Anxious about other peoples money?

[Sleepy_Children]

So I've always felt really really guilty when my parents go out and buy me a bike or something else expensive. I cat enjoy it because all I can think about is oh my god that's their money I'm so selfish by taking their money for dumb things. My dad has offered me a allowance and is now forcing it upon me after I said no to teach me money skills. I'm just putting the money back into his wallet I feel so so bad when they spend money! Today me and my dad were shopping for my mom because it's her birthday tomorrow and he wanted to get her a coffee maker. They were all 300$+ and I'm like dad we can't get these and he said no we need to and I was about to cry I was begging him to get the 20$ one instead until he have in. Just the other day my friend asked me if I wanted to go to valley fair with her. I said no because it costs too much money. She asked if this happened with everything and I said yes. Then she told me she felt bad for me because I can't really enjoy anything and I've never realized that's so true. How do I stop worrying? I'm only 14!

[MYoungAtHeart]

I do think that at 14 you are old enough to realize that the things that you can buy do not add up to happiness or even a good life.  Sometimes parents buy their kids the things that the parents wanted when they were younger when in reality, all kids just want to be loved and to feel secure in their parents arms.  We are constantly bombarded with buying things now, and even weekends when we used to do stuff with our families like a walk in the park, or going to the zoo or having a cookout are now spent at the mall or the big box stores.  I don't know how much your allowance is, but I suggest you take it and then save it like one of the answerers suggested for that special movie or thing that you might feel you would really like and that would make your life easier or better or might make you feel pretty.  Even makeup today is 10 or 15 dollars and then when your parents want to buy you something that maybe you know you don't really want or need, you can proudly tell them, " I am saving the money you give me to buy myself a present" and then surprise them by showing it to them at a later date.  You can also use part of the allowance to buy your mom and dad a little present like a card, or a flower or a little stained glass window hanger and still save the bulk of the allowance for your future.....

Good luck to you....It is not too early for you to be thinking of saving your money for college life which is very expensive ...I had to work my way through college with no allowance saved, and just having a little money put away for a night out with friends at school really helps break up the stress of the college life....

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[BluCrystal]

Aaawww!  You are way too young to be worried like this!  Truth is, you must trust that your parents know how to handle money, and since they have money-skills, they know when they can afford to splurge and when they can't.  Life is not meant to be lived staying at home with nothing but what you need - that's called JAIL.  Free people like us can and deserve to not only spend our money as we wish, but to have fun with it.  Please allow your father to give you allowance.  Keep it and save it for something really fun, or go get icecream with it.  That's what you are supposed to do with allowance.  If you have enough money to see a movie with friends, do it.  There isn't anything else you need to know about money at your age.  Trust your parents to educate you more on properly spending money, when the time is right.  Blessings - Blu  :-)

[lynnsee]

omgshhh, I know exactly how you feel. i'm 19 and still rely on my parents for EVERYTHING. and the things/money I don't get from them, i'll just get from my boyfriend. I was never allowed to work in highschool or my first year of college since I was still living in my parents house. my mom said she'd take care of everything and I just had to take care of school. at first I was like psshhh ok! but now i'm like damn I need a job!!! but since I've never worked and have no experience, I cant really get hired anywhere. hun, you're young. 14 is still an age that you're parents should still be taking care of you. if they want to buy you something, its because THEY want to. they love you. it'd be different if you were constantly asking for money and not doing anything to deserve it. if you don't feel better about them spending money on you when they want to, just try doing things around the house to help them so that you can earn the money they spend on you. they'll appreciate the help and you'll feel better that you're earning the money. it's a win win. you're young. don't start worrying about money until you have to! message me whenever you'd like if you ever wanna talk. best wishes<3

-lynnsee c: