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997670 tn?1297173071

Is this an anti choice site. I notice none has had abortion. for any anxiety disorders

I've been read  this site and it seems as though everyone is religious. I am not. do i fit in here.  I had an abortion in my youth.  I had extreme panic ocd and depression and was taking valium.  i made some tough choices. this website has made me feel alone.
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I have to admit i am a christian and i hold strong views on religion but i am sorry that the people you have come across have rubbed this in your face cause i think this approach is wrong and just pushes people away.... i don't believe in this.  Each person holds their own morals and values and who is another to push their views on you.

When you made the decision to have your Abortion you must of done this for a VERY GOOD reason.  Please please don't forget why you decided that a baby at that time was not the right time for you.  I myself have had an abortion and from time to time i wonder 'what if', but then i remember why i did it and i focus on this. It is an extremely hard decision to of made and these people who are anti-abortion really don't help the situation for many of women who are or have been in your situation.  

You didn't murder your child, women who abort don't murder their children..... really think about this, these anti-abortionists don't take into consideration that bringing ALL children conceived into the world may just cause alot more pain, suffering and torment for everyone in the situation.... forget them!!!! don't let it shake you.... they hold their views and we holds ours......



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I sighned Michelle my name i,nstead of chelley_1 on my very long post  acouple of minutes ago.
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Thanks for all your support.  Nora you are right in Nortern and western  europe this is not such a controversal issue,  canada also it is not.  I just wanted ro clarify a little bit more because someone was confused about whether I have ocd.  I do .I have mostly obsessions with mental ritulas and some physical.  one of my rituals is needing reassurance and checking the internet.  I realize that the internet is full o f anti choice sites.  all the best docs have diagnosed me. when I said I had no help, I meant with this particular obsession.,  I did stop rituals of checking computer, and that helped this obsession alot.  When I was young before computers,  I would go to book stores to get reassurance about my symtoms, and i would confess, and Make up counting and time rituals .  I would also make up problen solving senerios in my head.  did all of that.  
I never krew that all the mental stuff I was doing was compulsions to relieve anxiety. I thought every thing was an obsession . I mets omeone on the ocd website with the same obsession after her abortion,  The reason it is ocd and not something else,  is because of the repetivness, The fact that it was the billboard that triggered me, and all the problem solving, and doing things like drawing pics on the shower wall with my fingers to try to remember the size and what it looked like on the sonogram.  My doc sent me for a sonogram because he thought I was ectopic.  I am on prozac and effexor and a small dose of clonipin which I am trying to wean off.  the reason I got all upset, was because i was reading posts of women who were pregnant and staying on their meds.  I suppose Im jealous because back in the seventies they didn't have a diagnosis no meds except valium.  When i stopped valium to protect fetus, I practically became phsycotic,  I went thru hell, not only did I have valium withdrawel, but had all the anxiety and ocd back with no releif.   as i said earlier my husband was an addict and spent all our money on drugs,  when I asked him for 200 for the abortion, he said he didnt have it, and would have it next week.  I knew that would never happen,  and I knew that it would be immoral to let a fetus grow inside me ,knowing I was going to abort.  I would not have that.  i called my dad and he wired me the money.
           After the abortion I was greatly relieved .no guilt or sadness, I could work on geeting well and leave him.  I know i have written a book here, but wanted to set the whole record straight.  then sixteen years later i saw the billbard and the thought that I killed a child, scarred me and stuck,  I had just started prozac and was relieved of my other scarry thoughts.  Because I am so sensitive, this one stuck hard.  This has been carthartic and thanks for listening.  What i do now when any thoughts pop in, about this is say, this is my ocd, and refrain from problem solving,   thank-you Michelle from florida.
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Well Paxiled, there is a HUGE difference in what means you're using when you're trying to "convince" someone that you're right about something. That has nothing to do with freedom of speech at all when you spew your hatred at others. Information and discussion is something different.

I'm not too fond of fundamentalism in the question of abortion or any other topic for that matter. Fundmantalists don't only want to convince people but they also have their not to subtle agendas of wanting to make people feel bad.

Oh and no (wo)man is an island by the way..

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On a more practical level, the term OCD is used very loosely both on this forum and by psychiatrists.  You only have OCD if you have both obsessive thoughts and compulsive actions, such as repeated and obsessive washing of hands.  If all you have are obsessive thoughts, you just suffer from anxiety or depression of OCD.  The reason this matters is psychiatrists and psychologists will often try to define an illness for reasons of getting paid by an insurance company bureaucracy, but when it comes to medication, problems can arise, since some medications are approved specifically for OCD but if you really don't have it you might be on the wrong med.  Same with therapy -- you can waste a lot of time working on OCD if you don't actually have it.

As for the billboards, the nation is involved in a very political and moral battle over abortion, and everyone, pro and con, has the right to express their opinion and try to convince you they're right.  Your obligation is to be strong enough with your own ego to not let that disrupt your life, and to fight back as a citizen.  But it sounds like you feel insecure, that you're letting others define how you're supposed to feel.  That's common with anxiety sufferers and people who suffer depression -- it's part of our illness.  It's something to work on in therapy, for all of us, so we don't feel so insecure.
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Doubled headed coin in many ways. You feel guilt for what you did. And you hate those who tell you that you did wrong. Would that be correct so far? Can only add what others have said. You are your own person. You have reasons for your own actions. If you are happy with your reasons then nobody has the right to tell you otherwise. But here is where your conflict comes into play. Now you are wondering where your reasons right? So without others telling you that you were wrong, you feel a touch a guilt about the whole thing. Which is caused by your ocd? Just seeing have I got this straight in my own head. That ocd been about harming a child. To which you now think you may have done by doing what you done. I will leave this as it is for now. until you read it. Then you can correct any parts that are wrong and give us the full picture. I am just reading what I can from what you have posted.
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