Wellbutrin is one that typically has the "less weight gain" appeal (in fact many lose weight on it), but many complain of the jitters and insomnia with Wellbutrin. I didn't like because it made me nervous and gave me palpitations (skipped heart beats). Lexapro was the exact oppostite (felt like I'd been tranqulized). Prozac made me feel car sick, but I didn't gain weight on it - lost weight in fact. If you do go on an anti-anxiety like Valium, Xanax, Ativan, those are very effective for anxiety but can have tolerance / dependence issues. Buspar is much less likely to have tolerance issues and is effective for many.
lol on the wine. Yep, it always seemed to help when I used to drink.
I was on Effexor XR for many months and did not gain any weight.
I have been "doing" paxil and buspar for a long time now. I do struggle with weight occasionally, but if I continue to eat healthy and not "gorge" myself I stay at a good weight.
If I can give my honest opinion, I would DEFINITELY choose my meds over my weight anyday! If the med worked, I would just get more exercise and eat less to maintain a good weight.
I would suggest that you USE WHAT WORKS! Not all meds work the same.
Just my 2 cents!