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Feel like I have to pee-when I don't
I have developed a problem where when in certain situations-particularly ones where I either can not leave, or would feel rude or uncomfortable leaving (ie: on the bus, in class, in a meeting) I start to feel like I have to pee. It is completely in my head-when I go to the bathroom I don't actually have to pee. I also normally go 4-5 hours without peeing when I don't think of the problem. Ie: I recently went on vacation and not once on the vacation did I have this problem-sometimes we'd be out hiking for 5 hours, I'd be drinking throughout the hike, and still not feel this way.
It has begun to seriously interfere with my life. I feel worried to apply for any job where I may have to attend meetings. I am frightened of going on the bus. I feel uncomfortable throughout my lectures in school and can't concentrate.
I went to see a therapist a while back who told me it sounded like an anxiety disorder. So I started researching anxiety and started doing daily exersize, breathing techniques, progressive muscle relaxation, etc. It helped IMMENSLY and I thought i was cured.
Now it has started to come back and it is happening in more and more situations. I'm confused because I don't feel stressed or under anxiety-everything else in my life is going well. So I'm reluctant to take medication for anxiety. When I am at home, or when I'm hanging out with my partner, it never happens. If for whatever reason I forget about it-it doesn't happen. But it seems that its become such a problem that as soon as I sit down on the bus, for example, I start thinking about it and worrying about it and I can't stop.
I try to distract myself by reading, calling people from my cell phone, but no matter how hard I try, I can't stop thinking about it.
ANY HELP??????
It has begun to seriously interfere with my life. I feel worried to apply for any job where I may have to attend meetings. I am frightened of going on the bus. I feel uncomfortable throughout my lectures in school and can't concentrate.
I went to see a therapist a while back who told me it sounded like an anxiety disorder. So I started researching anxiety and started doing daily exersize, breathing techniques, progressive muscle relaxation, etc. It helped IMMENSLY and I thought i was cured.
Now it has started to come back and it is happening in more and more situations. I'm confused because I don't feel stressed or under anxiety-everything else in my life is going well. So I'm reluctant to take medication for anxiety. When I am at home, or when I'm hanging out with my partner, it never happens. If for whatever reason I forget about it-it doesn't happen. But it seems that its become such a problem that as soon as I sit down on the bus, for example, I start thinking about it and worrying about it and I can't stop.
I try to distract myself by reading, calling people from my cell phone, but no matter how hard I try, I can't stop thinking about it.
ANY HELP??????
Hi everyone. I know this is an old thread but it's worth it to put my experiences on the table.
I first had this happen to me when I was 15/16 a few months before my school GCSE exams. It was a horrible feeling just being in a huge hall with loads of people and tables. I asked if I could do mine in a classroom where other students who had issues did there's. However it was too late. I never went during an exam but other people did. I just couldn't handle the thought of everyone thinking oh look at him, can't not wait for an hour and a half ect.
After that it continued into college where I only knew one person. It was embarrassing, I would go before class, break, lunch, break and after class. My friends latched on and said I used to 'disappear'. I used to use some excuse but I'm pretty sure they knew. had in that time been to the doctors and urologist. After 4-5 months I think it was it just disappeared. It just vanished. I was free. I was able to enjoy my life.
However it came back out of no where for the last few years when I was serving as a Cadet. We used to go on duties and practice marching be on parade every week. I don't know how I coped. The worst thing which I always dredded was Poppy Day on Sunday. Where all the local cadets units from the city army, police, navy ect would all match in the street and then stand for an hour service and then March back. On top of that I became the head cadet too which meant that I had too stand in front off all the other cadets and give orders. I was close to quiting but I only had a few months service left until I turned 18.
Again it vanished until a year later when me and my family went on holiday to wales. We live south of London on the coast so the journey was going to be 4-5 hours by car. Again I was dredding it and this toilet in my head issue had come back shortly before I knew. I was okay going there, we stopped twice, coming back I had to ask my dad to pull off at the next motorway to junction as I couldn't bare it any longer. Whilst we were there it wasn't as bad as It had been. Aroynd that time I'd also got a job in my local shop and being stuck behind a counter was not nice. My boss never knew but I did have to sneak to the toilet quite often.
Again it went quiet somehow and I was able to live my life. I became an assistant manager for the British Red Cross and was able to work on the till on my own sometimes for hours on end. Sometimes up to 7 hours without ever needing to go.
Now just recently I've changed jobs and its back again. I'm now a traffic warden walking on the best for 8 hours a day. As I said It had been quite for almost a year and a half. I could last like any other person. The training was fine. It was a week in a classroom. On my first day on the beat heading to work It came back. I couldn't believe it. It was so bad that I had to get off the bus early. It was so bad that I even asked the driver if he could open the doors at the red lights. I thought I was actually going to pee. I didn't. I was fine. I managed to walk to the closet toilet and get to work. I though it was bad then, I could last 2 hours max with my trainer. She was a women so she always went when I did most of the time. I was with her for 2 weeks and a few times I had to go and use the toilet at a mechanics and a cafe. I'm now solo currently on my own doing the beat. I'm able to relax a little more. But it's just made it worse. I feel like I have to go every 30 minutes. Thankfully there are a number of public toilets but it's really embarrassing having to go back again and again. I've been to the doctor again who said it's most likely the stress of starting a new job. So after a month now I'm still waiting for it to calm and go away again.
Lastly on top of that I have my driving test in a few days time. I have to last for an hour at most without going. My driving lessons are two hours normally and it's embarrassing and a nightmare. I feel better when I'm driving though as I know I can pull over when the urge is too bad. I recently told my instructor and he's really nice about it. Because it's so bad at the moment, the worst it's ever been I've actually told my family for the first time. I've also bought 1 pack of adult 'special' underwear. I'm inly going to use 1 for my driving test. I won't probably use it but it'll help me relax and keep my mind off of it. I won't wear then again though because I feel it will just make it worse.
Overall so far it's been on and off coming at me once a year for a few months. Things that have helped though are slim. Wearing cycling/running shorts seen to help a little though as they make it tighter. I will tell you if I ever find a cure but the only one I know if is time. There's nothing you can really do. Just relax. You know it's in your head. I've never had an accident. I won't either. When I feel like I'm really busting I'll get to the toilet, un-zip and then have to stand there for a few minutes usually before anything happens.
Good luck everyone, you many look around and think how can I be the only one this way but you're not.
Have faith :)
I first had this happen to me when I was 15/16 a few months before my school GCSE exams. It was a horrible feeling just being in a huge hall with loads of people and tables. I asked if I could do mine in a classroom where other students who had issues did there's. However it was too late. I never went during an exam but other people did. I just couldn't handle the thought of everyone thinking oh look at him, can't not wait for an hour and a half ect.
After that it continued into college where I only knew one person. It was embarrassing, I would go before class, break, lunch, break and after class. My friends latched on and said I used to 'disappear'. I used to use some excuse but I'm pretty sure they knew. had in that time been to the doctors and urologist. After 4-5 months I think it was it just disappeared. It just vanished. I was free. I was able to enjoy my life.
However it came back out of no where for the last few years when I was serving as a Cadet. We used to go on duties and practice marching be on parade every week. I don't know how I coped. The worst thing which I always dredded was Poppy Day on Sunday. Where all the local cadets units from the city army, police, navy ect would all match in the street and then stand for an hour service and then March back. On top of that I became the head cadet too which meant that I had too stand in front off all the other cadets and give orders. I was close to quiting but I only had a few months service left until I turned 18.
Again it vanished until a year later when me and my family went on holiday to wales. We live south of London on the coast so the journey was going to be 4-5 hours by car. Again I was dredding it and this toilet in my head issue had come back shortly before I knew. I was okay going there, we stopped twice, coming back I had to ask my dad to pull off at the next motorway to junction as I couldn't bare it any longer. Whilst we were there it wasn't as bad as It had been. Aroynd that time I'd also got a job in my local shop and being stuck behind a counter was not nice. My boss never knew but I did have to sneak to the toilet quite often.
Again it went quiet somehow and I was able to live my life. I became an assistant manager for the British Red Cross and was able to work on the till on my own sometimes for hours on end. Sometimes up to 7 hours without ever needing to go.
Now just recently I've changed jobs and its back again. I'm now a traffic warden walking on the best for 8 hours a day. As I said It had been quite for almost a year and a half. I could last like any other person. The training was fine. It was a week in a classroom. On my first day on the beat heading to work It came back. I couldn't believe it. It was so bad that I had to get off the bus early. It was so bad that I even asked the driver if he could open the doors at the red lights. I thought I was actually going to pee. I didn't. I was fine. I managed to walk to the closet toilet and get to work. I though it was bad then, I could last 2 hours max with my trainer. She was a women so she always went when I did most of the time. I was with her for 2 weeks and a few times I had to go and use the toilet at a mechanics and a cafe. I'm now solo currently on my own doing the beat. I'm able to relax a little more. But it's just made it worse. I feel like I have to go every 30 minutes. Thankfully there are a number of public toilets but it's really embarrassing having to go back again and again. I've been to the doctor again who said it's most likely the stress of starting a new job. So after a month now I'm still waiting for it to calm and go away again.
Lastly on top of that I have my driving test in a few days time. I have to last for an hour at most without going. My driving lessons are two hours normally and it's embarrassing and a nightmare. I feel better when I'm driving though as I know I can pull over when the urge is too bad. I recently told my instructor and he's really nice about it. Because it's so bad at the moment, the worst it's ever been I've actually told my family for the first time. I've also bought 1 pack of adult 'special' underwear. I'm inly going to use 1 for my driving test. I won't probably use it but it'll help me relax and keep my mind off of it. I won't wear then again though because I feel it will just make it worse.
Overall so far it's been on and off coming at me once a year for a few months. Things that have helped though are slim. Wearing cycling/running shorts seen to help a little though as they make it tighter. I will tell you if I ever find a cure but the only one I know if is time. There's nothing you can really do. Just relax. You know it's in your head. I've never had an accident. I won't either. When I feel like I'm really busting I'll get to the toilet, un-zip and then have to stand there for a few minutes usually before anything happens.
Good luck everyone, you many look around and think how can I be the only one this way but you're not.
Have faith :)
I got this when I was 15 during my first shroom high. I thought I totally soaked myself and ****** up my brain so I was the only one with this problem. The school year went by and it got worse throughout. Especially during tests and movies or times I had to sit for awhile. Road trips also suck. Idk what to do because its crazy bad like u wouldn't believe. I don't get it at home but it literally has made my life only about that. No one had any clue I am experiencing this condition because idk what to say it is. I want to diagnose it then treat it on my own without anyone knowing. Super embarrassing. I'd get stabbed again if it made the issue go away honestly. Anyone found a cure PLEASE HELP!!!!!
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Did you find a cure for it? Help me,
All: I love you All! I feel that is important! And it IS!. Having been here before, love and understanding is a BIG part! BUT YOU HAVE TO WORK THIS OUT FOR YOURSELF! And YOU do! I've had roughly 5 years break from this and YOU CAN do this too, as I can again! - I WILL do this again - I WILL GO MORE THAN 5 MINUTES OUTSIDE WITHOUT WANTING TO PEE!!!!!
I hope you are still here! I had this exact same thing about 14 years ago and it has just started again for me. It is frustrating at the very most and I totally understand the 'enough!' stage of it! It's OK to say 'distracting yourself' helps and it does! But it is a totally different thing doing it in practice. I wish I had the answer as I have been here before, going to the doctor didn't help me - it took a bad patch and coming out the other side! to help BUT there is nothing like that going on now, so why am I going through it again?! I'm going to try positive thinking - I am fine, there is nothing wrong with me - I can do this and so much more! Fingers crossed XXX
I am 15 and I've had this problem for almost a year. It started in an assembly in the first week of school for absolutely no reason, and caused a panic attack which soon became a regular thing. I thought I had a UTI, so I went to get tested but there was nothing. At first it was just at school, then it was also public places, now it's at home as well. Also, sometimes now I actually do have to pee. This is ruining my life and making me depressed, I've tried to kill myself because of this and the depression it causes. I'm terrified about my GCSEs, because what if I need to pee during an exam? How can I go to Uni, or get a job? I don't see the point in living, and I know that sounds dramatic, but I can't even leave my house.
I can't remember the last time I left the house not to go to school. I can't remember what it felt like to not feel like this. I can't explain it to friends because it's humiliating.
I really don't want to take medication, but I will if there's no other option. I've tried therapy but it wasn't for me. Anyone with an experience of hypnotherapy or even staying in an inpatient, because I'll do anything to fix this.
I can't remember the last time I left the house not to go to school. I can't remember what it felt like to not feel like this. I can't explain it to friends because it's humiliating.
I really don't want to take medication, but I will if there's no other option. I've tried therapy but it wasn't for me. Anyone with an experience of hypnotherapy or even staying in an inpatient, because I'll do anything to fix this.
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