Nauseous around girlfriend, please help!

[puckhound95]

I've researched this before, but have found no one in the exact same situation as myself. I have been dating my girlfriend for almost 14 months and we are madly in love. Ever since we first started dating, I have felt nauseous around her, throwing up a lot of the time. I used to think i was nervous, but it cant be the case because im more comfortable around her than anyone else I know. It used to be only after I ate dinner with her and eventually built up until I vomited. Now it has gotten bad enough that i start to feel it before I eat, during, and especially after. A few months ago it went away for several weeks and it seemed promising, but then it suddenly came back. Its not bad enough that its affecting my daily life whenever I think about her. Ive lost a lot of my appetite and just feel tired all the time. I believe it is fully mental because if I distract myself, it goes away, but I want to be able to relax with her and not have this happen. We have already had sex, and i love her with everything I am. Im not saying its a definite thing, but I wouldn't mind marrying her someday. Im open to any suggestions, except medication and therapy, so please try to help. Thanks in advance for any help!  

[dude1735]

this happens to me alot. i noticed it didnt really happen when i had a normal sleep schedule. but after going to sleep at 5 am waking up around 3pm i always feel like this when shes around

[dude1735]

But after reading all this it seems like the only way to fix it is to break up an i dont wanna do that. we have been together for a year and its been like this for about 4 months

[Paxiled]

You don't say why you changed to your current schedule, but solid relationships are full of adaptations because our lives aren't only lived within the relationship, we also have lots of other things going on such as school, work, etc.  If you changed your schedule due to work, it may be your circadian rhythms are screwed up.  That may resolve over time as you get used to it, or it may never resolve and this schedule will always be hard on you.  If you changed it for other reasons, it's not working for you, so if you're able, you need to get back to a schedule that doesn't mess you us like this.  But again, if work made this necessary, life is what it is and relationships either are strong and adapt or they are weak and don't, in which case it would have ended at some point anyway, but it does seem extreme to have such a change in your personality because you changed your sleep schedule in regard to your girlfriend.  Anything else going on?

[specialmom]

Hi dude1735.  You suffer anxiety?  My son literally throws up when he is hit with a bout of anxiety.   Your blood sugar could be off from the altered sleep schedule and that will make you nauseated.  If your current schedule of sleep doesn't really work and you do better else wise, could you change this up?  Is it for your job that you have the 5 am to 3 pm sleep time?  

[Axel_Thrust]

I’ve been having a similar problem. Every time I go to see my girlfriend I get unbelievably nauseous to the point where I can’t even actually spend time with her. To avoid vomiting I usually fall asleep, so it became a habit and I end up doing it accidentally when we’re together. And when I wake up I gotta head home. I live an hour away and I’ll feel fine for the most part the whole way down there. But as soon as she gets in the car I start feeling nauseous and it keeps getting worse till I fall asleep. These past few times right when I was leaving I threw up before I could even get to my car. I have back problems in my pelvis, middle back, and in my neck bones. The bones are miss aligned and it pinches my nerves. Since the nerves in my middle back are connected directly to my stomach, and the nerves in my neck are connected to everything in my body, including my stomach, I figured it was just that. But it’s gotta be something else considering it happens every single time without fail these days. I have been going to the chiropractor for adjusting, and I make sure I’ve eaten enough so I don’t get nauseous from an empty stomach. But it doesn’t seem to be helping. I love her so much and she’s always so excited to see me, only to be met with disappointment due to my nausea. I just wanna be able to actually spend time with her again, and was hoping to see if other people experience this too, and possibly find a solution  

[Paxiled]

It's not pinched nerves, and  the nerves in your back don't actually affect your digestive system in that way.  They can affect the bladder, but if it was from that it wouldn't only bother you when you go see your girlfriend, so it's something about seeing your girlfriend that is doing it if that's the only time this happens.  Probably nerves about seeing her, but there's a chance she wears some kind of perfume or clothing that you're very sensitive to.  I'm guessing it's nerves.  Do other things make you anxious?

[specialmom]

Wow, ya.  I'm surprised she's still meeting up with you if you are seeing her, feeling sick and sleeping during most of your date!  What about changing up the routine?  Have her come to your place?  Go somewhere and meet?  How did you meet her?  Are you nervous around her?

[questions_12345]

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[Stevenstamkosssssss]

Yo I'm 14 and my girlfriend went to touch me and kiss me and this stuff happens to me... We had just finished eating and I had to tell her that if be right back and so I went to the bathroom and threw up. This happens a lot and she just things I need to adjust my boner but ya idk what the problem is and it's driving me crazy. Obviously we haven't had sex but we do kiss a lot and i really want her to kiss me.

[et123456]

i am having the exact same troubles. only until recently when we gointo town  for a meal i suddenly lose my appetite even though i am very hungry. this is really affecting our relationship and yesterday, she said she feels less sexually attracted to me, but still loves me and just wants things to be how they were.. the problem is i cant go back to the way things were because i was stoned a nd drunk everyday for eight years. now she feels like she is going out with a person she cant go out and have fun with. i feel like i cant control these nauseous feelings.. its so frustrating. i just want to go get pissed    again so i can feel comfortable enough to eat around her  but i cant because of my medication. very depressing.. i love her so much but i feel if i cant man up and be the sexy, exciting person she fell in love  with(i'e, the stoner me) she/we may have to move on. **** YOU STOMACH

[puckhound95]

Can anyone else help?

[Life360_Dave]

I think you got it figured out. Putting something in your mouth triggers it, Happens to people who brush their teeth also. There is an association with the back of the throat and the stomach. Something like a natural way to prevent chocking. Its like a mechinism and can be habit forming.
good luck and maybe eat more soup when your with her!!!!!

[puckhound95]

It all started after I ate dinner with her one night and I feel like my mind just links eating with her to throwing up and I can't break the habit. Other than not seeing her all the time, there is nothing wrong with my relationship. We plan on going to the same college and hopefully getting married. I've literally talked with her about everything so I think the problem only lies in my brain. I believe my exact problem is that I worry about throwing up and that makes it worse. If i don't think about it, it's not existent. It's never that bad until I starting thinking and worrying about throwing up, then it gets to the point that I actually do. I think i just need a way to replace that worry with something else or convince myself ill be fine. Getting fresh air, calming myself, and distracting myself usually works

[Life360_Dave]

Your a  very sensitve person and perhaps you see the two of you not getting married as you do differnt stuff in life and the thought of it makes you sick to your stomach.
I was with a girl like that once, and was always guessing, the guessing also made my stomach in knots which very easily could have led to vomiting.
Your vomiting has to do with your relationship with her. You know better than us what the problem is as we can only touch on what we think, not knowing the two of you.
Why do you think your vomiting, just stop for a moment and give it some realistic thoughts, holding nothing back,?

[puckhound95]

I think you just read into my wording. I sure as hell want to marry her and we talked about this before, but I don't know if it will be possible if we do different stuff in life

[Life360_Dave]

Hi and welcome, This is only my opinion from what you have posted.
Vomiting can be habit forming and your mind will make a body signal to vomit. It becomes automatic when the same incident comes up. I think your under alot of stress with this relationship and you have mixed feelings. You say you love her madly, then you say you wouldnt mind marrying her some day. Madly in love people want to get marred, not "wouldnt mind".
I think she is madly in love with you but you not with her. Knowing she is madly in love with you is an ego trip and you are confusing the word love. This is putting stress on you psycologicly. Your taking all that love from her and in a sence leading her on. Its guilt that is making you vomit.
Correcly me im wrong but thats what is see.

[puckhound95]

To add something, my gf lives 30 min away so I only see her about twice a week