole night I offered her soda and gummy bears and she refused them until she stepped out of the bathroom and into the kitchen. The way I do when I purge in a place where there's no hope for a toothbrush.
Tell me I'm delusional. Tell me that I'm projecting. How would I go about asking her? Should I even ask? I don't really care about my own habit- my BMI is still in the 'overweight' range (that's my tether to a realistic body image), but she's 'underweight'.
So I'm stuck.
The only reason I suspect she is bulimic is because I am, and she does a lot of the same things I do.
She excuses herself from the table within minutes of finishing the meal to go to the bathroom.
She's far to thin for her exercise level and food intake (She's 5'6 and 113 pounds).
And the thing that made initially suspicious was her cough in the bathroom last night. It was that throaty cough that you make when you get that acidic chunk caught in your throat when you purge. That single cough that you can't help and the dead silence afterward as to not draw attention. And the whole night I offered her soda and gummy bears and she refused them until she stepped out of the bathroom and into the kitchen. The way I do when I purge in a place where there's no hope for a toothbrush.
Tell me I'm delusional. Tell me that I'm projecting. How would I go about asking her? Should I even ask? I don't really care about my own habit- my BMI is still in the 'overweight' range (that's my tether to a realistic body image), but she's 'underweight'.
So I'm stuck.
I completely agree with Brittany. You have reason to be concerned, especially if you see her doing the same things as you. Like Brittany suggested, maybe going through the healing process together would be beneficial. Also, you say you don't care about your bulimia because you are considered "overweight", but you need to realize that vomiting repeatedly on purpose to empty your stomach causes your stomach acids to come up as well. The more you do this, the more acid you have in your esophagus and the more medical issues you will see.
Overall, talk to your girlfriend about it. If you haven't already, tell her that you are bulimic and you know how hard it is.
Always ask questions when you need to. There are loads of helpful people here.
Good luck. <3
Overall, talk to your girlfriend about it. If you haven't already, tell her that you are bulimic and you know how hard it is.
Always ask questions when you need to. There are loads of helpful people here.
Good luck. <3
You've been dating her for three years... You have a reason to be concerned and she should realize that. Don't be intimidating, just let her know you don't want her to hurt herself and that you care too much to see her do this. Does she know about your bulimia? Are you getting help for it? Maybe you should get through this together. Hope this helps.
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