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Are overactive hormones and being horny all the time a mental health problem?

Guys I have a strong urge of touching beautiful women around me. I don't know why but I continuously think of sex and anything whenever I see a women. Today I was willing to touch a woman but somehow I repeled myself. I don't why I'm continuously think about sex. And I have a habit of masturbating excess. I'm masturbating since 11 years twice or thrice a day. Please help
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973741 tn?1342346373
Sounds like you have some raging hormones.  Obviously, touching women who have not invited you to do so is a no no.  Do NOT be tempted in that way as you will get in trouble.  And if you are hounding for sex all the time around the women you know . . . they will possibly be uninterested in you because they know it is much more about the sex than them.  

Ever dated or been in a relationship?  How old are you?
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Because you're human.  If we didn't have raging hormones, we'd never have sex and never reproduce and there would be no humans.  Consider the pain and risk of childbirth, and you'd wonder why any woman would ever have sex.  It's because nature programmed it into us.  But when anything gets to be obsessive, it's a problem, not evolution.  I'm wondering where you live and what your religious culture is like.  Religious repression as much as anything led to modern psychology -- see the almost always but not always wrong Freud -- so if this is your culture, it can create an overreaction because you can't just get what you really want and nature has programmed you to want.  I see no problem with your masturbation unless it's getting in the way of things you'd rather be doing, but if you have a compulsion to touch women without their permission at least tacit (such as her agreeing to go on a date with you, something you say you've never done, but that's why we date in cultures where arranged marriages don't prevail -- that's how we give permission and let the other person know that, within limits, touching with consent might actually happen).  So your reasons and urges are perfectly normal, I'm 65 years old and when I get to the point I don't want to touch a woman in a short dress my wife won't want to be with me anymore.  That's just life.  But you don't do everything you think about doing in life.  That's the social contract that allows us to live with one another.  If you see women as equal to you in every respect and deserving of as much respect as you feel you deserve, you will look, and try to do it in a way they won't notice and isn't offensive, but you won't cross the acceptable boundaries.  Most of us do it all our lives.  Some can't help themselves; in this country we, and I am ashamed to say this, elected a President and may have put a Justice on our Supreme Court who did not observe those boundaries.  You don't want to really go there.  But you do want to be normal because when you do meet a woman however it's done in your culture, she'll want you to have normal urges.  But again, if you're obsessed by it, that's not a normal urge, and it's something you might consider getting therapy for if it's that strong.  But I am wondering if it might be a product of cultural repression, you don't say where you're from or what the mores are there.  When there's no opportunity, it can be a problem.
People become sexually aware at different ages.  Some very young, some quite old comparatively.  Again, at 7, it's not necessarily raging hormones, you're not at puberty yet, but it's just the normal attraction nature built into us.  Again, without it, there would be no procreation.  You are quite hard on yourself for your thoughts.  It's your actions that are most important.  As a Hindu, I don't know if you're observant, but have you ever learned meditation?  That's one outlet to sit back and watch your thoughts when you're not acting on them.  This is one of your culture's great contributions to humanity and modern psychology.  Much of Hinduism is the attempt to learn to accept oneself, both the things that make us happy and those that make us not so happy, and learn to overcome and transcend.  Life is really hard, and this is one of your stumbling blocks.  So one thing I'd do is take advantage of where you live and learn to meditate in a fashion that appeals to you.  I do TM, a Hindu meditation, but I personally thing Buddhist ones are a bit better in the long term.  Did it stop me from developing an anxiety disorder?  No.  But I think you can do this.  And I think therapy would be a good place for you, with a psychologist.  You only see a psychiatrist if you want medication.  I don't think you're at that point from what you're saying, it sounds to me like you're suffering a lot of guilt for having normal thoughts, if a bit stronger than some others you might know, but we come in different flavors, but if you ever act on those troubling thoughts or come close to it, that might be a time for medication.  Sexologists are to teach you how to have sex.  Personally, I think if you were able to have had some normal sexual experiences this would have worked itself out by now.  Since you can't do that readily in your culture, you have to work it out in your mind, which is why I think meditation and therapy would be of value to you.  You need to learn to stop judging yourself for things you haven't done.  You're human.  It's okay to not be perfect, you can work on that.  Why wouldn't you expect your Dad to look at women?  Again, he's human.  It's what we do.  We have lots and lots of thoughts.  So far you haven't acted in a way that would be troublesome, as you explain it here.  Are you considering entering into an actual relationship with an actual human being?  At a point where, if you're following cultural norms, marriage might be pursued?  Again, at some point, suppression of normal urges (consensual, consensual) can make us nuts.  Don't let it go any further, seek knowledge and help.  Peace.
973741 tn?1342346373
I would say a strong desire and interest is normal.  Actually doing it ---  reaching out and touching people that have not asked is not.   Hope life turns out for you to be such that you can have a healthy sex life with a regular partner (as in a wife). good luck
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