Thank you for your responses. It does help to know that there are people out there that do listen and that do care.
I am exhausted when I wake up from sleep and am exhausted all day. Everything irritates me. I really feel alone but reading what you wonderful people have said to me do make me feel like I do belong in the human race. Thank you. I'll keep trying to do my best to practice self care.
That is so much to deal with. Feeling like everything is dependent on you can be crushing pressure! I'm so sorry you have this all as your own burden to carry. And I know taking care of our parents is the right thing to do but you need respite care! Who can you get to help you? Do you belong to a church? Can you ask for someone to step in and be at your place with her even if just for a couple of hours? Hire someone? Ask a family member? You have to feel like you can get out occasionally.
Being hyper responsible is something I suffer too. Like if I'm not there to take care of it, it won't happen or it won't be good. sometimes I have to let go. I would never do anything to jeopardize my kids but I cut myself slack. So what if dinner is slopped together? If a room is messy? I'm doing the best I can. So, cut some corners for yourself where you can.
We're here to help and I hope your appointment to get an antidepressant goes well! hugs
Thank you Paxiled I will be on an antidepressant next month although I don't know which one yet. Perhaps that will help. You're right I have a negative mindset and I need to change how I see things and how I react to situations and people. I need to work on that.
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You don't mention being in therapy and you don't mention taking an antidepressant. I know there are people who control their panic with benzos, but benzos are always short term treatments, and the more you repeat them you become addicted to the drug and you'll probably keep needing to take more and more of it. Therapy might fix the problem altogether, and in my own experience, antidepressants if you're going to take on the problems of meds work all the time when they work, not just for a short duration. As to taking care of your mother, for an anxious person there is always something in life that will bite you. Many find being caretakers stressful, others find it incredibly rewarding. It depends on their internal makeup and what else they're giving up to do it. You can choose to make it rewarding or you can choose to make it a burden, if you try hard enough, but when you suffer anxiety the tendency is to be negative about things. It is the nature of the illness.