Hi there. I came across this post and although not a regular in this forum, I couldn't help but see if I can't offer some support.
I know you are doing all you can to treat your illness, and I commend you for that. I cannot imagine that dealing with an illness such as yours, combined with single motherhood and extreme worry for your daughter can be easy. It sounds like you are a much stronger person then you give yourself credit for.
I am in Canada, and I know our medical system is quite similar to yours. So, you do not have the worry about paying for your daughters surgeries, etc. correct? Thank God for that. It sounds to me like the biggest challenge right now is in getting her to her very important appointments and medical visits, and with her father threatening to not help anymore, that will leave you in a very bad spot. Am I reading that correctly?
If social services cannot assist in getting her there, may I suggest contacting some of the local charities and organizations? Most of them have what's referred to as Outreach, and can often assist with transportation for those that cannot take care of it themselves. They can also often provide both emotional, and if necessary, financial support. I work for one of them here in Canada and we are often able to help out where social services leave off.
As for the counseling. I have anxiety, and I know what it is like to wait to get into a therapist. However, your GP can prescribe medication, and perhaps is knowledgable to begin by prescribing something that may help in the meantime. And once again, you may find some of the local charitable organizations can help. The one I work for has therapists, medical staff, etc. and work with many families and people in your situation. I did that, and am now in therapy, so am working through my anxiety from both sides. Once you are feeling a bit better, it is amazing how much clearer solutions can become. But trying to deal with all of this at once must be totally overwhelming.
Again, I am in Canada, so I know our medical system is not exactly the same, but I do believe it is similar. I hope maybe even one of my comments is helpful, and will also keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. I wish all of you well. Take care.
I just had one other thought for you. Here, we can go into Urgent Care or the Emergency Room for mental health crisis as well. I believe that you can as well. That might be an option for you? It just sounds like you are in crisis and they are a great resource. Again, best of luck to you.
Hiya adgal, thank-you so much for replying. yes you got most of that right. Plus you have been of great help cause even though i have searched to get help it has all been through the council and i didnt extend my search to local charities, i totally missed that boat so thank-you, i will have a look and see if anything comes up. I'll phone the Samaritians and Salvation Army for one to see if they have any numbers and the disability helpline too. Im sure there are far more.
Thank-you so much for taking the time to give me a great idea, i now have a little glimspe of hope again that there must be someone out there to help....... God bless you!
Peace n light